Marriage & Divorce - 5 October 2006

Does a divorce require both partners to agree to it?
Or can a woman divorce her husband even if her husband does not want to get divorced?
If so, how does she divorce him? My friend wants to divorce her husband, but her husband refuses to send her his marriage papers, and he says that if she divorces him he is going to hunt her down and spend the rest of his life torturing her.
She is really scared. I want to help her but I don't know what to do. Her husband sounds like a madman. (They dont live together right now.)

2006-10-05 08:53:44 · 20 answers · asked by worldpeace 4

I think usually when two people divorce they are both at fault.

Why do some people divorce and blame their ex for all the problems and the divorce?

For example, my husband's parents divorced after they were together for 10 years. His mother blames his father for EVERYTHING and accepts no responsiblity for their years of fighting and unhappiness that led to their divorce. I do not believe it was all his fault (btw: he didn't abuse her or cheat), I have witnessed her being heartless often to her own son! They are both responsible for letting their relationship turn to crap after only 2 years of marriage!

Don't you think accepting your own responsiblity would help you move on and be a better spouse when or if you ever marry again?

P.S. My mother-in-law hasn't had any good or lasting relationships since her divorce, but my father-in-law has!

2006-10-05 08:52:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-10-05 08:48:06 · 15 answers · asked by sueh1951 1

2006-10-05 08:47:38 · 14 answers · asked by teap360 1

2006-10-05 08:47:20 · 20 answers · asked by Tian 3

I've been married eight years, and haven't been attracted to my husband since a few months into it. We've argued and theorized and tried to figure out why over the years...now I've come to the conclusion that I just don't like who he is. We married so young and I didn't know what I wanted in a man. He treats me good, makes good money, loves me, and is very driven to achieve his goals. But he's been obviously unhappy our whole marriage, and he says it's because he hasn't reached the level of personal success he expected to. I'm happy with simple things, no "success" needed, and I despise him for not being the same. I can't make him happy, and I don't think this is something he can change, it's part of his personality. Am I an idiot for leaving a "good" thing because there's no passion? We've always been good friends. Does anyone think it's possible to get that passion back if you dislike someone's character? I will be going to therapy, but I am afraid my mind's made up...

2006-10-05 08:47:08 · 26 answers · asked by beanie 2

Long story short she had an affair and is now pregnant, child is probably not mine. Amazingly enough we have still mantained a sexual relationship. Was not planned kind of just happened. Has anyone remained having sex through a seperation? We both still have feelings about each other and she wants me back but what has happened is alot to handle.

2006-10-05 08:47:00 · 5 answers · asked by cheeks230 3

A man had a woman that he loved, he profess his love to her and his friends knew how he felt about her, but one day he married his baby's mama, whom he doesn't love and didn't want to be with. He's stayed married, but as his family and friends put it, he's not happy and spends no time with her at all. After the wedding a relative saw a wedding picture where he looked unhappy and mad, he told the relative that he wasn't happy then and he wasn't happy now. Why would he leave this woman that he loved to marry one that he didn't?

2006-10-05 08:38:12 · 14 answers · asked by Yolie 1

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2006-10-05 08:36:55 · 16 answers · asked by confusegirl 1

My husband makes me wear a chastity belt when he isn't around because he doesn't want me to be defiled by another man. I respect his decision but the problems come in when I need to change my tampon or pads when I am having my period. Sometimes I will have a "heavy" flow and want to change my tampon because I feel icky but I can't do it until he comes home. Sometimes that isn't until 7 p.m. or 8 p.m. I have asked if he would let me go without it during those days but he won't. Any ladies on here been in the same situation? Anybody have any ideas or solutions that would help?

2006-10-05 08:34:59 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

He won't give me any details. He's gonna show it to me when i fly to see him this weekend. I am not cheating and I don't go to clubs anymore. Should i even go see him, i feel so hurt. Not that he is questioning my whereabouts, but that he is acting like, AHA!!!, i got something on you but won't tell you anything 'til you come see me.??!?!?!?!?!? When i tried to ask more about it, he's like, Oh no @#$*($%^*%, you need to tell me what the (%^)$%^ is going on, not the other way around. I am confused cause I am not seeing anyone else, and i have no idea what pix he thinks he has. I don't know.

2006-10-05 08:34:39 · 17 answers · asked by yeouxleigh 2

I mean totally psycho calls and emails and stops by to say he loves you and wants you back and in the same breath says he hates you and calls me all kinds of names. I have tried to be polite I have tried to be rude I have agreed to everything I have fought about it now I am sick of it is there a way w/out changing my email or phone # to block him out or to get him off my back?? HELP I don't think I should have to change anything I didn't even break up w/him he freaked out on me and left and now that I have become happy w/out him and don't want him back he is pulling out all the stops to drive me nuts

2006-10-05 08:31:37 · 14 answers · asked by barbie89032 3

I'm 22. I've been in a relationship with a man 10 years older then me for 4 years now. I call him my Mr. Big (sex & the city) To sum it up, I met him when I was 18 & he 28, I was involved in a relationship and eventually ended that relationship to be with the older man. Well over the last 3 years my ex consistantly harrassed my Mr. Big therefore Big was always keeping his distance from me. Well. He & I both obtained restraining orders against my ex & are continuing our friendship & it is getting stronger everyday. It's been over 4 years since we met & we were on such an emotional rollercoaster for a lot of it. We both love each other, & when we hang out we still kiss, cuddle, & we used to have sex, but lately he's been really stressed, he just made the SWAT team and has been in training a lot. and we're now on a 4 month dry spell. BIGGEST question is that do men @this age stick around with a girl that they have a serious history with if they only want to use her, or this more?

2006-10-05 08:30:01 · 3 answers · asked by andy l 1

My husband and his friend/coworker have many conversations about me and his co worker has asked him if he can have me when my husband dies and my husband said yes-and doesn't seem to be bothered by the fact that this other man idolizes me and tells others about how hot I am in front of my husband. Should I be concerned??

2006-10-05 08:26:52 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

First, let me preface this. I love the series. But my Ex-s boyfriend let my 9 year old watch the whole series while he was with them. (We have 50/50 custody). I think it's way too grown up for a 9 year old. And of course my son is delighted he got to see it. I don't want my son not to tell me what's going on, but I don't know what my options are. So, what do you think?

2006-10-05 08:26:47 · 5 answers · asked by Sad-Dad 3

My husband & I are seperated and going to court for divorce and custody issues. He's fighting it all the way. He just wants to have control over my life, even though he has a new woman and child now. How is the best way to deal with someone who's just hurtful and dishonest? And yes, I tried to move. The courts are making me move back until all legal issues are resolved, which could take at least a year.

2006-10-05 08:26:26 · 5 answers · asked by lalenalanielle 1

I met my ex husband here in miami and we were together for 6yrs.and we finally got and divorce but just a couple of days ago he found me and now we are talking on the phone every night now for 4 days.Long conversations about old times,laughing at each other and talking about all kinds of things.i'm wondering should i give him another chance or not,because he asked me will i remarry him again.He wants me back so what should i do.
PLEASE HELP!!!

2006-10-05 08:25:25 · 29 answers · asked by thickness 1

My fiancee and I have been together 4 years, always splitting the bills evenly even though he makes more than me. Now we have a baby boy and I can't afford to give him all my money cause of our new baby expenses. He thinks I should find another job but I work at the baby's daycare with great hours and ok pay but a great discount on child care. Is he wrong for charging me? Or am I wrong for thinking a man should do anything he can to take care of his family?

2006-10-05 08:24:18 · 22 answers · asked by Amy Rie 1

We have been married for almost two years . We dont always see things each others way . He dosen't want to agree to disagree....... I love him what do i do ???????????

2006-10-05 08:23:03 · 21 answers · asked by teap360 1

My husband (of 2 years) bought a house right when we started dating 5 years ago. When I moved in 3 years we split everything 50/50 including his mortgage payments. I was even putting an additional $1,000 towards the monthly payments. We also have done a lot of home improvements.

My name has never been on the title because 1) I never pressured him to add me. 2) To prove to his horrid mother I wasn’t marry him for his house (she even demanded a pre-nup, hubby said no) 3) I figured it didn’t matter anyways since we married

I found out the house is considered separate property and will have to go through probate (I asked 2 lawyers). His mother now says that if he dies she plans to kick me out and fight the courts for ownership or part-ownership. She said if we divorce she will make sure me and our future children move out since it is her son's house only.

Our house is almost paid off. My husband said he will add me as owner asap if I want him to.

Should I have him do it?

2006-10-05 08:22:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

our anniversary? Doesn't he know forgetting either one can get him seriouly injured?!

2006-10-05 08:20:13 · 22 answers · asked by Lesley C 3

would u plz tell me a girl likes a beachlor man or married man ?ifu r ans is beachlor tell me why mostly actresses marry with that men who already married?????????? why????????????????

2006-10-05 08:15:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married and am talking to another man. I wouldn't say I love this man, but I do care about him and we like to spend time together. He knows I am married but he is still interested in me. My marriage has been very rocky for the last couple of years and it helped to have someone to talk to. My husband just found out about this other man and although he was very upset he is now trying to work things out and work through the problems we have had leading to this. He has been telling me how much he loves me and doing things he used to do when we fell in love. I see that he is making an effort and that means a lot to me, but I can't feel that passion and love within myself. Should I stick it out and wait to see if things truly work out and those feelings return or should I tell him I don't feel those feelings anymore?

2006-10-05 08:13:11 · 7 answers · asked by Wondering 1

He has been taking equity loans to pay bills in house and plenty of spending money.His income doesn't cover his exspences, he is short about 1000.00 a month. With my entire income things would be plenty for us to live on. But I don't feel comfortable with a prenup, and giving all my money. Please give some imput.

2006-10-05 08:00:02 · 17 answers · asked by hdredrose 1

I am soo frustrated. My Husband has a low sex drive, and I feel like crap because of it. There have been times when its not bad, around 5 or 6 times a month, which I can deal with, that would be great, but then we can go once a month or less. We had sex last on Sept 23, and we are 'supposed' to be trying for a baby. I ovulate this weekend and I know we are going to have sex this weekend, but I wanted a little action this morning, got shot down. Its always only when he feels like it. NOthing I can do will turn him on unless he is in the mood. I have tried various lingerea, sent him underwear pics of myself(I am attractive so thats not it) I am getting so angry about it, I just layed down with him to nap(he is on nights) and I had to get up because I was just getting soooo mad. Why can't he put forth more of an effort. I try to be considerate of his drive, and try not to bug him too much, but where is the comprimise on the other side. HOw do I get him to step it up!!!??

2006-10-05 07:59:27 · 21 answers · asked by shrimpseys 4

his sister and her hasband are very controlling and are just worried that they won't be able to control the money, me and my boyfriend don't care if thay continue to control the money. We discussed with them the marriage and they were all for it, but we had to go to probate court to get the courts permission, and they told us to write a letter and that we had to serve the guardins and let them know, they didn't say anything, then the next day, they came to the house with there own letter, saying no, tha that they decided against it, basically cause they will loose there control then.

2006-10-05 07:54:41 · 13 answers · asked by little T 1

He is a wonderful man who supports me in every way but I seem to screw up everything. I feel like he would be better off without me. Should I tell him I want a divorce?

2006-10-05 07:52:43 · 38 answers · asked by Amberlina 2

I had a dream I was married to Tom Welling. The thing is, me and my husband have been watching a lot of old episodes of Smallville lately so I'm thinking it's probably related to that. Should I tell my husband or should I just let it be? Because, it's just a dream, right?

2006-10-05 07:46:05 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

What on earth should I do....been dragged the through court system in scotland and thankfully won residency with ex getting contact. he has since threatened again to go for more contact and residency... He now wants to try mediation to sort out what is best for our son... My gut instinct is that he is only trying to point score for when he goes back to court... anyone know that if I back out now would it leave me in a bad light in the court... He has pulled all the stunts that anyone could so far

2006-10-05 07:45:19 · 7 answers · asked by hottytotty566 2

I am almost 30 years old with 2 daughters and have recently met the man I have comvinced myself did not exist. I love him, in love with him and will be beside him no matter what. He has a few legal problems and has been oin rehab and clean for a year. I am currently living at home (mom and dads) but we have the desire to go ahead and marry, and to keep it to ourselves until our court issues are over..I also have a child support/custody case that has been going on for over a year and is about over..HELP!!

2006-10-05 07:42:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous