Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2006

2006-10-05 19:27:31 · 23 answers · asked by bobbie jo 1

I WAS MARRIED TO MY EX HUSBAND FOR 28 YEARS BEFORE WE GOT DIVORCED, CAN I GET A WIDOW PENSION? I AM 55 YEARS OLD.

2006-10-05 19:26:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Every time our mortgage payment comes due, my husband has a fit. He works construction, he's a pot head, he had a very strong protective instinct for his family, likes to plan family trips...just trying to say both good things and bad. He smokes pot often with his buddies at my house, we have a two story so I stay with the kids upstairs, we are up here reading, watching family movies, while downstairs it's a different world. This is how it is almost everyday in my life. Today we argued about the mortgage because he hasn't been working that much due to lack of work at his job, but he had managed to get some side work, so he's made extra money there which he treats as seperate. He doesn't feel that he should give me extra money because i have a new job and make enough money to fill in his gaps. The money he made he wants to spend it on marijuana, how should I react to that?

2006-10-05 19:21:44 · 10 answers · asked by E! 3

Okay heres whats going on when me and my husband first started going out everything was great but then i got pregnant right away. Well during my whole pregnancy everything ws fine also it was great even, it was like nothing changed. We were making love many times a day, but after i had our daughter everything changed. I tried to keep things as they were before i had her and continue to take care of our daughter, it was really frusturating. We kept getting into bigger arguements and stuff started falling apart. But the things we argured about were silly, i just wanted hinm to show me more affection. But when i realized he wasn't going to show anymore i gave up. Months went by and we were happy or could i say he was happy. But lately i have been feeling like i don't want to be with him anymore, because of all the horrible things he has said to me and done to me. We rarely make love anymore, i try to spice things up but he doesn't want it when i want it only when he does. Whats wrong here

2006-10-05 19:19:49 · 12 answers · asked by foeversexygirl 2

2006-10-05 19:12:43 · 22 answers · asked by bobbie jo 1

hi i like to download some nursery rhymes for my son (free downloads).if it is animated it would be good(audio and video).pls suggest some websites

2006-10-05 19:07:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

What did you do? & why?

2006-10-05 19:05:43 · 12 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1

2006-10-05 18:56:42 · 16 answers · asked by President 1

I like this dark and charming girl who happens to be my colleague. The thing is, I want to propose her but she is a non-veg eater and I, not. Would it be a bone of contention, 'cause I dont want non-veg in my home. Can it be sorted out?

2006-10-05 18:56:19 · 12 answers · asked by helloall 1

My wife compares my doodle with a sewing needle. Why does she do this?

2006-10-05 18:53:48 · 8 answers · asked by Eaglesrule 1

what are the signs of depression?

2006-10-05 18:49:37 · 20 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1

2006-10-05 18:43:39 · 16 answers · asked by west 2

my hubby got married in 2001 and for the first year it was all good but then it just went down hill i found pictures of him and this other girl that was not so good he really never tells me that he loves him never tell me that i am doing a good job raising our kids but at the same time he never say anything bad to me .he never gets me anything never takes me out .i get him cards take him out for his b day i do everything for him what else can i do for this navy man? ps i found our land and now working on getting our house buit and i also sold our hose that we had i love him so much but i am at that end i want a man to tell me i am good looking to tell me i am doing a great job! yes we have talked about this before and it didnt help i need help what should i do we have 3 kids here i know i need to do what is best for them too

2006-10-05 18:41:36 · 9 answers · asked by Christine M 2

My hubby has cheated 3 times, lied to me, left me three times, and always comes home, and treats me like ****, he always calls me a *****, but have stopped, but if i do something wrong he will do it again. he asked like i dont do anything for him, i cook, clean, do his laundry do EVERYTHING for him, take care of our daughter. I take her to school, and when he is out of cigarettes, i go buy them at the store.
I feel so unapperciated by him, he does kiss me, but he hardly has sex with me, we can only have sex on certain days, and when that day comes around he just goes to bed. i dont know what to do in this marriage, we just got back together in may. We dont argue, but we really dont have anything to talk about. he just sits and watches tv. he only wants sex when he wants it, not when i do., i give him bjs and he refused to go down on me.. i just hate this crap.what should i do? or advices.

2006-10-05 18:33:41 · 16 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1

How about if you tell your boyfriend(fiance) that you didnt want to watch porn becuase it made you think about the porn and not him? Would that make him mad? But what if you didnt want to watch it for the very reason that it is bad for you becuase you feel that you will become addicted? How about if it made him so mad that he thinks that it is effecting the relationship in a bad way? What should i do when i love him so much and want to be honest about the way i feel about something without trying to hurt his feelings?

2006-10-05 18:31:08 · 16 answers · asked by Zinnia 2

What can I do if my kids "dad" refused to take them to soccer games & activites on his visitation weekends?
We had worked out schedules for the last 5 years & now that he has a girlfriend he had hired a lawyer to enforse our court ordered visitation. It is the basic, 1st3rd&5th weekend & every Wednesday during school. He has never picked them up on a Wed & only picks them up on the weekends when it works with his schedule.
Now the kids have started soccer & have games on the weekends. He had them last weekend & took them to their practices & games.
This weekend he is refusing to take them to their games this Sat & in 2 weeks. He is upset b/c I will not let him pick the kids up early & take them out of school on Friday to go to the state fair. The kids want to go to their games & called him BUT he said NO!They will miss 2 of the next 3 games
I will be in contempt of court if the kids are not ready to go at 6pm on Fri BUT nothing happens to him when he doesnt show...what can I do?

2006-10-05 18:25:25 · 8 answers · asked by dfwMOM 1

We have been together for 8 years and 4 kids. We have had or ups and downs and right now is a real big down. We recently spilt up for a little over a month and while we split he got a cell and has started texting two "women" from work all of the time. He says they are all just good friends, but I found out from his phone that they all went out golfing together and he said it was with his uncle. He know always erases all the history of calls and texts from his phone because he knows I will check. He said deal with it, I said no woman would want to hang out with a male that has a wife and kids. You just don't do it. Am I right?

2006-10-05 18:25:01 · 13 answers · asked by shabuandshabu 2

say he was hurt real bad like from fighting and he messed up his back and couldnt support you and your kids anymore,would you leave him or stay with him??? why or why not???

2006-10-05 18:04:29 · 22 answers · asked by disciple 1

I've married for 4 and half yrs, I and my husband knew each other for 6 yrs. Last yr I having affair w/ a married guy who was my ex-manager. However, I just broke up the relationship w/ him. Cause I knew, he will not divorce w/ his wife because of me.
I've no idea whether I love the guy or not. But I was w/ him because he's a guy that who has experience (he's only 5 yr senior than me) and adviseable when I doubt in some circumstances.
I knew this kind of man is who I looking for as a life partner. Whereby my husband is a boring man. Do doubt, he's a good husband. But I really feel bore with him.
I keep asking myself, if I still w/ my husband, will I regret if I've only 3 months life time? The answer is yes. However, I've no better choice than him for currently, that's why I still with him.
My friend advised me to give my husband a chance, in order for him to change his character. Since he's a really good husband. I try to accept her advise, but in deep of my heart refuse so.

2006-10-05 17:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by sam2vt 1

My husband and I have been married for three years. I was a bisexual female before I got married but now I am not. I still have the desires and the dreams to be with a woman. He thinks it is disgusting. Am I wrong???

2006-10-05 17:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by jessica h 2

2006-10-05 17:54:35 · 6 answers · asked by thelma_shane 2

I have a friend,his name is james,he is married among four years including this year.He is my classmate when I am study in primary school.He ever love me that time,but I refuse because I like another guy(he is my boy friend now),he too liberate me and wish my love.We have contact until now.The girl that he had married is my friend,her name is Jessy.Jessy love him very much.James accept her love when I refuse his love,but he tell me that he too has a good feeling to Jessy,he say he will try to love her after marriage.He too protecting Jessy very much.After four years,now James told me he is not love Jessy anymore.I angry then I ask him,what the reason and in the four years is he never been try to love her?He answer me he try to love her but he can't,he afraid what will happened so he try to resist until now. He telling Jessy that the problem,but Jessy not understand,she said she will suicide.What can I do to advice James for not to divorced Jessy?

2006-10-05 17:32:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex wife and I got divorced 4 years ago. And we were only out of contact for the first couple of months after that we worked our way back to talking everyday sometimes twice a day. That is up until this last June, now we talk occasionally but it is rare. And everytime we talk she ends up pretty upset because there is so much emotion between us. She tells me she loves me and cares about me. But the reason we got the divorce was because I had a long term affair. She said tonight that when we got the divorce that a part of her died and a door closed. And in these last 4 years even though we have grown closer then we married she hasn't been able to open that door back up and thinks we are better off apart. And can't decide if being friends which hurts is less of a hurt then going our own way. She is seeing someone but still tells me how much she loves me. I don't push just want her to be happy, even if that is without me. I know what I feel and I can't stop loving her.

2006-10-05 17:32:26 · 13 answers · asked by tattooed_and_pierced_countryboy 2

I never had an actual girlfriend till I was 19. Before that I spent all my time at the brothels. Now that I'm 21 and actually trying to date real women, I find that they are so much more complicated. I so wish I could go back to that, but I think I've used all my luck up considering I still havent caught any dieseases. Why are real women so hard to figure out????????

2006-10-05 17:31:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

what happened.

Did she choose you?

Did you choose her?

Are you still married?

Did you marry your lover?

Did it blow up in your face?

2006-10-05 17:25:32 · 10 answers · asked by Tian 3

My son is 36 years old, and he wants to have his own child. He is going through a divorce, and I told him that he would meet someone that can have a child with him.
He tells me that he is too old to have a kid. He has been married twice and both ladies had kids when he married them, and their tubes were tied.
I know if he could find the right lady to have a kid with, he would be the happiest man ever.
Do you think he is too old to be a father?

2006-10-05 17:16:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for four years, and have a great sex life. My husband agrees, but there is one problem. He loves porno and I simply hate it. He asks of me to be the perfect woman and cook and clean and I do. He is into church and wants me to be that perfect woman in the bible. So why cant he stop looking at porn. This is a bad thing to do? In the bible it says right? I have caught him lots of times and he only apologizes and says he loves me.
He has a myspace account and lists himself as single. He gets a lot of invites to view by cam online? Should I worry? He swears to me that he will never cheat on me. I am stressed and almost thinking of divorce. He knows it hurts me but he doesnt stop.

2006-10-05 17:09:00 · 26 answers · asked by tinkerbell 1

I have asked him back several times & he keeps telling me no. Why do I put myself through this?? It was a 22 yr. marriage. I left him because he popped pills & drank. I had to leave. Why can't I get him off my mind. I've made such a fool of myself by asking him back. HELP!!

2006-10-05 17:08:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i get kinda jelouse of my girlfriends friends and i say some mean things about them because i dont like them she wants me to be less judgmental and tonight she got realy upset and walked out of my house and went home and doesnt want me to be around or atleast treat her as my girlfriend for a few days. this happens sometimes but not under these circumstances. i want her to be happy again and want to work out our problems but i know i should give her space. but i want to say sorry and have it have meaning i appologize for alot of things and i dont want this to seem like just any old sorry. does anyone know how i can say sorry in a way that will make her know i realy mean sorry and that i had no intent of hurting her. anything i can think of will just make her mad and i fu*k up a lot so i want this to mean it. our 3rd annaversary is coming up on the 11th and i am broke so i cant just take her out but i want her to be happy even if i cant do anything. suggestions please and real answers!!!

2006-10-05 17:05:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have just finished giving birth to my son who is just 1 month and 3 weeks old. I do not know if its my "mother figure" or my current appareance that is making my husband lies to me about his female co-workers.

My husband and I had a huge fight about this girl named Winnie (who interned at his workplace) 2 weeks before I went into labor. He called her a lot (although each phone call only lasted a few minutes) and he emailed her saying stuff about his likings and he wishes they can keep in touch. He got mad at me for looking through his email account and phone. I only did it is because he was acting a little weird.

Until now, he still talks to Winnie. He said she was hired for the weekened (my hubby works on weekend too) and then got fired recently. Now, my hubby is talking to another girl named Sara who is working on the weekend too.

Tonight, I missed my hubby call. When I got a chance to call him back, it went straight to voice mail. I called him 4 times.

2006-10-05 17:05:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous