My husband and his friend/coworker have many conversations about me and his co worker has asked him if he can have me when my husband dies and my husband said yes-and doesn't seem to be bothered by the fact that this other man idolizes me and tells others about how hot I am in front of my husband. Should I be concerned??
2006-10-05 08:26:52 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is 28 and in good health
2006-10-05 08:34:10 · update #1
why worry about it? i am sure it doesnt mean that much, why should your husband worry about it, he most likely doesnt plan to kick the bucket any time soon.
2006-10-05 08:34:14 · answer #1 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your husband is scheduled to die sometime soon and he's just making sure there's gonna be someone to take care of you, fine. But maybe he's so secure in ya'll's relationship, he doesn't mind this man making comments about you. It'd make me feel good to know someone had the hots for my man, knowing he's coming home to me. I'd take it as a compliment. If you don't feel comfortable with him talking to co-workers about you like this, you must tell him. Maybe you're just a lovely lady and your husband is very proud of the fact that he has a wife to brag about, he wants to be able to share his joys with his friends/co-workers....
2006-10-05 08:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion...
Have your husband invite this guy over for dinner.
Cook Mexican, break out the blender, and make a bunch of really stiff margaritas. Drink twice as much as they do, faster than they do. Don't excuse yourself to go to bed, kinda pass out where ever you land.
The next morning, after you shake off the cobwebs, you'll have your answer. If you husband kept his head on straight and protected you, no need for concern. If he didn't, you have bigger problems than a friend with a crush.
You should have no qualms doing this tonight. Think of it as a relationship experiment, and your loving husband is going to remind you why you married him in the first place.
Oh, and hesitating is a flat out admittance that there is more going on than what's on the surface. If you have any respect for yourself and your relationship... I'd advise addressing that.
2006-10-05 08:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by Erad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance's best friend told him how hot he thinks I am! He also asked him if I would be interested in a threesome! My fiance' told me and laughed as he explained the conversation to me. I wasn't concerned because I know he wouldn't allow that to happen and I'm not sure he took him totally seriously!! My fiance and his friend went to out of town and one night he called me and I heard someone in the background say who are you talking to? So then he says my wife and his friend answers No, he talking to his sinfully HOT Wife! I was upset for minute but he laughed and said he'd call me back!! I don't think a man can give his wife away without her permission so don't take those comments too seriously if your hubby doesn't! If he hits on you seriously then maybe you should express your concern to your husband and let the friend know that you're not interested in him!
2006-10-05 09:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how this "friend" is coming off when he makes these statements. If its in a relatively approriate manner and is more like compliments then I see no real issue here, however if its crude then yes there is a definate probelm. Then again no matter how its intended if you feel uncomfortable when he makes these comments then you should tell him so and tell your husband. As for your husband being ok with these actions hmm very oddd. I know I wouldn't like my friends speaking about my wife in such a way and around me, however, if your relationship is strong enough and your both secure enough in the relationship then all the better. Basi line here, if this is making you uncomfortable and it seems to be by your actions of bringing this question forth, then yes talk to your husband and his friend and get these actions stopped.
2006-10-05 08:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Marco4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told my husband he's waiting for him to die so he can have me...and my husband is ok with this-should I be
2014-12-15 03:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...especially when he murders your husband. Actually....if your husband allows this "friend" as you call him to say things like this...maybe killing your husband and outting him out of his misery would be the best for him.
In the meantime...what do you think? This is cave man days where he'll waltz in the door after the funeral and take possession of you and everything else.
You husband sounds like a dolt. Your husband's friend sounds like a dolt. At this point I'm wondering about you? Especially asking something as inane as "should I be concerned".
No...no you shouldn't. Why?
God...some people still amaze the sh*t out of me.
2006-10-05 08:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is fine with it because he's very much secure of himself and also he knows he's not going to die anytime soon. You shouldn't be worried. Your husband is not insecure plus hearing that his wife is hot, boosts up his confidence.
2006-10-05 08:41:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!
No, hell it's your choice if you marry the man "after " your husband dies or not. (Unless you came with his job), But I understand what is bothering you, the non concern from your husband. But, your husband knows this guy was probably kidding, so he didn't take it seriously. Plus... no disrespect, but your husband knows you too, so what ever type of relationship you have with him behind close doors also determined his reaction to his co-workers question.
2006-10-05 08:39:16 · answer #9 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a form of flattery. They think your hot. Your husband isn't worried because its just a silly conversation between them. Don't worry just be flattered that they think your so hot. Sooner or later the subject will turn to something different.
2006-10-05 08:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by smile4u 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he probably feels really proud that he has you and his friend really wants you. It probably doesn't bother him because they are good friends. I have a guy that's been in love with me for a real long time and a close friend of his always asks him if he can get a nude pic of me. He finds it funny. He'll be like, come on man, just one pic, come on man......lol
2006-10-05 08:34:37 · answer #11 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋