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He is a wonderful man who supports me in every way but I seem to screw up everything. I feel like he would be better off without me. Should I tell him I want a divorce?

2006-10-05 07:52:43 · 38 answers · asked by Amberlina 2 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

38 answers

hey,
if he really does love you then he will love you for your mistakes too...not just what you do right. at one point in my relationship i felt the same way then i realized that he loves me for me. if your husband doesnt love you enough to stay with you, through it all and the mistakes then he would have left by now.....he wouldnt b there.....as long as you two love each other you'll be fine.... and no you shouldnt tell him you want a divorce unless you absolutely want one....other wise i say good luck and you two have a happy life together.

2006-10-05 07:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by hot12flirt 3 · 0 0

So you have a wonderful man who supports you in every way and the only thing you can come up with is how to humiliate and hurt him by saying you want a divorce????
Why not strive to be a better wife? Why not work to improve your faults? Why not work on not screwing up and become better?

2006-10-05 07:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't divorce that poor man who loves you soo much.. What you need to do is get urself together and stop screwing up - realize what u have and hold on to it. A lot of people (like myself) are looking for what u have so be good. Now if you don't love him or don't want to be with him anymore then thats a different story and maybe you should leave him but other than that don't be so hard on urself, you do deserve him!

2006-10-05 07:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Thang 6 · 1 0

Why? Why would you leave a man who loves you just for who you are? Has he ever said what a screw up you are? You sound like you need some confidence. You should see a shrink. The Dr. could get you straighten out quicker than you might think. Go get some help. You deserve happiness.

2006-10-05 07:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0 0

NOOOOOO!!!! You do not want a divorce. Be grateful you have such a good man because they are very rare. He obviously loves you and wants to be with you so that should tell you something. I used to feel the same way. My hubby is patient, tolerant, does everything he can think of to make me happy. I felt like I screwed things up a lot, too, but that's because you may be trying to hard. Just let the niceness come naturally and it'l be easier as you go. I constantly say the wrong thing, it's just part of my crappy nature, so I apologize to him every time, "you know what baby, you're right, you're not a jerk, I just said it because I'm bummed that I don't get to see you as much as I would like, and I took my anger out on you, I take it back," or "I'm sorry I got mad at you for making me bring your cell charge to your work, and then blamed you for wasting my time. You work hard and we are in this marriage together, I should be glad I could be there for you when you needed me, I'm sorry, I love you.". He apreciates me more now because I'm willing to take blame for my mistakes. Plus, he apologizes when he makes mistakes to. By doing so, we fight less, and i feel better about our relationship because, I'm doing things for him in turn, instead of him taking the brunt of everything. So what if you said the wrong thing, apologize and move on. Also, it made me feel so good that now I feel like I contribute emotional support to our relationship as well. We both openly admit where we overly spend, instead of placing blame,we're both guilty so there's no sence in denying it, and work to meet each other in the middle on it. I do other things for him, like cook awsome meals, bake him cakes, cookies, brownies, Make him guacamole, and such. To see the happiness i give him makes me feel so good I want to do it more. It's just a matter of the right motivation. CHIN UP, GOOD LUCK, and I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF!!!

2006-10-05 08:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by afafae25 4 · 2 0

Don't you think you'd be better off working on yourself so your not a screw up, instead of breaking up a good marriage with a good man?

You know, a good marriage is hard to come by.

Seek counseling first, before you ruin a good man.

2006-10-05 07:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0 0

You know my wife is divorcing me cause she feels the same way as you do, I don't want your husband to have to feel the pain that I have had too so this is my advice to you.

You should get into counseling because you obviously have some issues inside of you that are causing you to continue your destructive behavior. You are hurting yourself, your marriage, and you will hurt your husband - you need to get help and deal with whatever is inside of you. You love your husband and he loves you. You owe it to BOTH of you to seek some answers to help you with this situation.

Love is wanting the best for your spouse and sacrificing whatever is necessary to make sure your spouse is content and happy. Love is companionship, friendship, staying the course during the tough times, patience, gentleness, understanding, sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice, unconditional. If you are uncertain about how to love him, get into a Bible based marriage counseling situation. This is what you & your husband desever to and from eachother.

GOD Bless you, and good luck!!!

2006-10-05 08:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1 0

he's a wonderful man to you...but yet you seem to screw up...you know so what everyone screws up..and if he is willing to stay with you and love you no matter how much you screw up then why would you want a divorce? that boggles my mind

2006-10-05 07:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by mouseymom24 1 · 0 0

A wonderful man is hard! I don't understand why you think the way you do. If he's going to be there when you think you're screwing up everything, then he's going to be there when it starts getting better. He loves YOU!

2006-10-05 07:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0 1

I felt the same way. Don't throw away a great guy for insecurities. Every woman deserves a good man

2006-10-05 07:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by grrl 7 · 1 0

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