Yea, he is self employed and is really good at hiding his money. He also goes on vacation for 2 weeks at a time. He gives up parenting time all of the time, doesn't pay child support and now I am taking my kids to see a Psychologist because he is abusing them! The abuse isn't substantial enough to cause any real bruises but my kids soil their pants at school and at night. My son (6) has horrible 1 hour violent tantrums when it is time to go to Dads. My own son beats me up! IS there a way to take visitaion away without hiring an attorney? Social Services is really tuff, they don't do anything! Any suggestions?
2006-09-04 16:16:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hire a paralegal they are much cheaper. Have them write out the papers and fight it in court yourself. That is what I did. It cost me around $300.00 and I won.
2006-09-04 17:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The abuse isnt subtantial enough to cause any real bruises? All abuse is substantial enough to take away the abusers rights. This man has no rights. Your children are yout main concern. I am amazed at you still allowing them to visit their father knowing they are being abused.
Move, do anything to get away from this pathetic thing you call a father. Stop the visititation straight away, and if you cannot afford to hire a lawyer, then arent there free legal services in your state? You are seeing a psychologist....he/she would be the perfect person to ask where to go for help. She is working in the system and would be the perfect person to get advice from. If she is not sympathetic to the kids rights, then see another psychologist. I dont know why this psychologist has not insisted through legal channels that the father have no more contact with these children. He/she has that power if she chooses to use it.
The Psychologist you are seeing, if he/she is a good one, will be your best ally....go in that direction and go fast....stop the visitation by any means possible and get your Psychologists support.....the rest will fall into place.
2006-09-04 17:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is always a tuff situation. I went through so much with my ex. It wasn't easy. Now in some states, if you haven't been married to that person than the mother automatically has full custody of the child unless proven an unfit mother. Father then had no legal rights to the child. My state has this. So check into that. If you were married that is a different situation. If you have it on papers from the lawyers that both of you have custody or how often he is aloud to have them, then all they're gonna tell you is to get a lawyer because whats on paper right now is current now. So your gonna have to get a lawyer and get that changed. If you can start making a log when he has them (time to time) and the days. If he's late picking them up. If he refuses to take them. Anything, it will make it easier for you when you go to court. Make sure to log down if your kids state anything unusual and write down the way they act before or after he has them. I'm sorry this is going on and I hope this helps you.
2006-09-04 16:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by vik_21601 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to hire an attorney if you want serious action to take place.
I would recommend seeing an attorney that has the "you don't pay a cent until we win your case" slogan, this way you'll only have to pay if you win.
You NEED to take your ex to court for several reasons anyway. The abuse going on is something your attorney can look into as well as the child support payments not being issued out to you because he's not paying them.
So, yes, it may not be the cheapest and most enjoyable thing (going to court and hiring an attorney) but in the end, it could solve all of these problems you are having.
2006-09-04 16:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Report this to child protection agency. It is their obligation to investigate child abuse if someone reports it. I'm surprised that the psychologist hasn't done anything to get the law involved. But if he gives up his parenting time, consider it a blessing. Less time your children have to be around him. It angers me that courts give them visitation and the a**holes don't even want to pay child support less alone be bothered with them. The court probably hasn't even stepped in to make him pay. But as soon as you want to take visitation away, he wants to be the father. Our legal system is screwed. Just don't give up. Fight for your children's right for some normalcy. Don't feel guilty about them being raised without a father. Better off without a father and unabused, than with an abusive father.
2006-09-04 16:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds more like emotional abuse which is a valid reason to keep the kids away from him. It's harder to prove than physical abuse but still can be. Sorry, but you'll need to put the money out to hire a lawyer. Also, what were the terms of him paying child support? Most of those things are if they don't pay child support, they can't see the kids in accordance with the courts. I dunno. Go to the law for help.
2006-09-04 16:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The court had my son's mom on supervised visits 3 time in the last 6 years. But last Friday she got unsupervised visits again it's just a merry go round of stress and fear that something will happen to your kids. The First time I spent of $27.000 all of my Workman's Comp. to get her on supervised visitations. when the money ran out the Lawyers were not that willing to help out. So the next two times I did it myself It cost Money But not over $5000 and I'm still at the start I'm just waiting for her to mess up again. good luck let me know if you find a better way.You have to let child protection services know or you can get into trouble and the children's therapist also has to get the child protective services know.
2006-09-04 16:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If someone was abusing my kids.NO MORE VISITS.If he wants to fight it in court then all the abuse will come out and he will look like a fool.Just stop giving him the kids and if he calls the cops,well there's free advice and free help.I really feel bad for the kids,God Bless them.
2006-09-04 16:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by countrykarebare 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let them go over there anymore and he probably won't even fight to see them anyways. You are failing to protect your children if you continue to allow this. If need be, get a good lawyer!
2006-09-04 16:32:03 · answer #9 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen to Karebare
2006-09-04 16:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋