Is it a right choice to cut ties with people that bring you negative feelings and indirectly hurt you?

Question

There is this cosuin of me and i dont like her at all beacause she is always calling me and backstabbing, talking **** about others, n even tell me what others say about me (i mean the negative things), so there is no doubt that she would be telling others what i say to her when i hear someone talk **** about me. Since i am sensitive, i get hurt really bad. Even more, she is always talking about negative things in others life. She is a big b i t c h to say in simple words. Would it be right to stop taking her calls since she calls me often. I have even given her enough signals that i am not interested in talking to her, but she doesnt seem to understand or either ignores them/

What do i do?

Answer 1

It is absolutely right to protect yourself from people who enjoy harming you! Life is complicated enough without toxic people.

No one has the right to abuse you; distance yourself from your cousin and stop accepting her calls!

Connect with those who are interested in your great good!

Answer 2

Absolutely a RIGHT choice to cut ties even so for family. The only difference from friends and family is that you don't expect the family to disappoint you because they're "insiders" people whom we "trust" more so than our friends, right? It happens from time to time and is wise for you to cut off this until she realizes not only is it wrong but also this brings you down. Maybe you "were" caught up in it once before and now realize that it's not cool, you could try letting her know what you've learned so she'll stop the sabotaging. Afterall, she is family, you will see her around. Good luck!

Answer 3

Ive been trying hard to answer your question My mother always told me a dog that will bring a bone will carry one also. This means anything you tellher she will repeat it to the next person. If she say things to hurt yur feelings belive me she knows exactly what she is doing. Leave her alone and dont call her or even go around her. I no she is your cousin and probably were close at one time she means you no good. Best of luck.

Answer 4

Every time she phones you think of any excuse to stop talking to her. Be polite. Tell her something like... "I'm cooking and can't talk to you at the moment", "I'm waiting for a very important phone call", "I'm just about to go out and can't talk to you, sorry"... Anything that you can think of. Do it consistently. If she is person who is able to think she will understand you.
She is your cousin but it doesn't mean that you must continue talking to her especially if you don't like her/her character/her attitude to certain things...
It's much better and healthier to stay in contact with people who bring something positive into your life. There are many people like this around.

Answer 5

Good Day,
Unfortuantely you are in a situation that involves family, and to cut ties with family is tricky business. What you CAN do is make it clear that you do not wish to talk about other peoples problems, and that you prefer to talk to her about the latest movie you saw, or book you read.
Another good idea would be to NOT share any of your life stories with her. Your last date, your upcoming job promotion, nothing that can be twisted. This is why things like movies, music and books are good choices. Inpersonal, yet conversational.
If she insists on still coming to you with gossip, tell her you are busy and you will see her at the next family reunion. Let her know you still care for her to avoid family pitfalls, but let your life become too busy for phone fodder.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

Cutting ties with people that gives you negative feelings can pull you down, i know. It's your choice. However, cutting ties with people like your cousin in a pfft without telling her at all her negativity is irresponsibility. Tell her what you feel about her, what you don't like about her. Her acceptance of what you say all depends on her. As they say, teach fishermen how to fish & you help them survive - but if you just give them their fish, you make them parasites. Get my drift?

Answer 7

She's toxic and you should stop taking her calls. The only problem I see you having is that because she's family, your other relatives may give you crap about it. If that's the case, calmly state your case with examples of how negative she is and that she's a downer. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

If you don't take care of yourself, no one else will!! Whatever gave you the idea that you had to subject yourself to abuse? Not even relatives have that "right"!---Get "Caller ID" and choose not to answer her calls!

Answer 9

tell her!

"I feel insulted because of all the negativity which comes from your mouth, and i'm not interested in that sort of thing."

Answer 10

tell her when she calls that you dont want to hear trash about other people.that if she cant talk to you about happy things not to call or you will just have to hang up.