liars..long long.. I wrote this to some friends and family..?

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today I had a very close person come into my work and they were so heartbroken that it killed me... A very close family member to them decided that since their life was not going the way they wanted (free ride) that they would call other family members to let them know that nobody cared and nobody would help and that she/he was homeless and that her parents would not even help them.. Okay so this very close family member and the heartbroken person are mother and daughter... So..... they were looking for donations from others in their family b/c their parents would not help them.. this is so far from the truth.. and are we suppose to enable one who won't even try and fix their life.. hell, are we suppose to help one that majority of the time does not even appreciate the love and help they receive from family and friends? we all have hard times and we do our best to get through them however, some of us feel that it is better to make up stories and hurt the ones who would die for them or die for their children....all that because they are hoping for the wrong attention and help.. **** it is not just about the wrong attention..it is attention under false pretenses...back to the hard times.....that ALL of us have and will go through at some time in our life... as in, not having a job or loosing a job...not being able to pay bills...not having somebody to hold....and love....loosing a dear one.. the list could go on.. hard times are diifferent for each and every one of us.... okay.. we get to these hard times some how.... there is a root to all of are issues that we come across in our lives...so... (please understand, I hate bringing up somebodys dirt in their lives but yet some people need to know about others issues b/c it effects some many people) This person had a job (I wanna say full time and okay money) Their "spouse" ( I say this b/c they have lived and acted as a couple with a child together, playing house as my father has called it--maybe not towards them but he has used this saying--) was not working the whole time but yet he did occasionally...I am a witness to her telling him that he needed to be home b/c a sitter was needed for the smaller child they had together and her older son...to each his own... but they moved and then roughly four months later they are having to go to court b/c they were getting evicted...I have had a hard time where yes I had to be late with rent, but nobody is perfect and we are all not rich...or have what you call "bills" and something that occurs in our life, the "hard times"....Okay, her "spouse" informs all that this eviction was not over one month, not two months but 3.....Well, typically when one moves in a new place they pay a deposit and first months rent..which equals ----they in a sense skipped out on their first month payment... and second.. you know... both pretty much working at this time, crud---getting help from the state for food, child support... only bills they have are rent, utilities and living money... why could they not make these monthly rent payments or why are they soooo... behind....?? she has fake chop shop nails, getting her hair done.....bingo, Wal-mart and making trips to the beach and staying over night (hello hotel bill)....she then decides to pull a stunt that helps her get domestic abuse assistance.....b/c she was kicked out and no where to go...he "goes" away and she ends up in a hotel.. last I heard enjoy the pool and having little barb-q's with her friend who got escorted off with a restraing order who is staying in the same hotel as the husband who pays for his own rent and her hotel, yet the state helps these false people too? Point there, birds of a feather flock together.....well, we probably all in this "situration" would run out of our chance at this free and fun ride....She knows her parents are dis-appointed with majority of her choices in life...family has offered to help by taking her children and allowing them to stay in their home..it would be so much better then a hotel....yes, she would have to fend for herself, but this is what she caused.. she is not the nicest person and again, she laughs at how she has had this free ride..she thinks it is sooo..cool..and again she is very mean...so no, family and friends won't allow her but will open their doors for these babys of hers....that to me is very big of these ones with open arms...she doesn't take those offers and gets sick of probably bouncing or like I said prior, her free ride with the domestic abuse assistance has run out..she turns to her fathers side of the family....tells stories and hurts those ones who have tried....some of these family members reacted before thinking about her track record (of it all in whole and that she tends to lie)... that is when my MOTHER gets a horrible horrible message from her brother in law and all the message does is tear her and my father apart.... this sucks... however, he was the bigger person and spoke with my ma and told her how sorry he was.. the damage control though was not just this family member but so many others...I don't get it...Who is going to call those people and set this straight? My mother feels she does not need to explain herself..but it hurts me so much knowing that somebody has told such horrible and untrue things (she is freaking ungrateful) about my best friend (my madre).... I am angry and I don't understand why her own child could tell such horrible things... why does she want to hurt her and others in her family?? her parents for godsake.... this is very long and this is not even half of the full story...but I just had to get it off my mind by laying it out for all.. I did say at the beginning that some people need to be exsposed of their true nature..b/c they have so many people fooled that it makes me sick..I am sure that a lot of people on my friends list have fallen victim to her hatefullness in someway somehow....hell, there are some of you on there that she has told untruthfull things about.. trying to make herself look better.. hurts but this is called liers and I hate that more then anythings... Lets be honest.... Also, I need advice... I feel my parents need "justice" and therefore I feel she should be confronted and told that she better make some life changes because she is going to get the help she needs so badly but not the way she wants it.. her story is out and others soon will not think "oh poor girl".. they will think F#%K THIS, what about the children...????
Again, length.. so sorry but I had to get it out... the bounciness of it, so sorry but my thoughts of this person just all come out.....at once...
thanks for whoever takes the time to read this..

thank you so much for all of you who took the time to read such a long issue.. and complex one at that.. It does mean a great deal to me and it is so hard to do the whole picking one that is better then the other.. b/c all of them were what has gone through my mind.. and I have decided what I am going to do about my sis, that helped me pick the "one".... it helped me wipe my hands and walk away.. but if my nephews ever need me, you can bet I wont clean my hands of them.. again thank you..

Answer 1

sounds much like my grandmother. I just stopped talking to her and don't care what she says. I know that when you see something bad you want to correct it. I think you should not interfere if it's not necessary. Don't confront her. she can do you some harm after that. she still will be lying but to somebody else. Just tell other family members the truth. they can choose to believe you or not, may be if you can't prove it will be easier... don't waste your time thinking about it. I think they'll find out soon what kind of person she is. You know... family affairs are often so dirty.... Her nasty character didn't come out of nowhere, some other family members can be much like her... Forget it all, let them just solve everything themselves. making your faily look bad she'll get nowhere

Answer 2

No, I don't get mocked by my friends or family. First, if I were to get teased by 'friends' because I write, they wouldn't be my friends for very long. Being friends with a writer (me, at least; not all writers are the same) means putting up with my weird, quirky habits (always has to have a pen and notebook on me, doesn't like writing in pencil, etc), and if they can't accept me for me, well....they're not good friends, are they? My family supports me, they don't tease me. I don't really like letting my parents read what I write, because I'm 15 and I've still got a lot to improve concerning my writing style, use of language, etc. I let a very select few people read my stories, and I refuse to accept the "Oh, it's wonderful" / "It's so amazing!" compliments, because although I know I am a pretty talented writer, I would like my work to be constructively criticised as well :) Also, I've been storytelling since I was old enough to talk... I've been making up stories and conveying the stories through pictures since I was old enough to pick up a crayon. And I've been actually *writing* ever since I could write properly. (Around 5 years of age, I suppose). Everyone who is anyone in my life knows this and respects it, and though may say something to me good-naturedly about my writing habits, they will never say or do anything extremely rude because I won't tolerate it.

Answer 3

You are correct to help them in a lie is wrong -you should get together with other "victims" of this treachery and give them all shelters and other "help" so they have to own up to the truth- they ate lying manipulators and if they don't quit will have none to blame but themselves.

Answer 4

Wow, your mad, but I think your right she needs to learn her leason, i hope the children don't suffer.

Just remember everything that a person does, does come back to them ,its karma