I was talking to my grandmother the other day. We were talking about my future. I always figured I would balance a career and a family (I want 3 kids). My grandmother told me, though, that if I want children I need to stay at home...that I have no idea how important it is for me to be there. What do you think? I really want a career, but my family would be more important....though, I'm only 18 so it's not like I have to decide now.
2007-08-11 09:49:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the influence you have on your kids outweights any material gain you can get from a career or job. Someone will influence your kids and it will be who they spend the most time with.
After work you will be too tired to have quality time with your kids.
2007-08-11 10:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have chosen to be a stay-at-home mom. But I also work-at-home and have a husband who works a full time job. If your family live within it means (don't spend more money than your husband can bring home) then I would highly recommend being a stay-at-home mom. Besides, it only lasts 18 years, you still have a lot of years to experience being a career woman before and after kids. Enjoy being a mom while it lasts. You only get one chance at it for each child and they will hold on to the memories for years long after you die.
2007-08-11 09:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think mom home is important for the first 10-15 years of your child's life. I have 3 boys....I am an educator...worked for 10 years and stayed home for 15. Am back to teaching for the past 9 years...steadily part-time and full time as needed by my school. During my children's education, I was active in nursery school, PTA, volunteering and heading organization, chaperoning trips and events in school, guest spoke and taught lessons in my children's classes, was a cub scout den mother, committee chairperson, treasurer, organized speakers for meetings and sport and scout dinners for over 13 years...and many more things not mentioned......no moss under my feet ....the boys loved to have mom around and so did their friends.....many told me they wished that their moms could do what I've done.....I kept active and found myself lightening the load as they got older and grew into responsible young men...then i decided to return to education to keep my mind going.....I am a college professor and find my schedule great.....still can be myself and be a mom and active citizen/volunteer.
Your grandmother is so right...with age comes wisdom!
If you can do without a few things in life and give your love and time to your kids...you and they will be richer for your decision!
My Best.....
2007-08-11 10:31:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's the thing. I think most mothers would like to stay home with our children full time, but this day and age it's not possible. I'm married with two children, work 75%/40hrs week, and go to school 75% time. My husband and I need two incomes to survive, and he makes decent money. My advice is to go to college asap, and get your education before marriage and kids. You may have to work, but you'll have a degree and make enough money for it to be worth it!
2007-08-11 09:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a good education.... put some money away , then when you are ready to start a family, you might be able to afford to stay home...... in this day and age it takes both parents working to make ends meet...... and since you are so young, you have lots of time to decide what to do........ I worked for two years when they were babies, then stayed home until both of my sons were in their early teens......... and I didnt work full time... I thought the boys needed me home more than my job needed me... but the part-time work helped get them through college........... and now that they are both grown with their own families....... I work full time..... working towards a good retirement.......
2007-08-11 10:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is in response to D's reply, you can get fired from being a SAHM/D (screw up and the system takes your children~worse then being fired), you do get paid (maybe not in cash, but you get paid through the gratitude of your children and mate), and move at your own pace, that's a joke. "Little Johnny" needs a change, do you think he's going to wait. That doesn't even include the other numerous tasks that you need to create a schedule for to finish up during the course of the day. Heck, I have seen people in different positions that just sit there all day doing next to nothing (ever see one of those little, mini gas stations where it's only one person in a box, most times that person has nothing to do thanks to credit/debit cards, tell me that person doesn't set their own pace).
2016-05-19 23:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to be one or the other. you can stay home for a couple of years, then go back to work, work partime, work from home. Some couples I know, one person works days, the other works evenings. And there are many more stay at home dads. And my the time you have kids there will probably be many more mom-friendly work options.
2007-08-11 10:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think when the time comes, you'll do what you have to do. my dad thinks the problem with the world today is the fact that many mom's don't stay home anymore. i beg to differ. i know plenty of mom's who've had to work and they have great kids. i know others who don't work and have great kids to. it's not just about how much time you're with them but also what you do with that time and how you parent
2007-08-11 09:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK IT IS NICE WHILE THE CHILDREN ARE VERY YOUNG BUT FOR YOUR FINANCIAL SECURITY YOU WILL PROBABLY NEED TO WORK AFTER THAT.
2007-08-11 10:01:50 · answer #9 · answered by Bettee62 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋