My hubby has cheated 3 times, lied to me, left me three times, and always comes home, and treats me like ****, he always calls me a *****, but have stopped, but if i do something wrong he will do it again. he asked like i dont do anything for him, i cook, clean, do his laundry do EVERYTHING for him, take care of our daughter. I take her to school, and when he is out of cigarettes, i go buy them at the store.
I feel so unapperciated by him, he does kiss me, but he hardly has sex with me, we can only have sex on certain days, and when that day comes around he just goes to bed. i dont know what to do in this marriage, we just got back together in may. We dont argue, but we really dont have anything to talk about. he just sits and watches tv. he only wants sex when he wants it, not when i do., i give him bjs and he refused to go down on me.. i just hate this crap.what should i do? or advices.
2006-10-05 18:33:41 · 16 answers · asked by endless_eternity_forever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we just moved to different town, which was three hours away ,he doesnt have a girlfriend.
2006-10-05 18:45:15 · update #1
I am not sure why you are still with a man who is so disrespectful. The reason he isn't having sex with you is because he is getting it elsewhere. What makes a woman decide to take a man back after cheating 3 times and abandoning her and her family three times? I think the best thing for you to is to give one final time...GIVE UP on this relationship. It seems to bring more pain than happiness.
Best Wishes!
2006-10-05 18:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seriously have problems if you still asking for advice as what to do. I think you have the answer to your question already. Okay so you already point out all his flaws why are you with this man? Well he is to blame for what he does but I am afraid you are more to blame for staying with him. No woman ever deserve to be treated the way you do, and if you put it with him than it's your own fault! I may so harsh but isn't it true? Think about it if you husband loves you he wouldn't cheat,treats you like crap, and all that you have mentioned. You are letting him controlling your life and knowing that he can gives him the benefit of doubts. I seriously think you shall seek for help. Is it self -confident that you are lacking? IT makes me so angry just reading what you wrote.
This man is not the only man out there in this world. Leave him and work on your self confident. If you don't love yourself No one will love you. Don't worry about seeking for another man who will take care of you. You shall take care of what's important to you. If love does come in the future I congratulate you. IT is obvious you are in a very unhealthy relationship and if you continue on I know you will be hurt physically and mentally even more. You know deep down inside you don't deserve to be treated this way. If you want respect you gotta treat yourself with respect!!!!!
2006-10-05 18:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When are you going to get a life? We often make mistakes but we can clean up where we messed up. You are living your life according to his and it seems miserable. Everything you say is I whether you believe it or not the word I should let you know that you don't need him because you are already doing it yourself. He does not love you in the way that you need. This is not good for your daughter or yourself because you as a woman has to teach her to be a woman. I know you are a woman because your feeling are very mature. You have a immature person. It takes more than age to make an adult. Focus on yourself for once. let go and let GOD.
2006-10-05 18:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you started all this when you found out the first time he cheated you said it was OK, you cater to his every need, He is not the problem you are. You are a door mat, now you are complaining that people are walking all over you. You need help in the worst way. It is not right the way you are letting this pitiful excuse for a man to even be with in 50 miles of your house. Get help now
2006-10-05 19:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need Dr Laura real bad. She can set you straight and teach you how to take control of your life. Get to the library ASAP and read "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" you have the power to make it work unless he's beyond hope - if he is you will know READ THIS BOOK tomorrow!!!!!! and if you can find her show on am radio it will change your life - I promise
all you people who say to just leave him are clueless - they have a baby together, if she leaves him that baby will be spending time alone with this guy - how will she fell then? no dear, don't rush to divorce. read the book
2006-10-05 18:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by awf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left you once shame on him he left you twice shame on you. You should leave him for good and find someone that is going to treat you like you want to be treated. Why waste your time on a two timer. Why not get the love you deserve and desire. You need to learn to love yourself before you can love another.
2006-10-05 18:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop giving and not receiving for one .is he working? It sounds like he's just there. you need to dump him if he treats you like shi*. find someone that will treat you better.either you don't turn him on for some reason or he is getting sex somewhere else. stop giving bj's aparently he's getting off so he don't care if you do.if your not happy don't stay in the relationship, you deserve to be happy life is to short to put up with guys crap.
2006-10-05 18:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by smurfette_ftwayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 08:03:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it affects him that u choose days to have sex.... maybe he wants u on those days but u cannot (I dnt know ur reasons). I think u shud try to converse with him n try to find out wat he really wants n if he behaves rudely n does not reply to u, then u shud leave him to himself n waste ur energy on urself n ur daughter only.... Wen u neglect him n dnt do anything for him , then only he will feel ur need n come back...
2006-10-05 18:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i need a wife who will let me fool around as well as long as you give good head as w ell . but i will treat you nice
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2006-10-05 19:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋