Family - August 2007

Got an email from my mother today making some small talk, also she said "your father is ill, I will talk to you about it when I see you next"

I live in another country from my family and go home once a month. Do you think she is trying to protect me from bad news?

If it was nothing serious why would she have mnetioned it?

then I emailed her back asking her to explain she replied:

she emailed me back again saying.......


"I'd rather talk about it when I see you - do NOT tell him I have said
anything, but just try to minimise the stress!
"

2007-08-13 03:27:22 · 5 answers · asked by john g 1

About 6 months ago, my boyfriends father died suddently. we had been going out a year and half at this time and i had been friends with his younger brother and close with his family.

at the funeral my boyfriends ex showed up, and i found out that she was still very good friends with his brother. we did not get along and his brother accused me of "not honoring his father" and being mean to my boyfriends ex who was "trying to honor his father". honestly we only had a few words in private and nothing about this had anything to do wtih him (she apparently told him i was being mean to her).

my boyfriend ignored her, but his brother has held a huge grudge against me since (its been 6 months!) to the point now that he won't even talk that much to his own brother and refuses to let go of this grudge against me. its becoming very stressfull. we would like to get married but now the family stress is giving us cold feet. this is all very sad for me. advice?

he really wont let it go.

2007-08-13 03:16:40 · 8 answers · asked by Ab J 1

is it wroth the wait this i guy i care alot for is asking me to wait for him i mean i understand where he is coming from but i just dont want to waste my time but the thing is he's asking me to wait because i'm goin to have a baby with someone else and he doesnt want to deal with all the baby daddy drama he say's he doesnt know if we will get back together becasue he knows how my baby daddy is

2007-08-13 03:11:36 · 5 answers · asked by baby girl 07 1

I am a very driven person,mother,worker,goal oriented,and for the most part don't let people walk over me.My family is wanting to clean up my backyard and they don't have their own cleaned up.Why are people wanting to put all their weight on me and try to cause me problems with my kids and relationships?I lived in a small town where i still have to deal with the court system for my kids,and my mother lives their.She has caused so much drama in my life and gets mad because i don't feel sorry for her.She is mean and manipulative and has moe time on her hands to find ways to jerk me around.The kids other grandparents are mad becuase i don't want nothing to do with their son so they don't none go out of their way to visit my kids but mad because they can't make me feel inferiour to them.They all have visition on paper and don't exercise their rights.Justshallow phone calls.I once had tocall the cops because they came in and took them for the dayand never asked me.copsdidnt protect myrights

2007-08-13 03:10:05 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My heart aches to see my granddaughter and visit my son and his wife.

In recent months I have been told my visits are putting stress on their marriage. Also all plans they invited me to do with them were cancelled without telling me until I showed up. I am told that visiting me is too far and too expensive. Recently they agreed to let my granddaughter visit me while they were driving pass from a trip to Canada, then cancelled because they signed her up for camp to start when they returned.

Since this began, they have traveled three times with her parents to Canada and Florida. Also my son fixes up her parents rental properties that takes the same amount of time to drive to as to my home.

My son told me to deal with the cards dealt and life is not always fair. He yelled at me but now has told his family I escalated and yelled at him. I apologized just to reach peace, but he still refuses to talk to me.

We were always close; this is so out of character for him. When I used to visit, I bought groceries, helped him fix and clean his house and baby sat while they worked. I thought his wife liked me and enjoyed my visits (that took a lot to arrange my job around their needs).

I can’t help crying sometimes. In general though, it seems like an omen telling me to get a new life, meet new friends and start dating again. I suppose I will survive, I just don’t understand what I did to make my family squeeze me out. The last thing my son said was I need to move closer if we want our relationship to survive, but when I began to look for homes there, is when all this began.

2007-08-13 02:38:24 · 24 answers · asked by Traveler 4

There is this cosuin of me and i dont like her at all beacause she is always calling me and backstabbing, talking **** about others, n even tell me what others say about me (i mean the negative things), so there is no doubt that she would be telling others what i say to her when i hear someone talk **** about me. Since i am sensitive, i get hurt really bad. Even more, she is always talking about negative things in others life. She is a big b i t c h to say in simple words. Would it be right to stop taking her calls since she calls me often. I have even given her enough signals that i am not interested in talking to her, but she doesnt seem to understand or either ignores them/

What do i do?

2007-08-13 02:14:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just got back from vacation in Wildwood, which is the Jersey shore. We shared a condo for a week with my mother and my 2 brothers(1 and 8) and my sister(10). My mother is known for being a thief and a manipulater but she seemed to have changed so we gave her the benefit of the doubt and invited her on our vacation for the sake of the kids. Now, anyone who knows about the Jersey shore knows that everthing costs about 3 times as much as it does anywhere else. So, to get to the point, my mother went down there with $300 in her pocket for her and her 3 kids for the week. We don;t have much money so we brought down $700 for the 3 of us. She promised in advanced that she would split the weekly food bill with us among other things. She only gave us $60 for food(which ended up costing $300 for 7 people for the week), we payed for my bros and sis on the rides and waterpark with the promise of payback. She used my diapers, swimdiapers, formula, baby food and juice, sunblock, etc etc.

2007-08-13 02:01:33 · 6 answers · asked by Ruby Tuesday 3

i'm da elsest n have a younger sist (only 2 of us). She's 7 years younger. Yeah..as a big sist, I her luv so dearly (to a point wen mom asked me how much i care bout my lil sis, i said..i'd kill n die for her)..Da issue here is.. she's going ova to paris to persue her artistic make-up course (btw, we both studied hairstylin n make up 2getha here but she's takin it to a higher level..as I am getting married soon...so i kindda have to sacrifice dat part of my dream). i am very happy for her but part of me is so worried of her safety etc ... i hv sleepless night thinking about it insted of thinking of my wedding (i'm gettin married in 3mnts btw). and i think my future hubby is a lil pissed...(i dont blame him). But its hard to ignore my worries wen da last thing dad told me b4 he died was to take care of lil sis.. n hell yeah...since then thats da promise (or more like a vow) dat i treasure. Wat wld u do if u r in my shoez.. shld i discourage her so dat she'll be here where i can see or?

2007-08-13 01:24:42 · 5 answers · asked by jijieluva 1

i personally think that todays children should be punished more by there parents accordingly,because that way they will learn self respect and treat others accordingly.i mean it never did me any harm when my parents smacked me or i got the caine at school which wasd hardly,i admit i am no goody 2shoes but at least i didnt go round been disrespectfull and damaging property when i was a child/teenager.
also if parents delt with there childrens mis-behaviour then it wouldnt have to be delt with by police and local authority by giving A.S.B.Os out and save money.AND YES BEFORE YOU SAY OWT I AM A PARENT ALSO TO 3 CHILDREN and i would punish them within reason,and if anybody ever told me to stop smacking my child i would tell them its nowt to do with them,its not there children so butt out and do it your way and i will deal with it my way. (s.p.h. of halifax)

2007-08-13 00:33:12 · 19 answers · asked by simon h 1

i can't get my birth certificate because my mother won't give me the original. She won't budge & to such she even went as far as going & telling my other family members not 2 tell me where she lives or what her number is. & i can't get a copy because on the forms 2 get my birth certificate i need 2 know what city i wuz born in, & my fathers 1st & last name, i dont know what city i was born in, & because i dont know wut my father's 1st name is. i dont know because my mother never told me anything about my father. she even told me that my father was dead. & i think my father is actually alive, but my mother won't let me communicate with him (another other story). & i dont want 2 use those websites where u have 2 pay 2 find ur family & that other crap. Please help, i need a copy of it 2 get my job. & i have a step dad so the last name i have now isn't really my last name at birth. My mother keeps on telling me these odd things, im just confused. All i want is my certificate & thats it

2007-08-12 23:35:51 · 5 answers · asked by Jose 1

My daughter would like to trace her father (she has not seen him since she was 3mths old). She is a mother herself and would like to meet her biological father. I don't have the money to hire anyone but don't know how to use the net to find him.
I have no problem with him I just need to be there for her whatever the outcome.
I know he moved down to London/South a few years ago

2007-08-12 21:58:31 · 6 answers · asked by angelrose0105 4

2007-08-12 20:58:41 · 6 answers · asked by KATHLEEN H 1

I love my mother dearly, but she has some major problems that she needs to work through, one of which involves letting me live my own life. I am an adult, married and have my own children. My mother, however can't seem to realize that she can't control my decisions, and refuses to "cut the tie" so to speak. I feel like she's trying to involve in my life so that she won't have to be alone (she doesn't want to stay with dad). She cannot make her own decision and when things go badly, she always comes to me, (the eldest in the family) for rescue. I've tried talking to her, but she says it is my responsibility to help her. It's to the point where it's interfering with everything else in my life and I have tried to break out of that so that we can BOTH move on with our own lives. The problem is she is my mother and I can't cut contact forever but this is not the first time. Every time I show concern, the problem will come haunt me again. This has happened many many times. What should I do?

2007-08-12 20:48:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well my grandma (mom's mom) husband died a few weeks ago (he wasn't my grandpa) There will be a memorial service in a few week I asked my mom if I could be apart of it, and she said no because its not something for kids, but I would still really would like to go to show my respect, How can I get my mom to let me go? Please

2007-08-12 19:29:08 · 17 answers · asked by ? 5

All right, I asked this question before, but apparently everyone misunderstood me.

I Live in New York City, I'm 19, and visiting my grandparents in Florida. Well, I really don't like them, because they treat me like a child, when I am legally an adult. For instance, I can't stay at home alone, because someone will break in and molest me, WTF?!!

Another problem is my boyfriend, didn't come with me. I really miss him. In my last question I said something about wanting to go to his place, at midnight, and I think most of you know what that's code for.

Don't say "just leave" I can't. These people are family, and it would be wrong to say "You're ruining my summer, and I want to go back home so that I can engage in premarital s*x." I mean wouldn't it?

2007-08-12 19:25:34 · 11 answers · asked by Sali 3

I can't go to my boyfriend's house because I'm at my grandparents' house, (may they burn in hell). I really need to because I miss him, and well I mean come on I think you know why would I want to go to my bf's house a 12:00 at night.
And, that is really breaking the camel's back after this terrible day.
I mean I went on my grandparents' boat, and it was so hot, and I had to sit in the little department space in the front of the bow. Not to mention the fact that I'm 19 and they won't leave me at home because they're afraid someone will come and molest me.
I'm going to die here, and I need my boyfriend!!!
I mean seriously, as I said I'm 19. Don't you think I have to be pretty pissed in order to be sounding like an angry 12 year old?

2007-08-12 17:10:50 · 10 answers · asked by Sali 3

2007-08-12 17:03:56 · 4 answers · asked by maria m 1

i look after my dad he passed away of cancers in 97 and i looked after him as a good son my mom ask for my help and iam 1 of 7 kids my dad ask me to look after my mom ,and i have till now all my family tried to keep me out of her home and had police arest me, and now they just trying all this just to get the house my mom and dad is leaveing me .i have no retirement i used when i looked after my and no one help me,now its me and my mom for the last ten years ,what can i do to stop them from pushing me around and saying stuff,

2007-08-12 17:01:38 · 5 answers · asked by rocketman 3

yea my grandparents are thinking of bringing me 2 florida and we dont know when school starts. we didnt even go shopping yet! please help

2007-08-12 16:54:12 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

wen we were little my older bro get all da attention but now he gets little cuzz im begining 2 out do him in everthing like sport,skool,n other activity.. i only want us 2 become good brothers but he nvr listen 2 me n always hav 2 argue bak cuzz im younger n my parent like it that way now he keep getting competitiv with me n i dont want 2 fight with him all da time. wat should i do 2 let him know i only want wats good 4 him????

2007-08-12 16:36:31 · 4 answers · asked by Sum azn guy 1

My cousin just was able to open up and tell me something that made my heart skip a beat. He's really good at bottling up his feelings, but he was still able to tell me this. Does this mean that he trusts me? Loves me? Or am I just getting all 'over-dramatic' again?????

2007-08-12 15:14:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 20 years old, and I live in my own apartment. I go home about every other weekend to see my mom and step dad and have dinner with them. On more then one occasion (5 or6) when my mom steps out of the room my step dad will hand me $100. I never know what to say, I feel like a babbling idiot because I support myself and could really use the extra money but I feel awful for taking it. I usually say something along the lines of "no no, I cant but thank you." and then he says "you need it, take it." which then I usually do with a very grateful thank you.

Is this acceptable or should I keep trying to turn it down? Do you think it is a little odd that he will only do it when my mother is not in the room?

2007-08-12 14:45:47 · 43 answers · asked by *Amanda* 5

Was in a 9 year relationship have been seperated for 1 year now,have a 7 yr. old boy as result.Have 2 take father 2 court 4 child support because he refused to pay a dime after his mother evicted me and his son out of their house for having him arrested for physical abuse,which by the way she condones.Rumor has it that he recently had another baby,but he denies it as he has w/our child.Now that court ordered 4 him 2 pay he now wants visitation rights.Because he has a history of violence I can either A.have supervised visitation or B. fight for no visitaion rights at all.What is in the best interest of child who's stuck in the middle,after all a mother is here to protect her child?

2007-08-12 13:32:58 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-12 13:14:15 · 6 answers · asked by Tubby 2

I had the vacuum cleaner in my closet; that was what my dad was looking for at the time. When he was taking to long to bring it out, I went into my room to find it was pulling out my boyfriends cloths, hats, etc that I had in there;BTW; a spare wallet which I knew, w/ condoms which I had no clue.

He knows there were my bf's because my brother can't wear sizes like that and had snooped and found pictures of him (the most shirt off only) in my backpack/phone which he was mad then. He's seen him in person and has done the whole bark and growl.

Now he thinks were havin' sex throughout the house, so NO guy, not even my gay guy friends can come over; He took my phone; took my door/hinges, and saids he'll be installing a GPS on the car. Mind you that I'm 16 3/4, never had sex in the house or anywhere for that matter. I'm an overall good student and child! My mom trust me and would never extent this.

How can I convince him to stop overreacting on top of the natural fatherly protection?

2007-08-12 12:53:21 · 5 answers · asked by ~Diz Iz Why Im Hot~ 1

Do these folks live in a different wourld than I do?

At 16, I was not asked to do something, I was told to do it and it was done out of respect for my parents. When I became a father my kid's did the things that they were told to do, too.

What's the big deal about getting teenagers to do what they are told?

2007-08-12 12:52:22 · 18 answers · asked by proficient 1

a table away from people with children i have nothing against kids but when i go out to eat i just want to relax..and not here them screaming

2007-08-12 12:34:45 · 18 answers · asked by violated905 2

My sister is always on the phone! She can be on it for hours! Everytime I tell her I need to use it she says I need it for 5 minutes. Then she stays on so long that the phone dies.If anyone calls for me when she is on she will delete it. When I get the chance to be on she wants to get on and if anyone called she gets mad that I didnt answer! Would you be annoyed and mad?!

2007-08-12 12:31:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex Wife died 2 years ago without my knowledge didnt find out till now, had a daughter her, my daughter is now living with my ex's step brother and her natural grandmother. have tried to find her for two years, only to find out that my ex wife died 3 months after finalisation of our divorce.need to know my rights, i was married to her when my daughter was conceived/born and what rights does the step brother as i dont get on with him to say the least.Any help would really be appreciated. many thanks

2007-08-12 12:30:57 · 11 answers · asked by TREVOR G 2

My dad and sister are estranged, and my dad and I just recently started talking again. My sister and her husband have made it clear that they don't want our dad and step-mom to be included in the baby's life. I also don't want to be put in the middle, and I feel like it isn't my news to tell. It is their first child, so my dad's a grandpa for the first time (not counting step-kids). Therefore, I'd feel bad if he didn't know. I'm just not sure that my sister even wants him to know, and I don't want to bring it up and ask her when she just had the baby yesterday. On the other hand, I don't my dad finding out some other way and then make me feel bad about me (or my sister) not telling him. He found out she was pregnant from the woman at the post office and then from an ex-wife (not our mom....he's been married a few times), and I do think that's an awful way to find out you're a grandpa for the first time. Anyway, thanks for reading, and thanks for your help.

2007-08-12 12:30:06 · 5 answers · asked by ChocolateCoveredStrawberries 2