He won't give me any details. He's gonna show it to me when i fly to see him this weekend. I am not cheating and I don't go to clubs anymore. Should i even go see him, i feel so hurt. Not that he is questioning my whereabouts, but that he is acting like, AHA!!!, i got something on you but won't tell you anything 'til you come see me.??!?!?!?!?!? When i tried to ask more about it, he's like, Oh no @#$*($%^*%, you need to tell me what the (%^)$%^ is going on, not the other way around. I am confused cause I am not seeing anyone else, and i have no idea what pix he thinks he has. I don't know.
2006-10-05 08:34:39 · 17 answers · asked by yeouxleigh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't go, you're admitting to guilt. Go, because you always have ticket to fly back if things get out of hand. Plus, by showing up anyway, proves you have nothing to hide. Be the bigger person. Then, if he continues to bully you about it, be "depressed" and ball up on the couch with a blanket and be like, "i can't believe you would believe some bull sh!t like that instead of me after I flew all this way out here to see you." Statistically true, men have less brain activity than women, and women think more complex as guys are simplistic, so as a woman you have a way with words and emotions a lot better as the upper hand. I constantly manuver my way around my hubby with words, to get him to do things and such and he doesn't even realize i'm doing it sometimes!!! Don't use a harsh voice, yell or use threats, if you stay calm, it keeps you in controll of the situation, and he won't get the reaction he's looking for, Also being calm will most likely resolve the situation because you are both alotted more rationalle due to the calmness because you are thus discussing rather than arguing with insanity of lots of yelling and negative words. Play offensively instead of defensively. I hope I helped and I hope things work out for you, GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-05 09:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by afafae25 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know the truth, then I'd tell him to email those pix, OR you dont go this weekend. Simple as that. Sounds like he's playing games with you. And in my opinion not worthy of you. Dont waste your time by being pulled into his sick game.
When games are played, it's supposed to be fun for both partners. NOT to be used against another. Let him know where you stand on the issue, and MEAN it!
2006-10-05 15:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are positive that you didn't take any pictures in any club with anyone, then he might be testing you. He's probably trying to see if you will blow yourself up by telling you that he caught you. He won't tell you where or what because there isn't anything. He's probably trying to see if you act guilty then you cheated on him. Persist that it wasn't you and don't even bring it up. And if he brings it up, tell him that you know he's testing you b/c you know for a fact, you weren't doing anything and haven't done anything either.
2006-10-05 15:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Not that he's questioning my whereabouts"? Really? You think so?
You go out and see him. Stay with him. All people like to be accused of something they are innocent of. So it's no big deal. I mean, it doesn't seem to bother you. You're a lucky girl to have such a domineering and disrespectful boyfirned and he's lucky to have a spineless and no self esteem woman like you.
Its a relationship made in heaven.
2006-10-05 15:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you know you did nothing wrong, why are you worried about it? IF it was a pic from your past, he has no reason to be angry. IF it isn't you in the pic, why is he cussing you out and acting crazy? IF he cannot accept your word, as truth, and continue to act crazy and cuss you out, about something that is not even an issue, then I would not go to see him. I mean, why would you?
2006-10-05 15:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by amalia372005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be an old pix. From your language and your avatar, you may have done a thing or two in clubs that you wouldn't want him to know. Be prepared.
2006-10-05 15:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's testing you and your falling for it. If you know that you havent been to any clubs or with any other guys dont worry about it. Think about it, if he really had pics of you with another guy at a club, why wouldnt he just break up with you?
2006-10-05 15:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by cashis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he shows you a pic of a guy with his D i ck up you then I would kick his ***.
I wasn't aware that dancing was cheating.
Not to mention if you have a long distance relationship does he expect you to be sitting at home all night?
2006-10-05 15:48:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably trying to set you up hoping you'll confess to something. What a stupid little game. He must be young. When you get there and there are no pics you should slap him and tell him to grow the f*ck up.
2006-10-05 15:40:02 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go htere and see this and prove to him that it wasn't you. if he really si so happy on finding evidence against you, maybe he really doesn't want to be in this realtionship with you. normally, people would be angry. he is acting liek a detective that solved his first ever mystery case or something. don't fall into his trap of feeling guilty.
2006-10-05 15:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋