I've married for 4 and half yrs, I and my husband knew each other for 6 yrs. Last yr I having affair w/ a married guy who was my ex-manager. However, I just broke up the relationship w/ him. Cause I knew, he will not divorce w/ his wife because of me.
I've no idea whether I love the guy or not. But I was w/ him because he's a guy that who has experience (he's only 5 yr senior than me) and adviseable when I doubt in some circumstances.
I knew this kind of man is who I looking for as a life partner. Whereby my husband is a boring man. Do doubt, he's a good husband. But I really feel bore with him.
I keep asking myself, if I still w/ my husband, will I regret if I've only 3 months life time? The answer is yes. However, I've no better choice than him for currently, that's why I still with him.
My friend advised me to give my husband a chance, in order for him to change his character. Since he's a really good husband. I try to accept her advise, but in deep of my heart refuse so.
2006-10-05 17:58:02 · 15 answers · asked by sam2vt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ehhh I should ditch old yeller in the forest and go get a new puppy--so i can teach him new tricks, play with him and it will be fun all over again. And when Im bored of him and he grows up and is all boring Ill just leave him in the dust too. After all I need variety and not just some old loyal dog.
2006-10-05 18:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by justmyinput 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever love him your husband that is .About the married man SHAME ON YOU! back to your husband. Was it ever fun with him and if so then you can get it back only if you really want it back .Remember what you felt when you would kiss him or the first time you made love.Its all about the memories.If you never felt the Rush with the first kiss like I bet you did with the married man then you will never feel the love you are looking for.Remember one thing good men are very hard to find and if you have one and don't treat him right someone else will be more then happy to take your place like you tried to do with your ex-manage.How do you think she would feel if she knew someone was sleeping with her husband and trying her best to get him to leave her.I bet you wouldn't like it.Remember what goes around comes around.
2006-10-05 18:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by teeny r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him - you obviously do not love him. I don't doubt that he is a good man and deserves someone who will truely love him and not cheat on him. Even if it's hard and he begs you to stay - you really should leave him. Tell him you cheated and don't love him so he can get over you. That would be the best thing to do. I'm sure deep down he knows you don't love him and he needs to be set free from you.
My husband didn't love me and he divorced me and even though it was very hard for me at the time - I am so glad to be with some one now that really loves me and doesn't cheat on me.
As for you, you will find someone new. People who cheat always find someone new.
2006-10-05 18:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are very conceited and selfish.You are no doubt that type of person who will never be happy with what you have.
I think you need to be alone,and do some soul searching.And stop relying on others to make you happy.
Your husband may be boring but is that the only thing he's guilty of?If so ,you should stop thinking about your heart and start thinking about what you did to his.
Goodluck to your husband,and you
2006-10-05 18:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, you really have self-esteem issues. You don't stay with someone just because you can't find someone else to replace them. You also shouldn't stay with someone who is a good person if you're going to cheat on them. You might find him boring, but your friends obviously think his pretty decent. I think you should get a divorce and live on your own while you figure out who you are and what you want. Then your husband can be free to find someone who won't cheat behind his back, and appreciate him for the good husband he is.
2006-10-05 18:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by BILL BEAKER 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You want adventure - so create it. You want excitement - so make it. Why should your husband be the one responsible for y our boredom? Marriage requires 100% from both of you - not 50/50. You're bored. Okay - what your going to do about it in your marriage. He is a really good husband, heh? Where have you been a good wife, screwing around and blaming him on your unhappiness.
2006-10-05 18:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is something you earn. You both have to work at it. Love is commitment and not always exciting. You are the one that have the power to makes these choices , wheather to salvage the marriage or break it. From your letter I feel that you have given up on your husband. Why did you get married, think about your motives. Communicate with your husband and you will know the answer to your question.
Good Luck
2006-10-05 18:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all If you felt that way I can't understand why you married him. Anyway, you say he is boring so maybe you should talk to him about it. Affairs bring more damamge than you could ever imagine and is very unfair to him. Talk it out and try to work it out, But if it doesnt work than you need to divorce rather than have affairs, but as the chinese say "be careful what you wish for".
2006-10-05 18:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him because he deserves someone who woulndn't cheat on him and where he would be #1 in their heart, if your so bored get out ... how dare you pretend to love this man while your thinking of the next best thing ...
He deserves better and you need to grow up, marriage is for better or worse, richer or poorer and not just let me try it on and until someone better comes along ... it's women like you that make men so untrusting and bitter.
2006-10-05 18:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by emnari 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are just a cheap $lut who wants permission to get divorced. For the sake of your husband, I hope you have less than three months of hell to dish out to him.
2006-10-05 19:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋