How to convince my mom?

Question

Well my grandma (mom's mom) husband died a few weeks ago (he wasn't my grandpa) There will be a memorial service in a few week I asked my mom if I could be apart of it, and she said no because its not something for kids, but I would still really would like to go to show my respect, How can I get my mom to let me go? Please

Answer 1

Tell her you understand the seriousness of it and you will be paying attention and being a part of honoring him and not acting like a little kid. Stress how important this is to you.

Answer 2

Let your Mom read this...

I am a licensed and practicing Funeral Director for nearly 20 years - and have lived my entire 40 years above my family's funeral home.

If a child wants to be a part of and participate in a funeral service, a parent would be doing them a great disservice by not allowing them to.
By not allowing a child to go to - and participate in if they so choose - a funeral service of any sort, the parent is taking away the tools the child will need later in life - to cope with not only death, but also with other losses that life will present.

A parent should never force a child to attend such things if that child is not comfortable or ready to - it would cause emotional harm to that child...
But, denying a child who wants to go - who wants to participate - is causing as much harm to the child - and will also result in damage caused to the parent/child relationship.

Let her read this - seriously - and if she needs to hear this from someone "in person", then ask her to take you to the closest funeral home and ask their opinion...it will match mine.

Answer 3

just tell your mom that even though he was not your grandfather that you still care and would like to be the for you grandma. To let her know that you are there for her and to help her through this time

Answer 4

Just let her know that you cared about this person too and need to go for closure, and that not letting you go doesn't change the fact he passed away and you still have to deal with it anyway. My mother let me go to my grandmas funeral and to my friends funeral. None of which i wanted to go to initially. Also that (only if you need to) funerals and death isn't something for anybody any age.

Also try to do it polietly, and in respect to her feelings. NO BEGGING ;)

Answer 5

If you knew him to extent, tell her somethings about the step-grandfather like he loved to fish, loved to laugh at (fill the blank). Let her know that you knew the man. If you didn't know him that well, then say you really want to be there to show the unconditional respect. Just be ready to pay half way or something if it's a plane trip/car trip there.

Answer 6

Your Mom is wrong as you showed interest in participating. You did now say how old you are. Try this...Mom, it would really mean a lot to me if I could go. I am mature enough to act respectful and act proper. Please reconsider

Answer 7

tell her, mom, grandma is part of my special family and if someone of hers died, i would really want to go to it. i mean even if he is not my grandpa, it was grandmas husband and i really want to go, grandma means a lot to me and so does her family, please let me go

Answer 8

Ask grandma then im sure she'll tell you mom then you can go

Answer 9

Tell your mother that you really want to be there for your grandmother's sake. Tell her that you feel that it is important that you show your respect because you love your grandomother.

Answer 10

How old are you? It seems like you should be treated like an adult.. If you want to be, you should tell her that. Make sure she knows how important this is to you.