How about if you tell your boyfriend(fiance) that you didnt want to watch porn becuase it made you think about the porn and not him? Would that make him mad? But what if you didnt want to watch it for the very reason that it is bad for you becuase you feel that you will become addicted? How about if it made him so mad that he thinks that it is effecting the relationship in a bad way? What should i do when i love him so much and want to be honest about the way i feel about something without trying to hurt his feelings?
2006-10-05 18:31:08 · 16 answers · asked by Zinnia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it's not. Some people watch porn for entertainment purposes, some are addicted to a fantasy that they can never have, while others don't find the entertainment in it or the purpose of watching it. It's like everything else, some do some don't, some will some won't. You have to see how it makes you feel if you are comfortable then go for it, if you aren't then walk away. I am not sure what the big fascination of watching someone else do things is anyway.
Best Wishes!!
2006-10-05 18:32:23 · answer #1 · answered by poetic princess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I are very open in our relationship, that's why we're so compatible. I enjoy watching porn, but it's only like a foreplay for him and I, and that's about it. Is it okay if he watches it on his own? I don't have a problem with it. We're open and honest to one another. We have extreme loyalty for one another. He respects me and I respect him. Some people like different things. Some women enjoy porn and some don't. Different strokes for different folks. You should sit down and be honest with him about your desires. If you don't want to watch porn, than don't. If he doesn't respect your wishes, than he's not your boyfriend that you thought you loved. He should respect you for the exact reasons you respect him. It's all about compromise. I think he would respect you if you told him your didn't want to watch porn, for the simple fact you wanted to be intimate with him and make love to him without having the porn in the back of your mind. I'm sure he would understand. I don't think you can be addicted to porn. If you're interested or curious, use it as a foreplay in the relationship, I find that very satisfying and healthy. You just need to explain to him exactly what you typed and be honest and communicate with one another. GL to you and your endeavors.
2006-10-06 02:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Sweetness572♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with watching porn,if you think about it while making love to your partner,nothing wrong with that either,it may even give you some ideals on how to keep the spice in you lovemaking.Now will it turn you into some kind of sex freak,only you can answer that.Could you have some secret desire that maybe brought out by watching porn? To that i say: To thy own self be true,Don't fight who you really are,if you truly want to be happy in life don't just be in it,live it.
2006-10-06 01:45:54 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with ksml75213. But I'd like to add that there are many different types of porn. Some porn is harder and cruder. Maybe you don't care for the more hardcore style your bf likes. Go to http://www.adameve.com/dvdvideo/couples-c-181.aspx and purchase a 'couples' video. You will most likely find it less crude and very stimulating. Try it, you just might like it!
2006-10-06 04:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont have honesty in a relationship then you have nothing at all if you cant tell him how exactly how you feel without him freaking out then maybe that isnt the right person for you. Your significant other should be your best friend above anything else and you should feel comfortable telling them anything without worrying about them freaking out or feeling differently towards you.
2006-10-06 01:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Twilla97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can not enforce his/her partner to do certain thing.. He must honor your freedom, likings and dislikings...
If you are avoiding watching it just because you fear that you would turn bad then this is wrong belief... it is definitely not advisable for children but for adult this perfectly normal and sometime this helps a couple to fetch some new charm in their sexual life...
But if you are not watching just because you dont want to then he should not force you... at the same time if he is interested to watch it you should let him...:=)
2006-10-06 03:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, porn is not for everybody. Just sit down with him and tell him honestly that you dislike it, that it does not do it for you, and that it makes you uncomfortable. If he really loves you and has respect for your feelings, he will understand and not push the matter.
2006-10-06 01:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by j3nny3lf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys enjoy porn, most women do not....
Men and Women have different brains...
Just tell him that it makes you less feminine to watch porn
and that you understand his enjoying it but do not wish to participate. You are ready, willing and eager to have sex with
him when he is finished watching the porn...
2006-10-06 02:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is addictive, it is NOT real. I think it would put a strain on a relationship because it does not leave two people to rely on eachother. I would stick to how you feel.
2006-10-06 01:34:46 · answer #9 · answered by Emily H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not for e/one. If you want to watch it, that is your choice.
If you dont want to watch it, that is again your choice. And you have a right to have a choice. If he gets mad at you for that, than he doesnt respect your wishes. And that is HIS problem, NOT yours. You have every right to express your opinion and desires.
Just as he does. But neither of you have the right to impose on the other, against one's wishes.
2006-10-06 01:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋