I've been in a relationship with a married man for 2 years. He and his wife have been having problems for several years. But they try to stay together for the kids. They were separated for most of last year, but he went back home because of the kids, even though him and her don't get along at all. She cheated on him before and doesn't trust him. I know in my heart their relationship is over and has been for a long time. I know he loves me, and i can wait until the kids can deal with the divorce. But will him and his wife ever split up for good or is she gonna use the kids to keep him around forever. Will he ever be mine?
2006-09-04 15:59:59 · 26 answers · asked by y_not_do_it_already 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh my god, seriously, get the hell out of that relationship.
2006-09-04 16:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bellina 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I Am Messing Around With A 54 Year Old Married Man And I Am 20 Years Old. I Been Messing Around With Him Since Last September 2005. His Daughter Caught Us Having Sex Once Before But She Did Not Say Nothing To Nobody Because She Has Autistic And She Has A Mind Of A 6 Year Old. This Married Man Wants To Leave His Wife And Married Me... But I Do Not Know If He Will Leave His Wife Of 21 Years! The Sex Is Good And He Always Said I Love You To Me All The Time And I Do Not Know What To Do. But I Love Him!
2006-09-07 01:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by ~Metalman Princess~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! Are you really that naive??? He has his cake (wife) and can eat it too! (you!) Men don't leave their wives and family for a trick giving it up on the side! Did it ever dawn on you that he's lying about his wife cheating and using that as an excuse for why he's with you? And how do you know in YOUR heart that they're over? The excuse that he's staying for the kids is as old as time, darling, get a grip. And how noble of you to want to wait until the "kids can deal with the divorce." How did that sound to you once it left your mind and went down in print? That shows how much of a selfless person you are, wishing for the children's family to split. He is not yours, he took vows with his wife. Even if he left her, what would the basis of your relationship be? Not a really good foundation there, now is it?
2006-09-04 16:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen he is married and they tell woman that all the time but really sit and think about it, people get divorced every day, its nothing new. he is gonna tell you that forever it is not those kids that has him there, trust me, he is married to that woman you are just a fling and not to be rude you will always be. Now why would he leave his wife when you got yourself into it. He is gonna tell you everything to make you stay but I can bet you he goes home to this woman he hates so much every night. They sleep in the same bed, and of course have sex (does he say they dont, i bet he does) I bet she may not even know about you. I bet when he is home he can barely talk. Why would you put yourself into something like that. Not to be rude but you are gonna wake up 5 years from now still doing the same thing. If you do decide to get together which I doubt( not being rude either) you will never trust him because in the back of your mind you are always gonna wonder........always........... If he was a decent man he would have left his wife before dragging you in he dirt. There is NOTHING decent about a married man who cheats NOTHING. Just like he can do it to his wife, he will do it to you. If you leave him today, he will find someone else...trust me. He is no good and sooner or later you will see for yourself. I just hope you are wise enough to leave .
Good luck
2006-09-04 16:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I told my daughter, once a cheat, always a cheat. He cheated on his wife and he'll cheat on you. That's bs about staying in for the kids sake. Most men use that one. I never was involved with a married man, but I know many girls who have been, and I don't think any of them ever left their wife. Stop wasting your life & find a guy who will have a family with you and not be stuck supporting a wife and a mistress.
2006-09-04 16:57:55 · answer #5 · answered by mystery_lvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not. He and his wife has many things in common right now and the kids (although I don't know their ages) will likely keep them together for a while longer yet. And even if he does leave her do you want his kids to look at you as the woman who made their dad leave their wife. Find a single man and tell this married guy to hit the road, that would be my best advice.
2006-09-04 16:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, your just as ignorant as him and his wife. You should not be messing with him either knowing that he is a married man with kids. You should leave him alone and date someone else. And you have not been in a "relationship" with him, you have just been his side chick for two years because at the end of the day he still returns to his family. And evidently he finds his family more important...... step off and let him and his wife work things out, I mean at the end off the day they did marry each other!
2006-09-04 16:44:23 · answer #7 · answered by Diva2ThaBone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snap out of it girl! It's been 2 years. That man is not leaving his wife. You know you are wrong for dating a married man. Where are you morals? There are too many single guys out there for you to be waiting around for this loser!!! He is using you. I don't care what he's telling you. Forget him and move on. Do what you have to do. If you don't like the answers you are getting. Don't come on here asking. I just telling you like it is. One day you will look back up on this and ask yourself why were you so stupid to fall for an a**hole. I'd like to know just how did you to hook up. Did he not tell you from the get go that he was married? He will never be yours. If he can't produce signed divorce papers to you, you need to cut yourself off for him. You deserve better.
2006-09-04 16:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do you live? I'm sure some scorned wives would like to pay you a visit.
Get a life and get rid of the dude. Go see a therapist for your problems. An online question & answer area is not the place for you. You need serious help.
2006-09-04 16:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by YourAnswer... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this my girlfriend? I asked you not to tell anyone about this arrangement. And here you are telling the world. I am surprised you didn't hand out my name ph# and address! If you love me then you will wait and when the time is right, we shall be together. It will probably be when the kids reach 18 years old. Or when and if she messes up really bad. She just hasn't given me any reason to leave her.
2006-09-05 01:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by just1more 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, is HE "gonna use the kids to keep himself around her forever". What do you mean she cheated on him but she doesn't trust him. That makes no sense. Get out of the situation and move on while your losses are small.
T
2006-09-04 16:10:37 · answer #11 · answered by twhoodoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋