Shes always invading my privacy and going thru my things.
She went on my aim sn and had all these conversations with my friends pretending it was me and if im talking to a boy on the phone she'll laugh and be like "Sabrina has a new boyfriend!" in front of my parents.
Shes a TOTAL nightmare, I've even cried at some of the things shes done. Everybody says she will get better later but I need her to change TODAY!! I'm going thru some really difficult things right now and I need her to leave me alone.
2007-08-11 04:18:58 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She is 13, three years younger then me
2007-08-11 04:34:59 · update #1
Well, it's possible that she needs more attention from you. That would take a lot of chutzpa on your part to muster up. Can you make her an ally instead of an enemy? It's probably worth a shot. Take her somewhere, do some things she wants to do, spend some time with her.
Honestly, I couldn't do it. I'd strangle the brat. But if you have it in you to give it a try, then it just might work for you.
2007-08-11 04:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the hardest things to learn in life is that we can't change anybody else; it's not even our right to change someone else because that means we are accepting other people's right to change us to how they see fit.
So, what to do?
First, try to see things from her perspective. I know you want HER to see things from your perspective, but you've got to get into her mindset before you'll ever have any hope of connecting with her and having her understand. Why does she do these things? It may be she wants your attention; it may be she wants other people's attention; it may be the sense of power she gets from it; it may be a kind of revenge thing if you are seen as the 'good' one and she's stuck in the role of a 'bad' one. Really try to see how she's seeing the situation. Once you can see it, then you'll be able to think up ideas on how to deal with it. Attention? Give her some of your undivided attention. Include her in something. Power? Maintain your own power over yourself, maintain your cool, and if she sees she has no power over you, then she's going to lose interest. Revenge? Giving her positive attention so that she doesn't feel like the left out, bad one. Jealousy for you being the older one with special privileges? That's a trickier one as it usually comes out of parenting. Making a connection with her so she feels special can help.
If none of that seems feasible or it just doesn't seem to work, you'll have to play the game. Make sure everything is set up on your computer so that you have to log in each time. Change your password frequently. Flip the tables on her--tape a sheet of paper on you that says, "I'm talking with my new boyfriend" while on the phone, etc. Basically, make it impossible to get into your things and work at taking some of the fun out of her game playing.
Ultimately, though, if she felt more included, she wouldn't feel the need to go snooping or harrassing you. As much as she may be your pesky little sister, there's still a part of her that wants your attention and wants to know you care about her.
2007-08-11 04:53:53 · answer #2 · answered by glurpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister probably looks up to you and what she really wants is to be included in your life and some attention.
getting the negative attention is probably good enough right now, because at least she gets a reaction.
i think that if you spend some time with her and include her in your world a couple times a week, things might change eventually. you could try it a couple times... after that let her know you will continue to do something with her a couple times a week, if she respects your privacy and acts like a lady.
it's worth a try... she loves you and doesn't know how to act.
please don't cry, it gives her more bait to torment you, hon....
2007-08-11 04:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to your parents and tell them how her behaviour is upsetting you and tell them you are very hurt by her behaviour. Ask them to talk to her and stop her. Laughing off her behaviour now will surely see her turn into a mean, rude adult.
If I were your parent, I would let you put a lock on your bedroom door or I would sit her down and lay down the law about respecting other people's privacy and dignity. Hide your personal belongings if you must or put them in a container that can be locked. Don't let her win this one. Good luck.
2007-08-11 04:29:12 · answer #4 · answered by kip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down which contain your mom and have a severe communicate. clarify which you love your little sister regardless of the undeniable fact that it is no longer honest to you or your chum for her to be around you all the situations; She is purely too youthful to be around older boys and needs some lady acquaintances; yet, nonetheless if extremely isn't honest for you and your pals to no longer have it sluggish on my own devoid of her. You deserve your very own lifestyles too. i think of in case you will calmly clarify this to you mom she will see what you're conversing approximately and take it extra heavily. You 2 purely could be bickering to and fro for all time and your mom has no longer extremely observed the way it is effecting your lifestyles which contain your pals.
2016-10-02 02:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by courcelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwwwwwwwwww im the youngest of three brothers so i would know!! She really loves and adores you just take her to the mall for a girls day out every know and then. Now for privacy make sure you set passwords and locks like crazy double check everything. X out all of your im's. Be careful
2007-08-11 04:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Fabulousness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a bit of quality time with her...shes only being a pest because she wants attention from you...include her in things every now and then...do girlie things 2gether..hair and nails......talk 2 her about how she is annoying you and that if she carries on with her mischievous behaviour you wont spend quality time with her the following day.. as a punishment...if she does start to be good...make sure you stick to the quality time...i hope that was helpfull..however...if none of this works i would just completely ignore her and show her that the things she does doesnt not bother you at all....just smile..it will be hard at 1st.but it will work....she wont do it anymore if it doesnt get a reaction...trust me ..
2007-08-11 04:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she thinks you're not going to invite her into your world (how old is she?) so she is going to get in one way or another, you are her sister and she loves you and looks up to you so try letting her in a little to where it won't be imposing on you but makes her feel like she exists to you and I think giving her a little will give you back alot.
2007-08-11 04:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by julia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not spend some time with her everyday, and then she may not try so hard to get attention from you. She must be so proud of you, that she tries so hard to be like you and be a part of your life.
2007-08-11 04:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by westville sal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It bothers you because you empower her to be able to bother you.
You have to do more than ignore it. You have to truly show her that what she does and says has absolutely no bearing on what it is you do.
If you do not empower her to bother you then there is nothing she can do to bother you.
BTW, you look cute.
2007-08-11 04:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by cwohlberg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋