How can two people who are DISGUSTED with each other share a long car ride?

Question

My daddy is sending me to a STRICT boarding school and we leave at the end of next week. I feel this is being done AGAINST MY WILL, But he has made it EXTREMELY CLEAR, that this matter is not up for debate and I better accept it. This school will have ROTC, uniforms, no boys and I they want to BREAK MY SPIRIT. Consequently, my daddy and I have had many arguments, I have gotten punished a few times recently for obsessive BACK TALK, and lets call a SPADE A SPADE HERE and say that things are EXTREMELY STRAINED between us. In several days, my daddy will be driving me to this school and it's far away, I mean like 600-700 miles or something, it will be just us. How am I going to be able to STAND THIS?

He said as soon he gets home he is going to take my brother who is starting college and that is only like 100 miles or something.

Please note my mom is not with us anymore.

Also, please note, I am 16 and rather spoiled.

Thank you and good day,

No Emawee, we have to drive so that we can take my STUFF.

Thank you and good day.

This is one is going to EXTREMELY close between Gussie, Victoria, Emawee and that newcomer Sara K.

Thank you and good day.

Answer 1

Well Lori you are getting down to the wire.I think you and your dad should make an effort to use the drive to get reaquainted.After all you will not be seeing each other for some time.I'm sure there was a time in your life when you and your dad did communicate with each other.I'm sure you love your dad and he loves you as well.Music is always good on a long trip.Why not surprise your dad and make a cd that is a mix of your favorite songs, your dad's and perhaps your mom's too.You could give your dad a copy to play on his return trip.I think it would be a small step towards bringing you and your dad together.compromise is always a first step towards change.It is also a sign of maturity when we are able to think of others and not only of ourselves. good luck in your future plans.Have you ever heard the saying "It is not the destination but the journey that is important".Try to keep us posted .Take care.

Answer 2

Jeez. Tough one. But guess who gets to take a long, boring drive upstate tomorrow and who hates driving period?

Ask your dad if you can bring some kind of device that plays movies (ie iPod or laptop) and leave it in the car. Pay for 2 or 3 movies and bring headphones. That's what I'm going to do. But I'll probably do other stuff too.

And if you have a cell phone, which I assume you do, why not set up an aim account and use it while you're driving?

If you're setting up your facebook and email before you go, try to get ahold of your roommate. Maybe you two can talk on the drive. Or call your friends from home.

Bring some magazines/books. if you get carsick, take a non-drowsy medicine. (Mine is called Hyland's Homeopathic Motion Sickness, which is natural and I got it at whole foods)

And, maybe, by then, we'll be able to chat. That may be the day we're driving to the other hotel. Hmm....5 days? No, but I'll still be able to aim or whatever.

Or, you could bring an empty notebook, write all your thoughts and feelings in it (that you want your father to know), label it "daddy" and leave it in the car.

Whatever happens, Lori, I'm still here. You have my email, I'll give you my facebook and aim and all that. I'm really going to miss having someone who understands me, so please stay in touch.

Good luck coming up with some drive entertainment!

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Answer 3

Despite the fact that you have a strained relationship now, maybe before the trip, you could compose a letter to him. You may not want to do this, but it may make for an easier car ride. It's a given that you will have to end up going to the school, so let him know that you have some issues with his decision, but you will respect his authority. Then, ask him about his ideas regarding the trip, and how the two of you could make the best of a bad situation. Ask him to sit down and talk with you about the trip, and declare ahead of time that there will be 1) No yelling 2) No more arguing about his decision to send you to the school. Really make an effort. He will notice it, and respect you for how hard you are working. Who knows, maybe it will impress him enough that he will eventually relent and let you go to a different school?

Answer 4

Call a truce for the duration of the trip. Agree not to talk about past issues or the boarding school. See if he will plan a few stops along the way to do some fun things. You may not feel like it, but it's better than arguing or silence for such a long trip.

Answer 5

hello,,enjoy the new found freedom, and get with the program , you will be broken but your spirit will just need rechanneled into this school, you could try to get involved and show your enthusiasm maybe he thinks you are a lost cause but you must get smart fast, you will grow up faster than you want and will miss some fun things but this path is not all bad, but you won't be daddies little girl in the end. NO SIR!YES MAM! get use to it. and good luck,( 2 YEARS AND OUT!)

Answer 6

Just don't talk to him. If he tries talking to you just give him one of those "You already know how I feel about this, there is really nothing else for us to say" looks. I'm sure you'll have a lot to think about in the car anyway. Just listen to music, read or look out the window. Good luck at your new school.

Answer 7

This reminds me of a nurse I used to work with. When she was a teenager her father sent her to a school far away. She didn't want to go and begged him to let her stay where she was at. He refused and sent her to this school.
Years later her father got sick and needed around the clock care. She sent him to a nursing home. All he did was gripe and complain so she didn't visit him for one month. A month later when she went to visit him, he started in how she didn't visit him, etc. etc. She told him straight to his face, "Damn right I didn't visit you, all you do is gripe and complain. And you need to knock that **** off and act like a man!!!"
After that, he knocked that **** off and acted like a man.

Answer 8

READ THIS. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT AND MAY CHANGE UR LIFE!!!!: it was some ping-pong ball joke. this guy whenever he was asked by his dad wat he wanted 4 his b-day, the guy would say a ping-pong ball. and then on his 16th b-day. he gets a car along w/ his ping pong ball. then he goes driving. gets into an accident. while so is on his death bed in hospital, dad asks why u want all those ping-pong balls son? and the son says:"I...I..I wanted em...." and then he dies O_o i was SO annoyed:P so ya neways and ya that part at the very top, that was just to get ya to read this. i stressed the word MAY while i was typing that part:P

Answer 9

Well your actions and back talk don't seem to be workin' for ya sunshine. Lose the attitude and maybe you dad will only leave you there for 1 year and want you back home.

Answer 10

wow, cant u fly......that would be like so much better.