My dad and sister are estranged, and my dad and I just recently started talking again. My sister and her husband have made it clear that they don't want our dad and step-mom to be included in the baby's life. I also don't want to be put in the middle, and I feel like it isn't my news to tell. It is their first child, so my dad's a grandpa for the first time (not counting step-kids). Therefore, I'd feel bad if he didn't know. I'm just not sure that my sister even wants him to know, and I don't want to bring it up and ask her when she just had the baby yesterday. On the other hand, I don't my dad finding out some other way and then make me feel bad about me (or my sister) not telling him. He found out she was pregnant from the woman at the post office and then from an ex-wife (not our mom....he's been married a few times), and I do think that's an awful way to find out you're a grandpa for the first time. Anyway, thanks for reading, and thanks for your help.
2007-08-12 12:30:06 · 5 answers · asked by ChocolateCoveredStrawberries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sweetie, this is NOT your problem. This is your dad and your sister's problem and it's up to them to solve it or let it go unsolved and it seems they've made their choices.
If you know your sister does not want your dad to have any part in her life, then, you will be violating her right to privacy.
If your dad tries to make you feel guilty for keeping quiet, just explain calmly that you felt it was not your place to step in between him and her and let it go at that.
By the way, congrats on being an auntie!
2007-08-12 12:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect your sister and her husbands wishes! I mean really, I'm sure there is a REALLY good reason that they feel this way. Some people DO NOT deserve to be grandparents, was your dad a crappy parent? Why did you not talk to him for awhile? Don't worry about him making you feel bad, your sister will be around for a lot longer than your dad. Just because someone becomes a grandparent DOES NOT mean that they would be a good influence on their grandchild.
Please, just take my word for it.
Best wishes.
2007-08-12 12:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by mrsclovis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some unknown person told my mother I was pregnant, which caused a HUGE problem for me. She tried for two full years to force herself into my and the childs life, which caused a lot more problems than her not knowing ever could have. Its the parents decision to block the grandparents, and its not up to you to change that, if they come around then it will be on their terms, in their time.
2007-08-12 12:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stay out of it. Let him find out however he finds out. Don't hurt your sister by giving news about her to your dad. It is great that you are getting to know your dad, but your sister is not ready to do that. If your dad asks why you didn't tell, explain to him that it was not your news to tell. Let him know that you hope he and your sister get back in each others lives someday but for right now you are going to have to see each of them separately.
2007-08-12 13:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. If either of them have an interest in each other they will make the effort to communicate.
2007-08-12 13:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋