Marriage & Divorce - 4 September 2006

My husband constantly plays mind games with me. He never wants to eat dinner with me or spend any time with me. He claims I am cheating on him (I do not) and that I cheated all my life. We sit down to talk and I tell him that I am sad that he doesn't want to spend time with me. But he starts accusing me of all sorts of things. I start to cry and walk away and he says that proves that I want nothing to do with the marriage when I simply want to shed my sorrows in another room. Recently, he started to accuse me of cheating again and during the fight, he tried to prevent me from leaving by not letting me open the garage door to get out. He then called the police and said that I was doing violent things to him. When the police came and heard our stories, they arrested him. I am not sure if I should file for divorce or try to make things work.

2006-09-04 17:30:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband made a big *** deal out of telling me his secret, and i was getting scared he was going to tell me that he was gay. nope. he just wants me to kick him in the balls whenever he gets on my nerves cause that's hot to him. any thoughts on how to deal with this?

2006-09-04 17:21:21 · 16 answers · asked by x o 1

my wife has subscribed to a porn site specifically aimed at women (naked men etc) I feel threatened by this am I overreacting?

2006-09-04 17:20:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband just randomly came to me the other day with the idea of being a sperm doner.. he said he heard from some buddies that he could get around 70$ every time he does it.. I dont doubt that and extra money is always nice, it just seems kinda weird.. anyone agree??

2006-09-04 17:16:31 · 22 answers · asked by stina 2

I am in my tenth year of misery.
I really don't know why or how we lasted as long as we have. (Not much in common. ) I have found myself hating him as of late.
He lost yet another great job. He keeps telling me he is just laid off, but he wont call and see if they need him yet. This happens with EVERY job he gets. I am so fed up that I really can't take anymore of his crap.
See he left state for 2 glorious weeks, and in that time my oldest teacher noticed an improvement in his behavior. Heck even I was happier. Pretty much after this happened I really got thinking I might be better off alone.
I don't want another man or anything.
My main problem with everything is he won't even talk with me about any of it. Instead he leaves EVERY nite, supposedly to friends.
I really don't know but 10 years and he still can't get it together.
So now I guess I just need some outside help. Thanks

2006-09-04 17:02:38 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

after my divorce i started dating this guy for a few months who came on very strong, but then backed off, he claimed out of fear of getting hurt & being the rebound guy. we agreed to be friends cause he wanted to keep me in his life & i played it very cool with him even though i was hurt, calling him once in a while. friday nite i got the late nite call from him saying how sorry he was he hurt me & that he let me go & how much he missed me. he called again 2 hrs later and had obviously been drinking - and he was going on & on about how he has issues, but really misses me. Should i take this call seriously?? P.S. it is very out of character for him to lose control and make a call like that, plus we never slept together cause he said in the past he has slept with women and then dumped them. I haven;t spoke to him since friday nite - 'we just texted each other a little bit over the weekend & i tried to keep things lite and joked with him a bit-now what?

2006-09-04 16:56:18 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it normal for divoced people to still have some kind of contact even if it is not about the kids example helping with yard work or empty a mouse trap ?Serious answers only please

2006-09-04 16:53:54 · 37 answers · asked by dee d 3

We don't have any children and the divorce is uncontested. I'm trying to do this without an attorney to save money.

2006-09-04 16:49:20 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs_knowitall 2

My husband is across the country staying with my parents to look for work. I was looking at my husbands email & saw he had downloaded pics off my moms laptop of her naked. They were pics she took for her hubby. I freaked out and am now disgusted by my husbands actions. This goes further than your typical guy looking at porn. I can't tell my mom because they will kick him out and he is job hunting and house hunting there. What would you have said/done? How would you feel? Any advice will be helpful. Thanks.

2006-09-04 16:46:35 · 24 answers · asked by chrissy112 1

GUYS WHAT WOULD YOU DO, GIRLS WHAT WOULD YOU LIKE DONE? say you are having sex and your husband orgasims before you. what do you do? roll over and go to sleep or would you do something about it? and if so what would it be? this never happened to me before, and i'm lost on what to do.

2006-09-04 16:45:59 · 36 answers · asked by Zoey 2

I am in a relationship with a man who I know who loves me but we have so many problems. But seriously, the biggest problem we have is about his foot fetish. It is not the fetish itself that causes the problem, it is the expectations he holds with the fetish. He hates sandals and so he requests that I do not wear any open toed shoes, also, he likes sweaty feet so he requests that I keep my shoes on when I am in the house so when we become intimate they will be sweaty. I have tried to meet him half way on this but his need seems to be all of the time. I really love this man, but this problem has become the center focus of our relationship. He fears that I will begin a routine of just taking my shoes off after work without consideration to his needs. This is such a strange thing for me to break off an engagement, but today, that is what it is leading to. Does anybody have any advice on how to save this relationship over this problem?

2006-09-04 16:43:17 · 8 answers · asked by soulplane 1

2006-09-04 16:41:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is not interested in our home at all. We have lots of things that need to be fixed (painting, structural damage repaired, and just daily cleaning) I feel I am the only one on OUR team- and because of this, I feel alot of bitterness towards him. We have been through marriage counseling but it really did not seem to help any matters. I need some serious feedback from you ladies that have this same problem.

2006-09-04 16:20:17 · 24 answers · asked by zita 2

How can I know for sure my husband is cheating on me with a co-worker. I am definatly feeling the bad vibes, he is a liar I know that and I am stupid for staying but I need to know for sure. I strongly feel it has started off with a flirty, emotional interest. Give Ideas on what I can do to get evidence.

2006-09-04 16:18:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Yea, he is self employed and is really good at hiding his money. He also goes on vacation for 2 weeks at a time. He gives up parenting time all of the time, doesn't pay child support and now I am taking my kids to see a Psychologist because he is abusing them! The abuse isn't substantial enough to cause any real bruises but my kids soil their pants at school and at night. My son (6) has horrible 1 hour violent tantrums when it is time to go to Dads. My own son beats me up! IS there a way to take visitaion away without hiring an attorney? Social Services is really tuff, they don't do anything! Any suggestions?

2006-09-04 16:16:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm considering getting my fiancee an engagement ring. It's such a big trend now, and we live 3 hrs away so I'd like him to wear something too. Does anyone know the rules for something like this? Like width, or style? Is it that different from a wedding band? Finally, does anyone know a man with an engagement ring? I'd like some guy's thoughts on this too!!

2006-09-04 16:13:56 · 15 answers · asked by MegW12 4

2006-09-04 16:13:31 · 33 answers · asked by edita1993 1

Jealousy and insecurity are poison to relatonships are you poisoning yours. I am not trying to "bash" you I'm only trying to share with you the fact that this type of thinking is unhealthy.Your man is with you by choice dont repell him with over-controlling be havior. Look again at All the answers the majority disagree, You must have asked to see if your feelings were justified . Most say NO!

2006-09-04 16:12:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

and then you got married, should you tell them you cheated?

2006-09-04 16:10:13 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I got divorced about a year ago...and the reason was very painful to explain.......very much ...now I am scared to guys and I know this is not right.....would I feel good again like the way I was before?

2006-09-04 16:06:23 · 8 answers · asked by Yami 3

I've been in a relationship with a married man for 2 years. He and his wife have been having problems for several years. But they try to stay together for the kids. They were separated for most of last year, but he went back home because of the kids, even though him and her don't get along at all. She cheated on him before and doesn't trust him. I know in my heart their relationship is over and has been for a long time. I know he loves me, and i can wait until the kids can deal with the divorce. But will him and his wife ever split up for good or is she gonna use the kids to keep him around forever. Will he ever be mine?

2006-09-04 15:59:59 · 26 answers · asked by y_not_do_it_already 1

my wife who's in the navy just filed for divorce, we have a 3 month old baby, she wants full custody, but she's got pcs orders to a new ship on the east coast thats being built and won't be ready for about a year to go to its homeport on the west coast, could or will this be a promblem for her.

2006-09-04 15:56:52 · 10 answers · asked by james j 2

Right now I know that he is a bit stressed so things are a bit hightened, but he has always had a problem with being overwhelmed, overly upset when mad, overly sad when upset, overly... you name it, I on the other hand am very relaxed person. I not so relaxed that I am a slob or don't care about things, but I figure worrying or getting upset never helps a situation, moving onward and pushing toward the goal will see you through the hard times. Mind you I can shead a tear or be down, but there is always a solution, you just have to find it. I figure that whatever bad thing comes my way today, then tomorrow, next week, month, year, will be all together different. Never look at the problems look for the clearing. My husband is the opposite. How do I help him? He always feels depressed and down, not the happy go lucky person he was when we dated (we dated for 5 years so it wasn't like I didn't really know him).

2006-09-04 15:56:29 · 12 answers · asked by faith 2

like the ones our parents used to have, starting from scratch, buidling a life together from nothing. pooling the resources and slowly buying a house together, and all that?
why is it these days, women deman a man who has everything fro 2 cars to a big house with fancy 3 degree educations before she'll even consider dating him? what has happened to people these days? why are women like this? and then they cheat on the guy afterwards. its just downright unfair!

2006-09-04 15:52:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok we spent 2 weeks together and she got caught lying to me 4 times about what happened and I now know she asked him not the other way like I hoped he did ask if it was ok to give her his # and she took it and I tried to get him to fight me but the candy *** called the cops so now what do I do try or not we have 4 kids also I do love her but do not trust her

2006-09-04 15:47:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was just wondering. I recently started working and although my husband says that he is completely secure, still makes little gestures that he is not. I think it flaturing to some degree to think he is a bit jelous, it's more attention than I have gotten in quite some time. I do think it is silly though, I am completely over weight, about 100 pounds (started working again because staying home did it to me, I have lost 25 pound though, yeah!), and do not feel that men would find me desirable. I have a great personality though and make friends easily and he is a bit overwhelmed I think. Can men still find over weight women attractive? ( I wouldn't, that's why I want to fix it, for myself mainly and for my family.) I guess I am having a hard time understanding why he may feel unsecure.

2006-09-04 15:35:12 · 26 answers · asked by faith 2

If you get marriage in a court system in 1 country can you get married to someone else in another countries court system? Also, what if you got married to two woman in a country where it is legal. If you move to the US are you still married to both?

2006-09-04 15:34:38 · 17 answers · asked by Dog 2

After 6 years of a tumultuous marriage racked w/ infidelity on his part, we divorced. I remarried him when he pleaded w/ me to try again. At that point I had fallen out of love w/ him, but because my kids are young, I decided to give it one more shot, and to see if my love could return. As a result he hurt me again,I have no trust at all, and I finally realize he isn't the one for me. We live a content and comfortable life, but I feel hopelessly trapped and obligated. I want so much to go and find true love but my obligations say just stay. My kids are 6 and 3 and I don't want to hurt them or put them in harm's way. What is a person to do?

2006-09-04 15:28:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my love for 4 yearsand we were set to be married in 6 months..she and I have both been going through a hard time but not anything that resulted from the other. We hadn't seen each other in awhile and spent 2 amazing days together. She had said that there was something she wanted to talk about but when we got together she "couldn't remember what it was". We made love... or so I thought... three times before she left for her grandparents. Less than 24 hours after she left she calls me to tell me that she isn't happy and hasn't been with me for months and calls not just the wedding but the relationship off. She never EVER told me that she wasn't happy with me until now. I loved her with everything I was and am but she doesn't seem to feel the way I thought she felt for me. We are supposed to get together soon to "work it out" but should I even put my heart on the line since it seems like she has no intentions of trying? She says she loves me but isn't in love with me.

2006-09-04 15:27:47 · 11 answers · asked by Zac L 1

Has anyone here heard from Cobra (Kenny P.)? He has not posted any new poems for a long time. I always liked his poems and I miss them.

2006-09-04 15:17:40 · 1 answers · asked by physandchemteach 7