I'm 22. I've been in a relationship with a man 10 years older then me for 4 years now. I call him my Mr. Big (sex & the city) To sum it up, I met him when I was 18 & he 28, I was involved in a relationship and eventually ended that relationship to be with the older man. Well over the last 3 years my ex consistantly harrassed my Mr. Big therefore Big was always keeping his distance from me. Well. He & I both obtained restraining orders against my ex & are continuing our friendship & it is getting stronger everyday. It's been over 4 years since we met & we were on such an emotional rollercoaster for a lot of it. We both love each other, & when we hang out we still kiss, cuddle, & we used to have sex, but lately he's been really stressed, he just made the SWAT team and has been in training a lot. and we're now on a 4 month dry spell. BIGGEST question is that do men @this age stick around with a girl that they have a serious history with if they only want to use her, or this more?
2006-10-05 08:30:01 · 3 answers · asked by andy l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well- ask yourself this question-- despite the problems you've both gone through these past couple of years- si the love still there? there's no reason why the sex should change if you love each other?? how much longer do you plan on staying with this guy if he won't commit to you?? It hink you're wasting your time with this guy. You should move on with your life. IF you';ve been through alot of problems sicne the first few months into teh relationship- you should clear your life of any more stress and move on. People in the SWAT are very busy people. Now that he's made it- he's gonna be working long hours and you will not see him as much. Is that what you want?? think about it! talk to him about how you feel. Don't get amy more involved and let 2-3 years more pass by and just be his little GF for ever. It gets old after a while. He needs to commit to you or nothing. Life is tou short, too great for you to waste it with someone who won't take you serious.
2006-10-05 08:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by mari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to answer. I'm a retired LEO, and spent most of my life, in law enforcement. If you are ready for him to be on the job, over family holidays, weekends, and all the times that you'd really want him home, than stay with him. He has a commitment to his job, and to his team members. If you can not accept this, then you had best move on, if you can accept this, then you will wind up with one of the best husbands, in the world. You both have gone through a lot in the relationship, both good and bad. Now you have to make your own decision.
2006-10-05 15:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to generalize all men together. It depends on how he and you feel about each other. Talk to him to find out how he really feels.
2006-10-05 15:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋