My husband and I have been married for three years. I was a bisexual female before I got married but now I am not. I still have the desires and the dreams to be with a woman. He thinks it is disgusting. Am I wrong???
2006-10-05 17:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by jessica h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you still have "desires", then you are still "bi". Disgusting??? Nahhh.....Just let him watch.
If he's not into THAT, just let ME watch! I happen to LOVE it!
2006-10-05 17:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not disgusting but I hope your husband knew of your choices before you made such a commitment to him as marriage? I would think that you could talk him into a threesome if you were willing to share that with him... a lot of guys fantasize about being with two women- it could be the best way for you to include him and satisfy your desires as well. Just remember that if you have sex with a woman on the sly it is still cheating. There is nothing at all wrong with your dreams or desires... we all dream about things that we would probably never do... Good Luck.
2006-10-06 01:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desires are a normal part of life. You should not be ashamed of them. But desires also have a purpose in our lives. Your desire for a woman can be directed to your husband. Use those desires to better your sex life together. Tell him why you like having sex with a female. How can he stimulate you the same way. Most guys will be open to giving you pleasure the way you like it if you will just tell them what you want and need
2006-10-06 01:01:02 · answer #3 · answered by fatboylikesfood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural for him to think it's disgusting that you have that desires as he is not a bisexual. I believe u need more time to "totally" get out of those desires and u must tell yourself u need to! In future, u need not tell yr husband that u still have that desires as he will not understand it. It's not that u are not truthful as it may lead to a gap between yr husband & u.
2006-10-06 01:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with having desires and dreams. He's acting out because what you are desiring is something he can NEVER provide for you. What would be disgusting is if you acted out on your desires. He's just being hurt and insecure. Let him know you have these desires but that you desire him more than anything else.
2006-10-06 00:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that makes it wrong is that you are now married to a man. Leave your old life behind and move forward, if you cannot then you need to leave your husband.
2006-10-06 00:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Val 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably is hurt in the same way you would feel hurt if he told you he was having sexual desire for someone else. Even though you are desiring the same sex, it still can feel like betrayal in a marriage.
2006-10-06 00:58:02 · answer #7 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a tough spot to be in between a rock and a hard place , i think you either be un happy always missing some thing , End up seperated and lonely , or you will need a man who understands you , I do not have a answer for you but i wish you the very best of luck , your going to need it
2006-10-06 03:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a lot of courage to make all the decisions you have; he has a lot of nerve to judge what goes on inside your head, that belongs to you my dear. I wouldn't tell him every little morsel of what you think, when you think it and save some of that private part of you just to yourself; its as if you are getting permission from him and you don't need it.
You will do well just keep going forward and down look down; remember, to thine own self be true!
2006-10-06 01:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't turn off your sexuality because your married and it doesn't just turn off like a tv ... he knew you were bi before you were married yet he married you ... so now he's acting like some one who closeted you ... i don't know if marriage is for you but your desires will always be there.
2006-10-06 00:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋