I think usually when two people divorce they are both at fault.
Why do some people divorce and blame their ex for all the problems and the divorce?
For example, my husband's parents divorced after they were together for 10 years. His mother blames his father for EVERYTHING and accepts no responsiblity for their years of fighting and unhappiness that led to their divorce. I do not believe it was all his fault (btw: he didn't abuse her or cheat), I have witnessed her being heartless often to her own son! They are both responsible for letting their relationship turn to crap after only 2 years of marriage!
Don't you think accepting your own responsiblity would help you move on and be a better spouse when or if you ever marry again?
P.S. My mother-in-law hasn't had any good or lasting relationships since her divorce, but my father-in-law has!
2006-10-05 08:52:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some people have a hard time admitting they have faults. I know a lot of people that never even made it to the alter, but every failed relationship is the other persons fault. I hear, he was a jerk, or she was money hungry. from a couple of people every time they break up with their boyfriend or girlfriend. You would think they would catch on after saying the same thing every time, but so far no luck. It takes maturity to take responsibility. Some just don't have it. What can you do? I know I just roll my eyes and shrug it off. You can't reason with them. So I don't even try to anymore.
2006-10-05 09:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be divorcing soon, and I don't blame him. I just didn't know what I needed in a man, and it turns out I despise some of his ideals and goals in life. It is against my morals to stay in a marriage with a man I don't like, but he thinks I could like him if I went to therapy. I would agree if it were a communication or trust issue, or any of the other issues you hear people gripe about all the time. But it's a fundamental difference in the way we approach life that I see as the problem, and I don't think someone can change that much.
He blames me completely, and he's right. I'm the one who can't accept him the way he is.
2006-10-05 16:07:41 · answer #2 · answered by beanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely agree with you but you have to remember that its always easier to blame someone else than it is to blame yourself. Some people just can't accept the fact that it takes two to tango and would rather live in their own little world and play the victim. There is a reason your FIL has been able to move on and she is so unhappy. Its just one of those things that people have to figure out for themselves.
2006-10-05 15:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by amyclay350 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sometimes, MEN or WOMEN can be very deceptive. I was married before and thought everything was GREAT... we had an amazing sex life and everything... then one day I caught him cheating. OUT OF THE BLUE... that was it for me, Kicked him out that day, and because he was in the military I got everything. Men in the military can go to JAIL for cheating on their spouse... found out about 6 months after divorce he got married again, IS DIVORCED AGAIN and is now engaged AGAIN!!! that guy is crazy... Im so glad I got out as fast as I did and didnt waste too much time with him. But NONE of this was any of my fault... sometimes even crazy people who HAVE SEVERE PROBLEMS (like my x) can seem completely normal and loving.
2006-10-05 15:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its easier to point the finger instead of taking the blame. If they take the blame then they become the "bad" guy that everyone sees.
2006-10-05 15:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce is not anyone's "fault". when you don't love someone, you don't love them. plain and simple. once you accept that, it's so easy to move on.
2006-10-05 15:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do some people blame it on others?
2006-10-05 15:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly Bundy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋