How can a woman move on with her life after splitting up with the man that she has an 18 month old son with and is 7 months pregnant from him. Things are not working out and the verbal abuse is constant. I am afraid! Any advice or help???
2006-10-09 13:36:32 · 18 answers · asked by Jersey Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While it will be the most difficult thing that you have ever had to do, you have to leave him for the sake of the children. You do not want your children to grow up and think that verbal abuse is normal in a relationship.
You owe it to yourself and to your children to be in a loving environment.
My heart goes out to you. I have been there and while it wasn't easy, I look at my son everyday and feel grateful.
Best of luck to you. Rely on friends and family to get you through the rough patches. See a therapist if you need to.
2006-10-09 13:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you move on with your life? Therapy, family/friend support and a good lawyer to work out the financial part. Be strong, not bitter. Make peace with your past and with the father of your children so your new child comes into a world where his immediate family is not in chaos.....
You will heal - just keep the children at the top of your priority list and make sure they are not verbally abused by this man either.
Good Luck!
2006-10-09 20:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if the verbal abuse is constant even when you are 7 months pregnant, what do you think it will be like when you are not? If anything he should be spoiling you in your condition and reassuring you. If you are afraid of him, then that's the sign to go. Don't drag your children into the abuse, think of them first!! Would you let him treat your babies like that?
I dated a man for 2 years who was mentally & emotionally abusive. He never changed. My only regret is that I didn't listen to my friends sooner and leave.
2006-10-09 20:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by catwoman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure it's not just the hormones talking then you really need to get out before it is more than just verbal abuse. You need to find some one to talk to about this. Find a counselor or a preacher either one will help.
2006-10-09 20:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you need to grow up... and if the verbal abuse is mainly from him, i think you should leave then have his baby and he`ll realize if not then then hes just a loser it takes a strong man to be there And NOT MANY MEN ARE so i would just listen to your intuition
your not happy what makes you think your gonna be later
leave him.... gosh some men are just pigs youll find some one better his loss!!!!
2006-10-09 21:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by honeybuzz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a Protection From Abuse immediately if he is bothering you. You want to make sure you and your child(ren) are safe. You don't have to put up with crap like that. There are men out there that would love to have you and your family. Give it some time. Get out and make some friends anywhere but a bar!! There are always men at the park, the grocery store, church, a friend's friend...
2006-10-09 20:43:24 · answer #6 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just concentrate on how bad life would be if you stayed with him, imagine the abuse getting worse, getting physical.
You will end up with more children than you can handle and you are going to have such a miserable life and your children will suffer if you stay with him.
Think about these things everytime you are tempted to go back.
2006-10-09 20:41:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that any women can live with out a man and if he can see what he gots then he dose not deserve you and you should move on with your life and find some one that truly cares because hes not gonna stop the abuse that's the way relationships are
2006-10-09 20:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by alfonso g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have family around that could help out? Also, join a parent group so the kids have some friends to play with.
It'll be OK, put your kids first for a while and don't jump into another relationship for a while.
2006-10-09 20:39:39 · answer #9 · answered by Whoa_Phat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your local welfare office, and apply. You might try a woman's shelter, if the baby's father is verbally abusing you. Usually they have counselors in the shelter who will help you with your problems.
2006-10-09 20:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋