I know he says he never really loved her and that she disgusts him but he hates talking about her and their relationship AT ALL because he says he hates his past and his decision to marry her in the first place. Still, it seems like he could talk canditly about it, I have talked to him about relatiosnhips I have hated. Just think its wierd. maybe a guy thing?
2006-10-09 13:01:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you, all very good answers and you are all right!
2006-10-09 13:20:43 · update #1
personally, I dont like to discuss my romantic past with what I hope is my romantic future
2006-10-09 13:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by dwayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend did the same thing to me and I soon found out it was a guy thing. Its a guy thing. Men are not so easy to open up about past experiences because it tend to bring back memories that they wish they never had. Sooner or later he will open up to you about it and really talk to you. The memories probably hurt him so that hes afraid that you will look at him differently if he told you what happened or how it started. And when he tell you, he will probably ask when hes done if you hate him because of what happened. Thats what my boyfriend did to me and he might do the same.
2006-10-09 13:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have five ex-wives. That is what they are ex's. Maybe there are some bad memories that he just does not want to recall. An ex is a thing of the past, let it go and be happy with what you have
2006-10-09 13:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Roper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a guy thing. My husband never talks about his past relationships and I don't ask about it. The way I see it, it doesn't really matter. Past is past.
Just realize he is with u now and that's all that matters.
2006-10-09 13:51:29 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I married my present husband, I told him he could ask any questions about my first marriage for one day only. Then the subject was closed forever. I was a time in my life I do not like reliving, perhaps he feels the same. Let it go.
2006-10-09 13:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we tend to feel the hurt for years after a break-up. i don't talk about my ex in front of my wife and i get uncomfortable if she is mentioned in conversation. Because there are still scars and pain there I just would rather forget and not deal with. that's the honest answer.
2006-10-09 13:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is a guy thing guys don't wnt to bring his ex up cause he doesn't want to remenber the things he loved about her and he mught compare her to you and he loves you too much to have to do that so he does not want to remember that so he does not want to not live you anymore or have to go through what you have. plus everytime you try to bring it up he might think you want to know how come what did he do that went wrong adn he thinks that you might not like him because of what he did or something oyu hate about him and you have the same thing so he does not what you to know that is the reason she broke up woht him or divorced him!
2006-10-09 13:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems a bit weird my hubby talked about his ex wife but maybe she did something really bad that he just wants to forget or maybe he's hiding something who knows good luck trying to work it out
2006-10-09 13:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he knows women; They beg for an answer, and then get terribly hurt, or angry, when they get one they don't like!
I think you ought to let a sleeping dog lie. As Dr. Phil would say, "you don't have a dog in that fight"!
2006-10-09 13:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a smart husband. Why would he want to bring up past pain - either for himself or you? Why are you interested if you know it would hurt him? This isn't a gender issue - this is who needs this and why?
2006-10-09 13:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh give me a break, he married her because he loved her, and if he was over her, whe wouldn`t still be so mad, which is what it sounds like to me, he don`t want to talk about it because it hurts to much, I would bet my last dollar that men, NEVER get over theri first wife, because that is the marriage that God honors, and its in the hearts of the men and women, they know this, Divorce is like a death, and you never get over it.
2006-10-09 13:26:11 · answer #11 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋