i get kinda jelouse of my girlfriends friends and i say some mean things about them because i dont like them she wants me to be less judgmental and tonight she got realy upset and walked out of my house and went home and doesnt want me to be around or atleast treat her as my girlfriend for a few days. this happens sometimes but not under these circumstances. i want her to be happy again and want to work out our problems but i know i should give her space. but i want to say sorry and have it have meaning i appologize for alot of things and i dont want this to seem like just any old sorry. does anyone know how i can say sorry in a way that will make her know i realy mean sorry and that i had no intent of hurting her. anything i can think of will just make her mad and i fu*k up a lot so i want this to mean it. our 3rd annaversary is coming up on the 11th and i am broke so i cant just take her out but i want her to be happy even if i cant do anything. suggestions please and real answers!!!
2006-10-05 17:05:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well good you wrote in honesty. Now I would go and have a talk with her and first let her know why you felt this way she may interupt and say i dont' want to hear it i alraedy now. Just say please hear me out. I've been giving this a lot of thought and thesse girls do certain things (insert here what ever it is that bothers you about them) and i don't want to lose you. but by the same token these are my fears and worrys I love you very much and I just dont' want what we have to be screwed up. Now I can see i really hurt your feelign that was not my intention . I love you I want you to be happy. So I will try and be more understanding towards them. But I will need help from you. I will still have questions when soemthing liek that comes up again and i would like us to talk about it. ( that way what ever worry's you may have she hears you out before hand and stops a big fight from happening down the road.)
Now for your 3 anniversary you said you have no money but still want her happy,. You can make her dinner inside your house its the thought that counts you know. add some nice candles nice music what ever you think she like you know your girlfriend best then you could have a nice bubble bath together or watch some thing you both like on tv. or even take her hand and give her a slow dance in your living room witha special song that youboth like or reminds you of each other..
All these things won't cost you money you can find these things all in your home. You can also go on the computer and print out a poem for her if she likes that. Or you can pick out a card or even make one yourself and present it to her the night you see her.
Its the thought men put into and the care they take for doing something it doesn't always have to be diamonds and trips.
Its what ever you can afford. She'll love you for the effort and the planning you put into it.
Enjoy and good luck..
2006-10-05 17:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, its real hard sometimes in these relationships; it sure can be puzzling. The way to show your girlfriend that you really mean "your sorry" is to give her the time she needs and then when you are together again, if you can't say something positive about the friends, don't say anything at all.
You should check yourself if it is jealousy, because that is a ugly thing to live in your personalty and will ruin so many opportunities and joys in your future.
Why not try finding something you could do as a group with friends and get to know these people, it would change the whole picture.
Good luck, you sound like a real kind and caring guy.
2006-10-06 00:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing says I'm sorry like SHOWING her that you are truly sorry. Since you funds are low, try to think of things that don't require a lot of money( walking in the park, etc.). Tell her you would like to take her to the park or an exclused place and talk. Communication is the best way. If she want talk to you then give her a little space. This may be hard but it works.
2006-10-06 00:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by mjt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she wants space so stay away but you could send her a card or letter with your heart felt apologies or even better have flowers delivered to her with a note saying how sorry you are.
Then stop and listen to what she said. Why are you so judgemental? Why don't you like her friends? Why do you have to let her know you do not like her friends and say mean things about them? Why are you a jerk? Think about it and then ask is she worth it to you to make some changes in yourself? If the answer is yes then do it make the necessary changes to your behavior and attitude, and she will see the changes in you.
2006-10-06 00:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say give her some time, and space, chill out for real dude. Give her some space. My hubby did the same thing to me this evening, he disrespects this one friend of mine and hates her guts, and does not try to hide it, he actually tries to defend the way he feels about her. Well I say, give your chick some space, and leave her friend the heck alone. She may be a b**** in your eyes but she is your girlz friend for a reason and you really need to respect that. That's what I told my hubby, and he said he would keep his fellings to himself from now on. If you love her you need to love everything about her including her friends. Good luck man!
2006-10-06 00:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww! she won't need any other proof of your genuine apology if she finds out you asked this question. I really don't know of a better way to proof to her how genuinely sorry you are than just give it a shot! Be sincere about it and let her know this is not like your usual apologies she's used to. If you're lucky she might let go and if not, sorry buddy you just have to let go until her anger subside. Then she'd come and find you.
2006-10-06 00:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by scooby doo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you get mad at her alot, and sorry wont work, even if you really meant it, but if you really love her you can change how you acted and show her your really trying. And that would have to include dealing with her friends.. you don't have to like them, just act as nice as you can to them, that would mean the world to her.. Your 3rd. Anniversary, with no money, do the candle and soft music, cook her dinner, really put you heart and soul into it. EVEN IF YOUR BROKE, that will work ...
2006-10-06 00:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by moonketcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly... I don't see how you can apologize sincerely and have her believe you if you aren't really sorry about what you did to upset her, only that she is upset.
You need to show her you can change your attitude and your jealous problems by ACTIONS, not words.
Whether you like her friends or not, a relationship is doomed when you have to give up parts of who you are to be with someone else... that includes giving up your friends and people you care about. She might do it to keep the peace with you, but she will resent it, and eventually it will cause problems.
If you want her to believe you are sorry, you need to learn to be accepting of her the way she is, including friends you don't like, and act mature... that is the only way she will be HAPPY in a relationship with you.
2006-10-06 00:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by baxterstuds 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How "Whipped " you are. Chicks flip out from time to time, with or without cause. If you go chasing and kissing A$$,you only encourage the behavior. I'd suggest you go earn some money buy a gift and "WAIT FOR HER TO COME BACK" This puts you in a position of power instead of her little "***** BOY"
2006-10-06 02:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Heres an idea, how about you write her a letter, I know, your thinking who the heck wants to write a letter, trust me, I am an expert on these kinds of things in my universe. Yeah I know, now you think I'm nuts. But that's OK because its not the first time nor will it be the last time I've been thought as such.
2006-10-06 01:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Miriam A. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋