Is it normal for divoced people to still have some kind of contact even if it is not about the kids example helping with yard work or empty a mouse trap ?Serious answers only please
2006-09-04 16:53:54 · 37 answers · asked by dee d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it is normal.
If you are one of the people divorced, I know people that ask their exes all the time. You are asking someone for help that you know will be there for suggestions and what not.
If you are dating someone who is friendly with an ex, don't worry... they are exes for a reason.. it is nothing to fret over.
2006-09-04 16:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by curiositykillz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not only normal, but my family is proof. I get along better now with my ex than I did when we were together. It's really a matter of do you want to. You don't have to, but if it's a situation where it could be a good thing all around-why not? I know 3 other families where some of the ex's are close friends now. Divorce doesn't necessarily mean you have to hate each other. Sometimes it just means, something shouldn't have happened, you corrected your mistake and now you're better with each other because of it. Hope this helps. Good Luck!
2006-09-04 17:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think it is very important for your children's sake if nothing else. ( So long as the reason they divorced was not because of violence or substance abuse) They can learn that just because Mommy and Daddy are no longer married and may live in different homes that they can still be friends and not hate each other. When parents say bad things about their ex's it makes the children feel that the parent who is saying those things hates that part of their children as well. Children are the result of both people after all and you have to love your children entirely
2006-09-04 17:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by CandyCain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age and how long you have been married. If you are like in your 70+ and had been married a long time then maybe ok. But if you are still young enough to do the yard work & empty a mouse trap then it would be best to do it yourself.
2006-09-04 17:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by brown eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because even if two people are divorced, it doesn't mean they still can't be friends and help each other out. It's like with when two people weren't married and broke up. Just because two people are not married and not sleeping with each other anymore does not mean that they care about each other any less. You still can love and care about each other but not in the way a husband and wife does.
2006-09-04 17:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. We still have a connection to a former spouse inspite of the hurt and pain. I think contact is normal and healthy for healing and moving on. It is also normal to want a prior person to meet some needs that we are use to them meeting, however at some point we will not get the help anymore if another person comes into their life.
2006-09-04 16:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by shelly w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,you were friend's first and just because you are no longer together does not mean you can't help each other out.it was all not about the kids in the beginning,because the kids were not even in the picture then,you can and should maintain a close relationship not just for the children,but also for you both,this is healthy to keep things open,life is far to short,be friends! good luck!
2006-09-04 17:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were emotionally attached and possibly are still to a certain degree. If you can still be amicable, I think that is awesome. More couples aren't then couples that are. Too much hatred is being developed in situations like this. So if you can still be friendly toward your ex and it not affect any other part of your life, then I say by all means!!!
2006-09-04 16:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by jewels_of_fire76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There nothing wrong with it, my ex and I get along great and talk all the time, and her new fiancee and I both get along. We just couldn't make the marraige work, we got married sooner than what we should of after meeting each other, but things happen, and she and I are both happier now, and enjoy our friendship that we had before and after a whole lot more.
2006-09-04 17:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Zenas Walter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's aunt and uncle divorced after almost 20 years of marriage. They still sit next to each other in church, he fixes her car for her, she helps him with housework, so I guess it can work out if the marriage doesn't. They are still close, they are friends, they just had problems living in the same house together due to one huge difference, she is obsessed with owning every stray cat she sees! He told her NO MORE CATS! She left him! That was that!
2006-09-04 16:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋