How do I convince my dad to believe me?

Question

I had the vacuum cleaner in my closet; that was what my dad was looking for at the time. When he was taking to long to bring it out, I went into my room to find it was pulling out my boyfriends cloths, hats, etc that I had in there;BTW; a spare wallet which I knew, w/ condoms which I had no clue.

He knows there were my bf's because my brother can't wear sizes like that and had snooped and found pictures of him (the most shirt off only) in my backpack/phone which he was mad then. He's seen him in person and has done the whole bark and growl.

Now he thinks were havin' sex throughout the house, so NO guy, not even my gay guy friends can come over; He took my phone; took my door/hinges, and saids he'll be installing a GPS on the car. Mind you that I'm 16 3/4, never had sex in the house or anywhere for that matter. I'm an overall good student and child! My mom trust me and would never extent this.

How can I convince him to stop overreacting on top of the natural fatherly protection?

Answer 1

well, the unfortunate part of this is that you dad found evidence of your boyfriend in your room, and has drawn his own conclusions, expecially when he found the wallet containing the condoms. When someone carries condoms around, it gives the impression of a sexually active person.
Since your mom trusts you, enlist her help, and then during a quiet period such as a weekend, you and your mom sit down with your dad, and you explain how those items belonging to your boyfriend ended up in your closet. You'd better be truthful about it, even if the circumstances may be questionable. Once you get through that part of it, look your dad right in the face, and tell him plain and simple, that your behavior has been above reproach, and you have not done anything to give him cause for concern. Once you have done that, don't get into an argument with him if he doesn't accept that. The more you argue with a parent, especially in this case, they'll become more resolved in their opinion they are right, and you'll never get anywhere. State your case, and then back off. Then let your father consider what you said. Since you are still underage, whatever decision he makes, you'll be stuck with until you reach legal age and can make your own decisions. Once that day comes and his attitude hasn't changed, if you go against him, better be prepared to move out.
You'll have to cut your dad a little slack also. You forget....he was your boyfriend's age once, may have had a wild streak in his younger days, and may have done a few things that maybe causes him shame now that he matured, and with his own family, especially a daughter. He knows that the hound dogs are out there, and makes him worry. Parents are like that. You'll get past this, and so will your dad...eventually.

Answer 2

Yeah I'd certainly have issues with my little girl having her boyfriends clothes in my house. I would probably assume the same thing he did. But if she consistently said no, I'm not having sex, and she was being honest (not to mention not having him over secretly when I wasnt there, or keeping any more clothes that weren't hers in her room) and we had a close relationship eventually I would believe her. For this to be possible you have to have an open relationship and let your parents know (and again be honest) that when you make the decision to have sex they will know, and work with them to have the proper precautions taken to ensure your safety. If they won't ever accept the idea that you may start having sex, then wait until your out of their home before beginning, They catch you lying once and all that trust will be out the window.

Answer 3

To be quiet honest with you both you and your boyfriend should have acted with a higher level of responsibility. Being you didn't you have in fact given your father every reason to be concerned. I am afraid this is likely one of those Storms we create ourselves and unfortunately have to pay the consequences for. If he even permits the young man to continue seeing you I’d advise you both walk on thin and extremely respectful ice dealing with Dad at this point. Dads do not do well with the word sex and their daughter used in the same sentence. Never have and never will, best you accept this and appease the situation the best way you know how. Something it the lines of accepting responsibility for making this look bad as innocent as it may be would be a good start.

Answer 4

I am sure he has calmed down by now. Talk to him and let him know that you are NOT having sex. Tell him it is important that he believes the truth. Don't ask for any of your privileges back, just sit back and wait a while. He should come to his senses.

BTW: quit keeping your BFs clothes in your home.

Answer 5

I heavily doubt that he facilitates your youthful sis to drink alcohol whilst refusing your request for alcohol. does not make any experience! despite if it is actual, do no longer complication approximately your dad no longer letting you for the reason which you will need dissimilar time and opportunities once you swap 21 and your dad is in basic terms looking out for you because of the fact he cares approximately your wellness. If I have been you, i could be pleased approximately having somebody in my life who cares adequate to take a stand on the difficulty of alcohol.