Family - August 2007

As long as I can remember my Dad has been an alcoholic. He had stopped drinking for a few years, but he began drinking again about 2 years ago.
Anyway, ever since I was little he would say mean things to me like, "I used to love you when you were a baby, but not anymore". That was when I was about 11 years old.
Recently he, my brother and I went to New York. He got so drunk they almost didn't let him fly home, but the plane was delayed so they ended up letting him go. Then he started yelling at me on the practically silent airplane in front of a bunch of strangers calling me names and swearing at me because I had to call my Mom and let her know that they weren't going to let him fly home. He called and apologized the next day, but I can't get these incidents out of my head.
There is plenty more, but I think you get the idea. I'm 24 now and on my own with my own family. My dad and I were never close and only have polite conversation when we do talk.
Should I let these things go?

2007-08-11 17:11:38 · 7 answers · asked by ljv1975 2

and he does not want to work in restaurants. He wants his cell phone minutes, clothes, CD's, movies, everything, but he does not want to contribute any money for the light bill or food. He snuck out with the extra set of keys that were hanging in the kitchen & took my car 2 weeks ago after curfew, and he got my car impounded, and he got a ticket, and they gave me a ticket saying I allowed him to drive without a license, but I did not know he snuck out until I heard the police officer knocking at my door at 11:30 p.m. I should not have to pay for that ticket, because he took the car without permission. We go to court on Aug. 14th. I cannot even get him to clean his room or closet, but he wants me to give him money for his phone. My friend says tell him if he cleans up his room, then he will get the money for his phone, and if he don't then no phone. He is going to really have to earn my trust again.

2007-08-11 15:40:58 · 24 answers · asked by mldavr29 1

My brother allowed my 18 year old daughter to go and drink and party at his house.I found out and went up there and talked to her and let her know I disaproved. He intervened and we had words. Now I'm told that I disrespected his house and his wife and he doesn't want me to come back for awhile, to let things calm down and then I'd be able to come back .

2007-08-11 15:08:26 · 17 answers · asked by physco 3

My daddy is sending me to a STRICT boarding school and we leave at the end of next week. I feel this is being done AGAINST MY WILL, But he has made it EXTREMELY CLEAR, that this matter is not up for debate and I better accept it. This school will have ROTC, uniforms, no boys and I they want to BREAK MY SPIRIT. Consequently, my daddy and I have had many arguments, I have gotten punished a few times recently for obsessive BACK TALK, and lets call a SPADE A SPADE HERE and say that things are EXTREMELY STRAINED between us. In several days, my daddy will be driving me to this school and it's far away, I mean like 600-700 miles or something, it will be just us. How am I going to be able to STAND THIS?

He said as soon he gets home he is going to take my brother who is starting college and that is only like 100 miles or something.

Please note my mom is not with us anymore.

Also, please note, I am 16 and rather spoiled.

Thank you and good day,

2007-08-11 15:06:50 · 10 answers · asked by Lori 5

2007-08-11 12:42:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

today I had a very close person come into my work and they were so heartbroken that it killed me... A very close family member to them decided that since their life was not going the way they wanted (free ride) that they would call other family members to let them know that nobody cared and nobody would help and that she/he was homeless and that her parents would not even help them.. Okay so this very close family member and the heartbroken person are mother and daughter... So..... they were looking for donations from others in their family b/c their parents would not help them.. this is so far from the truth.. and are we suppose to enable one who won't even try and fix their life.. hell, are we suppose to help one that majority of the time does not even appreciate the love and help they receive from family and friends? we all have hard times and we do our best to get through them however, some of us feel that it is better to make up stories and hurt the ones who would die for them or die for their children....all that because they are hoping for the wrong attention and help.. **** it is not just about the wrong attention..it is attention under false pretenses...back to the hard times.....that ALL of us have and will go through at some time in our life... as in, not having a job or loosing a job...not being able to pay bills...not having somebody to hold....and love....loosing a dear one.. the list could go on.. hard times are diifferent for each and every one of us.... okay.. we get to these hard times some how.... there is a root to all of are issues that we come across in our lives...so... (please understand, I hate bringing up somebodys dirt in their lives but yet some people need to know about others issues b/c it effects some many people) This person had a job (I wanna say full time and okay money) Their "spouse" ( I say this b/c they have lived and acted as a couple with a child together, playing house as my father has called it--maybe not towards them but he has used this saying--) was not working the whole time but yet he did occasionally...I am a witness to her telling him that he needed to be home b/c a sitter was needed for the smaller child they had together and her older son...to each his own... but they moved and then roughly four months later they are having to go to court b/c they were getting evicted...I have had a hard time where yes I had to be late with rent, but nobody is perfect and we are all not rich...or have what you call "bills" and something that occurs in our life, the "hard times"....Okay, her "spouse" informs all that this eviction was not over one month, not two months but 3.....Well, typically when one moves in a new place they pay a deposit and first months rent..which equals ----they in a sense skipped out on their first month payment... and second.. you know... both pretty much working at this time, crud---getting help from the state for food, child support... only bills they have are rent, utilities and living money... why could they not make these monthly rent payments or why are they soooo... behind....?? she has fake chop shop nails, getting her hair done.....bingo, Wal-mart and making trips to the beach and staying over night (hello hotel bill)....she then decides to pull a stunt that helps her get domestic abuse assistance.....b/c she was kicked out and no where to go...he "goes" away and she ends up in a hotel.. last I heard enjoy the pool and having little barb-q's with her friend who got escorted off with a restraing order who is staying in the same hotel as the husband who pays for his own rent and her hotel, yet the state helps these false people too? Point there, birds of a feather flock together.....well, we probably all in this "situration" would run out of our chance at this free and fun ride....She knows her parents are dis-appointed with majority of her choices in life...family has offered to help by taking her children and allowing them to stay in their home..it would be so much better then a hotel....yes, she would have to fend for herself, but this is what she caused.. she is not the nicest person and again, she laughs at how she has had this free ride..she thinks it is sooo..cool..and again she is very mean...so no, family and friends won't allow her but will open their doors for these babys of hers....that to me is very big of these ones with open arms...she doesn't take those offers and gets sick of probably bouncing or like I said prior, her free ride with the domestic abuse assistance has run out..she turns to her fathers side of the family....tells stories and hurts those ones who have tried....some of these family members reacted before thinking about her track record (of it all in whole and that she tends to lie)... that is when my MOTHER gets a horrible horrible message from her brother in law and all the message does is tear her and my father apart.... this sucks... however, he was the bigger person and spoke with my ma and told her how sorry he was.. the damage control though was not just this family member but so many others...I don't get it...Who is going to call those people and set this straight? My mother feels she does not need to explain herself..but it hurts me so much knowing that somebody has told such horrible and untrue things (she is freaking ungrateful) about my best friend (my madre).... I am angry and I don't understand why her own child could tell such horrible things... why does she want to hurt her and others in her family?? her parents for godsake.... this is very long and this is not even half of the full story...but I just had to get it off my mind by laying it out for all.. I did say at the beginning that some people need to be exsposed of their true nature..b/c they have so many people fooled that it makes me sick..I am sure that a lot of people on my friends list have fallen victim to her hatefullness in someway somehow....hell, there are some of you on there that she has told untruthfull things about.. trying to make herself look better.. hurts but this is called liers and I hate that more then anythings... Lets be honest.... Also, I need advice... I feel my parents need "justice" and therefore I feel she should be confronted and told that she better make some life changes because she is going to get the help she needs so badly but not the way she wants it.. her story is out and others soon will not think "oh poor girl".. they will think F#%K THIS, what about the children...????
Again, length.. so sorry but I had to get it out... the bounciness of it, so sorry but my thoughts of this person just all come out.....at once...
thanks for whoever takes the time to read this..

2007-08-11 12:35:43 · 4 answers · asked by dillardeliza2000@verizon.net 2

ok...im 13 and my mom did a drug overdose wen i was 3 my dad was recently married then divored. he has now moved his high school sweetheart in with us and i do not like her. she is soo mean to me gives me dirty looks and if my dad says i am allowed to do something [go hang out with friends use the phone ect] she almost always convinces him that im not allowed. she also does the same thing to my sister who is 16. her and my dad get into fights a lot and she always says she moving back to michigan [we live in fl] ive talked to my dad about it and he says thats shes staying. then she found out and told me "im not going anywhere" they both drink. she drinks beer so she doesnt get drunk as fast. but my dad drinks vodka in huge glases so hes prety quick. i dont want her to stay with us because i really do hate her. how can i try and fix it? oh and she always says i have an attitude wen i dont and wen she says that it gives me one and i get grounded. and she lies to my dad to get me grounded

2007-08-11 12:30:40 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter just told us that she is pregnant (she is 21 and not married) but she wants to do the whole formal church wedding thing after the baby is born, and of course she wants us to pay for it. How much should we give her. While we are not on poverty row, we don't have a ton of money either. I've been thinking of just giving her $5,000 and being done with it. Is that too much? Too little? Oh, and she wants to get married 3,000 miles away where it will be almost impossible to have family attend. We do have a good relationship, but this is very frustrating for me.

2007-08-11 12:05:39 · 11 answers · asked by John B 7

that she is much loved by her family when her friends have so very much influence?

2007-08-11 11:54:10 · 4 answers · asked by Walking on Sunshine 7

I love my kids, I really do... but they are all teens now - all 3 of them.
They are great kids, and most things we handle together, but sometimes their logic and attitude are just beyond frustrating.

Do you have a story to share about your teenager?

2007-08-11 11:40:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was talking to my grandmother the other day. We were talking about my future. I always figured I would balance a career and a family (I want 3 kids). My grandmother told me, though, that if I want children I need to stay at home...that I have no idea how important it is for me to be there. What do you think? I really want a career, but my family would be more important....though, I'm only 18 so it's not like I have to decide now.

2007-08-11 09:49:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am watching my two year old niece while her mom is on a cruise. The other day, she was playing outside. I went into the house to answer the phone, and she was gone when i got back outside. I have not seen her since. I am scared to go to the police, because I do not want to get into trouble with my sister (I also feel REALLY stupid). What do I do? It's been hot outside, so I'm a little worried.

2007-08-11 09:43:05 · 6 answers · asked by Albi 1

I found this great soup that says, Vegetarian Vegetable Soup with beef..... can I eat it??? if I am a vegetarian????

2007-08-11 09:21:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

My aunt lives with my parents and me. Ever since she's moved here in 2003, she's always saying negative things about me such as "You have fat thighs", "When you were little, you were beautiful..what happened?", "You have small breasts", etc. It gets on my nerves. I let my mom know about this many times and my mom has spoken with her, but she still does this. I always help my mom take care of my aunt and never get anything nice in return. I have always gone by the saying, "treat others as you would like to be treated." i've treated her nicely, shouldn't she treat me the same? Yesterday was the worst, she kept on complimenting my brother who visited. He doesn't help her out like I do. And she kept saying, "Oh, your brother is so handsome.", "Your brother will have really beautiful children", "Your brother is so sweet." I was so mad, tears started running down my cheeks. My mom told me later that I shouldn't cry because that was my aunt's goal.

So, what should I do?

2007-08-11 09:17:24 · 8 answers · asked by tdo314 1

2007-08-11 08:31:29 · 14 answers · asked by SHARON 4

This would help with future crime investigations (murder, rape, etc.). And also help to ensure that the father is trully the biological father right away, instead of having to waste his time and money on a child who isn't his and a mother who is a worthless piece of scum.

Any thoughts?

2007-08-11 08:30:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When it comes to raising children, everyone has their own ideas. It would be interesting to know how the young people of today plan on raising their families. Will it be different than their own upbringing, or will they follow the methods used by their own parents?

2007-08-11 07:45:35 · 17 answers · asked by Me, Too 6

My younger son is 6 and my older son is 8. I stopped doing parties for friends for a while, and have been just doing a small party/get together with family(grandparents, aunts, uncles...total of about 10 people). But they seem to think that this is not appropriate every year by this age. I don't ask them to bring presents..just to come over and celebrate and have cake and ice cream. Is this too much to ask? Is this not appropriate?

2007-08-11 07:42:24 · 9 answers · asked by paganmom26 3

she does a bunch of gay stuff like "webkinz" and watches "hannah montana" and is obsessed with the disney channel and does retarded dances to get attention. I know shes pretty cool... but all that crap she does worries me. I don't want her to be the "retarded girl who watches hannah montana" in her eighth grade year!

2007-08-11 06:32:27 · 7 answers · asked by mando9kid 1

My husband is ALWAYS late. He's late to work everyday, if we're going out with friends, he's late, if we're going to a movie, he's late, if it's at all important to me, he's late. What can I do to communicate to him that his being late is making everyone around us upset?

2007-08-11 06:29:04 · 9 answers · asked by sarahbeth 4

15 & everyone hates me. i have no friends. its summer. school out. im bored. everyday i sit home bored. nothing to do. i just sit in my bedroom & talk to the walls. all my movies are gone. there isnt anyone i can call. i dont know anyones number. im dead serious. everyday is wasted because i have nothing to do. today is another day wasted. im an only child. i hate being alone. i want a friend. please help me! im lonely! im sitting in the corner of my room watching the clock tick. im so bored. i dont want to leave the house unless if grandma takes me somewhere. now im bored. help! im sick of being stuck here.

2007-08-11 06:18:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need to know wat to do i cry my self to sleep everynight
no one here like s me i don't live with my real parenets
i haven't heard from my bf in so long
i have none i can talk to
i don't have any of my stuff yeah i have clothes but they were all bought wit a vcocher
i have to obey the foster care rules
i need to know if i should stay here and cry myself to sleep everynigt or if i should talk my anunt into gettting gardinship of me and go back to my real home and live in caldwel agian and go back to my skool and have my friends
wat do i do i want to leave but yet i don't want to turn my back on this family
but yet i don't want to cry myself to sleep at night
HELP!!!!????!!!!....

2007-08-11 06:09:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

If i say his hair is freaky in the morning he will sigh a mean sigh.And if i ever mess with him like play he will scream and hit me.And sometimes he will just scream randomly my mom keeps trying to stop.but it wont work with him i think he has a.d.d

2007-08-11 04:51:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

what if I just work on reverse pschycology with both of them,If I stand aside and let him have his hearts fill it is not possible for mother & son to always see eye to eye give him the secluded cold shoulder without any confrontation . This wayhe getsto figure out himself what he has done and if this relationship is worth saving for him he will think more seriously about his mothers behaviour and see what he needs to do?

2007-08-11 04:50:28 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Also she has a 15 year old son because she is divoced but it wasn't her fault. The reason why she got divorced was because she found out that her ex husband was dating behind her back and her son lives with her ex husband. And her son is 15 and I am 23. Is it still allowed? Also this women is related to me by marriage already because she is my sister-in-law's cousin by blood. So we are already related by marriage. I have had a crush on her since I was 13, wich was when my brother first met his wife who is now my sister-in-law, and now our family and her family are all family now. My sister-in-law's cousin has known me since I was 13 and she does not know that I have had a crush on her all these years. I even remeber when her son was 5 years old at that time when my brother was getting engaged to her cousin. Now I am 23 and she is 38 and I still have a crush on her. Am I allowed to marry her?

2007-08-11 04:33:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

Shes always invading my privacy and going thru my things.

She went on my aim sn and had all these conversations with my friends pretending it was me and if im talking to a boy on the phone she'll laugh and be like "Sabrina has a new boyfriend!" in front of my parents.

Shes a TOTAL nightmare, I've even cried at some of the things shes done. Everybody says she will get better later but I need her to change TODAY!! I'm going thru some really difficult things right now and I need her to leave me alone.

2007-08-11 04:18:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do not know if I should call her a prima donna. And I do not know why.. I have been disliking my mother for a long time. No matter how good I am to her, she still thinks it isn't enough. She is the centre of the universe. When she isn't treated like a queen, she flares up. And it is never her fault, she'll always find someone to blame. I can't walk out on her because she did take care of us when we were young. My father is ignoring her for years now because he is fed up with her. But she thinks my dad is the one at fault. It is very frustrating to live with someone like this cos she thinks she is either always right or always being victimised.

2007-08-11 04:17:55 · 1 answers · asked by Puffersheep 2

Ever since his father's death, my husband has single handedly taken the responsibility of taking care & making his mother happy. Youngest if the four siblings he beleives that it is his most important duty. last year she moved in with us and I tried to welcome her to the best of my abilty, however I have soon realised that she is playing mind games & dirty games spoiling my r'ship with my husband. She behaves differently in front of him &behind his back makes me feel as an outsider in my own house. She would pass sly comments under her breath so I can hear but will always behave as the ever loving always comprimising mother in front of him. I understand her games and it makes me mad,but despite my making my husband aware of the situation he takes her side and blames me for being a drama queen and overreacting. All this is putting a heavy toll on our marraige as I can see my husband drifting away from me and hating me for not loving his motherthe way he does.

2007-08-11 04:11:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't know how to approach the topic of next steps for myself and my daughter with my parents. They are very opinionated and dominating.

I have to decide if my ex-husband, daughter and I will live together once again as a family or my daughter will stay with me. We live in different states.

I have to make plans soon as my daughter's school starts soon and she needs to be mentally prepared for which school she is going to attend.

My father thinks that he and my mother should talk to my daughter and convince her that she should stay in California.

My daughter feels that my life will be smoother here, but more normal with her father.

I don't want to same situation to repeat with my ex-husband. It was hard for me to deal with his controlling ways and he could be verbally mean.

My dad gives too much importance to my job which will be ending soon anyway since its contract.

How do I start discussing this topic with my parents?

2007-08-11 04:08:24 · 12 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Im talkin about dating a certain female friend of mine..well the other day we found out that her cousin(like 2nd cousin) has a cousin who is my cousin..does this relate us?

2007-08-11 04:01:54 · 16 answers · asked by D-rok G 2