He has been taking equity loans to pay bills in house and plenty of spending money.His income doesn't cover his exspences, he is short about 1000.00 a month. With my entire income things would be plenty for us to live on. But I don't feel comfortable with a prenup, and giving all my money. Please give some imput.
2006-10-05 08:00:02 · 17 answers · asked by hdredrose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What? Did you read what you wrote? I think you said your husband owns a home, but that he's coming up short every month by about $1000. Your pay would help to cover the expenses. Yes, sign a pre-nup, and get one of your own. They work both ways. You get one that says that you contributed so much a month and you expect it back should the marriage dissolve. A lawyer can tell you what should be in yours. Fair is fair.
2006-10-05 08:05:51 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe pre-nups are essential even for poor people because you can get fleeced in a divorce just like he can. Never try to split assets when you hate each other. Get a pre-nup when you still kind of like each other, it is always more equitable.
In this case it sounds like he "owned" a house and now is using his equity for spending money. If the prenup excludes you from home ownership that is your business, but it may not exclude you from his debt!!!! So basically, you get all the bad and none of the good.
I would advise you to down with your OWN lawyer and both of you sit down with a Certified Financial Planner to see what the real deal is. This sounds like a huge issue and it is great you are addressing it before the wedding.
2006-10-05 08:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by SL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be smart about the Prenup. Determine how much you will be contributing per year and make that plus a generous interest rate to be repaid to you upon termination of the marriage.
Example: You are paying $1000.00 a month for his house loan then you get 12k plus interest for every year of marriage. I should set the interest high because the property will go up in value and he could not of kept it without your help.
Good Luck
2006-10-05 08:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'd think twice about this marriage. It doesn't sound like you really trust him, and with good reason. He has bills over his head and is expecting you to sign a prenup to cover the overage?? I'd definitely do the prenup, and make sure it covers exactly what you are willing and not willing to do within the marriage and if/when it fails.
2006-10-05 08:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you give money NO PRE NUP unless it guarentees you to a percentage on the sale of the house if you break up. If the house is all his then so too are the bills. UNLESS you loan him the money and THAT will have to be in the prenup that he will have to reimburse you for all payments you made towards the loans on the house.
2006-10-05 08:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him a prenup. As a matter of fact, you should tell him that if you are going to be supporting him that your name should go on the deed as well as the mortgage. And what's with the prenup for 2 years. You are going to support him until he gets on his feet, and then he's going to leave you. Don't be stupid. Don't give him a prenup and if he hassles you over it. Then leave him.
2006-10-05 08:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I like the idea of charging him for sex in the prenup.
Make sure the prenup says that you get everything you put into the house back unless the divorce is caused by your infidelity. He should get nothing if he dumps you.
2006-10-05 08:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does he want the prenup? So he wants you to help pay for a home that will not be yours? That does not sound fair. If he wants it in his name only then he needs to pay for it alone. If your on the title of the proerty then sure go ahead an help out.
2006-10-05 08:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you put in you get it back out! if he wants to live a seperate life thats his deal. he shouldnt have gotten so far in dept. but if he wants to make you a partner then partners split 50/50. and thats the real world.if you put 1$ in it NO PRENUP. i know hes only trying to look out for himself but life is full of chances. maybe he can sell it and you can find something more in your budget. wouldnt that be great freeing up your income not having to look at check book to see if you can afford to eat. but please look both ways before crossing this street you can both get ran over.
2006-10-05 08:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by crank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're entitled to stay the way you've been conscious of residing in those 2 and a 1/2 years of marriage. i'd ask for spousal help and in simple terms bypass from there. a minimum of you've adequate recognize to break up and then locate someone who respects you. communicate with an legal professional, maximum of them in any state will do free consultations, so that they are going to clarify it for you. also maximum of them will make him pay your expenses in the right of the case. best of luck
2016-12-04 07:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by harbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋