My husband makes me wear a chastity belt when he isn't around because he doesn't want me to be defiled by another man. I respect his decision but the problems come in when I need to change my tampon or pads when I am having my period. Sometimes I will have a "heavy" flow and want to change my tampon because I feel icky but I can't do it until he comes home. Sometimes that isn't until 7 p.m. or 8 p.m. I have asked if he would let me go without it during those days but he won't. Any ladies on here been in the same situation? Anybody have any ideas or solutions that would help?
2006-10-05 08:34:59 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's your body. Refuse to wear it. This is physical abuse. See a lawyer.
2006-10-05 08:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well first of all let me start out by saying that if there's no trust in the marriage, there shouldn't be a marriage. A man can't watch a woman 24/7 and a woman can't watch a man 24/7. If your husband is so insecure about his relationship he should let it go, and if your self esteem is so low that you would allow him to force a chasity belt on you, then you need a minute to find your self. If I were you I would have been to embarrased to allow anyone in the world to know about this demeaning, embarassing situation. But my question to you is why does he feel like you need to wear one when he isn't around? And what about him is he honest to you? And as for the tampon thing, If you know that your husband makes you wear this thing why would you consider a tampon any way around that time of month, you could suffer toxic shock syndrom, haven't you heard of pads. I don't know what to say besides get a grip sweet heart and stand up and be a woman not a welcome mat for humiliation, I'm not telling you to be a disobedient, disrespectful wife but damn stand up for your self. BUT ONLY IF THIS IS NOT WHAT YOU WANT, hell I could be wrong you might like it.
2006-10-05 08:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by Leshawn R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, there is obviously a trust issue going on here. This is your body, and if you love him, then you're will only want to be with him. You just need to not make yourself look vulnerable when you are alone or with other guys. I think he's doing this to control you a little bit. You should ask him why you can't decide what is best for you, because leaving a tampon in for long periods of time is unhealthy. You should let him at least know the risks of that.
2006-10-05 08:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by Ask&Receive 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They used to have them in the old days in some countries. There are some perverted men who wear a chastity lock but these are those unhealthy types who want to be dominated and get a perverted thrill out of it. I don t know if some wives would get a kick out of it but apart from that of course there should be trust.
2015-04-14 05:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone wants to have sexual contact a chasity belt only makes the mind think more than usual to overcome the boundry.The other boundry you should overcome is the ability to have the freedom of trust in a relationship.Unless youre in to some heavy s@m and agree with this you should stand up and test his love for you by telling him you refuse to wear it.Ive been a very jeolous relationship before with someone i truely loved for several years,but her jeolousy slowly over the years made the relationship more of a convienience than a want to be in situation
2006-10-08 06:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by donjovi2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are being abused. This isn't about your "defilement" this is about lack of trust in you and lack of respect for you. What other ways is he controlling? Does he limit your ability to be with friends? Does he keep money matters secret or put you on an allowance that is unreasonable? He is clearly inconsiderate and controlling. I am not saying leave but I certainly am questioning how caring he truly is and it makes me wonder what he is doing behind your back. Sit and ask yourself a question: What if your best friend (female) said this was happening to them?
2006-10-05 10:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by geocache22 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't know that chastity belts still existed. I cannot believe you would allow this to be done to yourself! Obviously your husband does not trust you at all! I don't see much love here either, you are his property, not his partner. Do you realize that you can get a serious infection from not changing your tampon? Read the package insert. I would have to stab the bastard.
2006-10-05 08:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It isnt healthy to wear a tampon more than four to six hours. If your husband ever wants to defile you himself in the near future you'll be needing to change that bloody rat. TSS= Toxic Shock Syndrome
2006-10-05 08:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nobody has this right, except for you. These questions that you have make me have an extreme dislike for your husband! I hope that I am misunderstanding something. I understand that a guy is stronger than a girl but, really. Would he really beat the cr*p outta you if you didn't let him put it on or, is this your choice? If so, why?
2006-10-05 14:48:40 · answer #9 · answered by Colleen 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Umm......This is totally weird, well if you are being honest about this. I think he is a control freak or a psycho either one, and he is taking away your rights as a woman. Not to mention you can get Tss from leaving a tampon in all day. So I would leave him, or buy him one, and make him wear it! Good Luck with the freak!
2006-10-05 08:39:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly H 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is ridiculous!!!!!! As a woman you should stand up for yourself and not let some man control you. If he doesn't trust you then you guys shouldn't be married. Putting a chasity belt on you when he isn't there is taking from your personal rights as a human being!!!
2006-10-05 08:42:35 · answer #11 · answered by AM 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋