We have been together for 8 years and 4 kids. We have had or ups and downs and right now is a real big down. We recently spilt up for a little over a month and while we split he got a cell and has started texting two "women" from work all of the time. He says they are all just good friends, but I found out from his phone that they all went out golfing together and he said it was with his uncle. He know always erases all the history of calls and texts from his phone because he knows I will check. He said deal with it, I said no woman would want to hang out with a male that has a wife and kids. You just don't do it. Am I right?
2006-10-05 18:25:01 · 13 answers · asked by shabuandshabu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We split up for over a month and have been back together for about 2 months.
2006-10-05 18:32:53 · update #1
There are a lot of women who don't care if the man is married and has a flock of kids. And if you are split up, why are you checking his phone? My advice to the two of you is to decide whether or not you are going to work on the marriage or go your separate ways. No texting, calling, etc. until that decision is made.
2006-10-05 18:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my hb text a married n pregnant woman at work all the time and tell me she is his buddy. Well, I started checking his messages one fine day and monitored for a month. guess what?
he hve an affair for 6 mths and when I confronted him with the evidence he still want to say that the messages are just jokes and they are just friends!
Lots of woman out there don't share the kind of values u do. If he is acting screative and if you feel something is not right, then you might want to do some fact finding ...hire a PI or something.
2006-10-06 01:33:34 · answer #2 · answered by peaceful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is wrong for any woman to get involved, especially sexually, despite knowing he's married with kids. There are many reasons why people stray after marriage. It's very heart-breaking indeed for a faithful person to put up his or her spouse's unfaithfulness. Especially if that faithful spouse is putting up with her husband's philandering ways for the sake of the children. She doesn't want the children to grow up in a broken family. All communication channels between you and your hubby need to remain open.
2006-10-06 01:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by chuamike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen...there will always be women that will go for a married man. They are out there. The question is weather you husband will return the attention. I have to say that most men will at some point...but it is him you must question not weather or not there are women that will go after married men. Those women are here to stay...is your husband??
2006-10-06 01:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is erasing messages, then obviously he has something to hide, and you need to take it seriously.
The other "women" he is hanging out with may not know that he is married with a family?
I have dealt with this before, and believe me he's up to something!
2006-10-06 01:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you cant believe him. And yes there's women who'd use him.
I'd show him how to DEAL WITH IT. And he can DEAL with your attny! He has 4 children to support. His comment is BS! Stop checking on him and what he does. He apparantly doesnt care, and you shouldnt either. He's a loser!
2006-10-06 01:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
serves you right for prying on his phone then bein a jealous wife , he didnt tell you about the golf cause he knew what your reaction would be
2006-10-06 02:41:16 · answer #7 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl! Wake up!! He lie to you!! he is not trust worthy. He is cheating on you!! Get ready to face any thing serious very soon. Better will be if you act first ...
2006-10-06 01:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by mswathi1025 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is NO.
And I didn't even need to read the whole question.
2006-10-06 01:27:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter if you choose to believe him or not, he's not a good husband.
2006-10-06 01:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋