My husband is ALWAYS late. He's late to work everyday, if we're going out with friends, he's late, if we're going to a movie, he's late, if it's at all important to me, he's late. What can I do to communicate to him that his being late is making everyone around us upset?
2007-08-11 06:29:04 · 9 answers · asked by sarahbeth 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Change the time he is supposed to be somewhere. For example if the movie starts at 8 say it starts at 7 (adjust the time according to how late he usually is). As far as work goes have a talk with his boss and see if his hours can be changed to earlier so he shows up at the time he is supposed to be there now. (Im surprised he hasnt been fired).
People who are chronically late dont respect others. I know I have had my time wasted by people like him many times. Its annoying. If things dont change people will tire of him and quit inviting him.
2007-08-11 06:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most folks who are chronically late have poor planning skills.They have a hard time estimating how long things will take, and they often are not very good on determining the details necessary in accomplishing a task. I would mention to him each instance when others are upset that he is late. I would also invest in a good organization and planning book which helps people who are chronically late. There are alot of good books on the market regarding this.
2007-08-11 13:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by nat u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your other answers. It is a sign of disrespect to be late. Many people will analyze the passive agressiveness of it and/or laziness but it doesnt matter the reason why. What matters is your life is not right because of someone else's rudeness. No one should have that sort of power to ruin anothers day
2007-08-11 13:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do. Lets say you want to meet for dinner or something and it is at 7 you tell him 6:30 and so on. It worked for my dad. Also have you told him how you feel about his lateness? Good Luck!
2007-08-11 13:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by mabuisakura 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the work thing. Maybe you could try and mess with his alarm clock.
We have a couple of family members who are like that. When it comes to social events we just tell them that it's happening an hour earlier than it really is.......works like a charm.
2007-08-11 13:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by tg315 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You really need to sit down with him & have a heart to heart about this being late. Express your feelings to him. If he can't understand how important this is to you than I am guessing he might be jerk in other areas to.
2007-08-11 13:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Magic Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being late is acting out hostility, It is selfish and controlling. Suggest some marriage counseling.
2007-08-11 13:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set his clocks back half an hour and tell him to be at a place half an hour before he has to be ther
2007-08-11 13:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Greg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he does it again you'll slap him lmao
2007-08-11 13:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋