My son is 36 years old, and he wants to have his own child. He is going through a divorce, and I told him that he would meet someone that can have a child with him.
He tells me that he is too old to have a kid. He has been married twice and both ladies had kids when he married them, and their tubes were tied.
I know if he could find the right lady to have a kid with, he would be the happiest man ever.
Do you think he is too old to be a father?
2006-10-05 17:16:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely not!!! With the average life span increasing every year, he should live to be 85 or so which places his child around 45 or so if he has one in approximately 6 years. However, please advise him that having a child is a LIFELONG commitment and NOT to be taken lightly. Obviously he has some experience with children however having 2 divorces doesn't sound like one of two things. Either he has the unfortunate ability of falling in love with the wrong women or can't handle kids. If he finds the "right" one - tell him to go for it - the rewards are priceless!!!
2006-10-05 17:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by FTBLCHIK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to hurt your feelings, but he doesn't sound too old, he sounds too immature. He has two failed marriages and all he can say is, he wants to be a father? Children are a lifetime, you can't divorce them when the rough times come along; you can't bail on them or turn them in for another. Also, what are the odds that both wives had their tubes tied? Hmmm
He needs to get himself together without complicating the life of a child; it just sounds like he needs someone to go to the playground with him.
2006-10-05 17:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs to move on with his life, find a good woman (he better make sure she wants kids)...
He is not old, he is unlucky and very inmature for his age... thinking like that, still being so young!!! I know 50 yr olds thinking about having kids again in their new relationships...
I dont mean to sound rude to you, because you are too caring for him, but send him out to the real world, stop mothering him... he needs to grow up and get a life... be firm, otherwise he will never have the opportunity to share all he is capable of giving, eventually falling in love again and having his own children... let him be, he will ge the idea soon...
2006-10-05 17:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by goodgirl2c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend still had 3 kids with a 27 year old when he was 51 and it worked out great!
The kids are now from 21 to 25 and are very happy with their father!
2006-10-05 17:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all, a men are never to old to make babies. They still produce sperms until the day they are under the ground. Let me say this, my father-in-law had a baby when he was 81 yrs old. That's not to say that the girl could be pregnant from another man. Who knows, but he claimed it was his. He is now 84 going on 85 and asked my husband to get him some pills so he could still knock it. eeeww, gross, the girl is like a great grand-daughter's age to him. BICH likes the greens, not him.
2006-10-05 18:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Definitely not! But more likely, he's just protecting himself. He probably doesnt feel like it will ever happen and thus doesnt want to set himself up for a fall.
Incidentally, I'm 35, my husband's 39. We met 3 years ago and now have a 1yr old daughter. He too wanted children. He too had been only with women who for one reason or another couldnt give him any. He too had given up. When he met me, he told me he wanted children. I had none and wanted none. He worked on me until I gave in. Was the best thing I ever did. She's fantastic!!!
2006-10-05 17:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by tigerzntalons 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he has plenty of time. His age 36 (and even when he's older) is the perfect time to be a father. He has lived his wild years and now has wisdom and experience. No such thing in my book as being too old.
Good luck to you and your son.
2006-10-05 17:23:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he's not. I've seen a lot of older men who've had kids in their 50's (first kids). My FIL didn't have any kids until he was in his 30's and he could've never been a better father, he did a good job raising my husband.
He does seem to be a bit scared though.
2006-10-05 17:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Leela 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who are we to say too old. I think that if he has the desire to be a father then he is a great age. Usually the men that are 35 or older have their acts together.
2006-10-05 17:20:54 · answer #9 · answered by jessica h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No... not until 50. He can have a healthy child and it is the right age from him to have one subject to him finding a consenting female..... My son was born when I was 35.
2006-10-05 17:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by relaxplease2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋