Family - July 2007

My husbands mother is a total evil woman. Right now my husband and I are renting in his sisters ( that she does not live in) house due to financial hardship. We are not on the lease but she is allowing us to stay there so that we can save some money to get us an apartment. The building that we live in, his mother not only lives in but is like the head master of the building. She has a set of keys to every apartment, but feels that since this is her daughters apartment she can come in when ever she likes. She does not like me and does not want me there at all so I told her that I was staying some where else. Now even with her thinking that I am living at another residence she told the landlord that I stay there and the landlord is threatening to evict his sister form the apartment. I dont have anywhere else to go but I dont want anyone to get in trouble behind any of this. What should I do?

2007-07-31 02:48:03 · 14 answers · asked by Scooby 3

2 years ago my son was killed in a car accident he was 4 months old . at the time all his fathers side of the family made out they where more important to him than i am and hurting more than me for example id say to one of em i feel this way ..... theyd say well how do u think i feel. i said to my brother in law " my son" he said with an attitude hes my nephew but the thing is his 2nd year anniversary was on the 27 this month they didnt even bother to go c him actually they dont see him at all so i know they dont really care not like i do just wondering y they tried to make out at the time. i love my kids i hav 3 im only 21 and id do anything 4 em. people say when u lose som1 it does get easier but it doesnt u just learn to live with the pain it just really pi**es me off how they where and cant understand it y would they do that? when i try talk to em about it i start gettin really pi**ed off and start gettin phyco with it so i cant ask em my self can any 1 else help me ?

2007-07-31 02:03:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Right, I have the career opportunity to go to New York. I'm a Londoner, and I love New York and its always benn kinda one of my dreams to end up there. The only problem is going - it'd be leaving everyone behind. I've had depression in the past, and this sort of big change is hard to get through in a way. I mean, i'd be leaving behind my parents (which I would feel guilty about), my friends, my relatives which I spent all of my childhood summers at and my cousin. I look at new york, visit and think WOW, and I want to be there, but its leaving everything behind and going. I know i have to follow my own goals and dreams, I've had my parents tell me that when I was given this opportunity, but I feel guilty n a sense, and as if im in the wrong for leaving it all behing. I know I shouldn't but I do. does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this and move forward??

2007-07-31 01:24:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

How can i deal with my strict mother?
Im in my early teens and my mum isnt making it easy for me. Last week was the local police patrolled dance party that everyone goes to ,I wasn't allowed and she didnt say why.
I cant travell by myself except to school and back on the local bus and she gets mad when i talk about having a boyfriend.
I know she has a strong right of concern to a certain extent and some people on here will tell me off but how can get her off my back so that we can both get along and be happy and let me do some things by myself sometimes as i know im getting older these days .

Any advise appreciated!

2007-07-31 00:47:05 · 13 answers · asked by Stelle S 1

After drinking a lot of wine. My sister asked to hold my son. We were on a beach trip with other family members. I let her and she walked out onto the large deck to calm him down. She seemed ok to me but my wife didn't think she should hold him. After I took him back from my wife (my sister seemed slightly offended by this but didnt' say anything) my aunt made a comment about how parents shouldn't let their anger out around your kids; that she would "pray to God" for help to stay calm when she was raising her kids and how kids personalitys are determined by how we act around them; how if we act ignorant so will our children.
My wife is very stressed with the twins and our 5 year old. She sometimes gets more angry with the kids than she should. While agree with her comment it didn't seem like the right time for it. I defended my wife and said she was just being protective of her baby. My aunts comment seemed out of line and wrongly timed to me. Am I wrong to have felt this way?

2007-07-31 00:28:07 · 11 answers · asked by MetalHeart 4

hi...i'm a 21 yr old woman. i have a step-brother and step mom. all my life i've experienced how much they hate me. mom's always discriminated against me and my step brother has always tried to bully and humiliate me. he's just a about a yr older to me. gradually as we grew up, he was kinder to me......kind of stopped talking to me altogether unless it was something very important. he has always taken everything concerning me jokingly. i don't hate him, i detest him. last week me and my boyfriend announced our plans to get married soon. dad was very happy....even mom approved. my two younger half-brothers were excited (perhaps the only 2 people to even care about me in the whole household). my step-bro was mad at me. he was dignified in front of my bf but after the whole thing was over he came down on me like lightning. he said i was making a big mistake by choosing 'that guy'. he said he's not good enough and god knows what. where is the brotherly love trickling in from suddenly??

2007-07-30 23:59:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

well, i was watching tv, and like alwasy my mom just barged into my room without knocking, o well blah blah blah.
anyway on tv these 2 girls just kissed and my mom got totally mad, and said i shouldnt be watching that trash. well she got REALLY mad and she was yelling like crazy. but if im watching tv and a man and woman kiss, she doesnt care, i mean, there ARE lesbians in this world. and a kiss is a kiss. even if its a man and woman, woman and woman, or a man and man. a KISS is a KISS, so what? whyd she get soooo mad?! o and im 14 btw

2007-07-30 21:39:44 · 16 answers · asked by U DONT KNOW ME 2

what whould i do. were i live it is a small town and also i have a 17 month old little girl to take care of and there are no jobs in town and also the next town over is like 30 mins away and i have no way of getting there what should i do?

2007-07-30 21:27:34 · 7 answers · asked by bobbys.princess 1

Only Girl??? In Family? Or only Boy?

Is Anyone the only girl in the family?

If yes, then would you like to keep it that way or would you like a sister(s)?


If No, then would you like to be the only girl or is there something you would like to change about your sister(s)?


Thanks! I am the only girl and I just want to know what people say

2007-07-30 21:06:25 · 2 answers · asked by melly 4

ok well my grandmother moved in with us about probably the begining of the year. and ugh i seriously cant take it any longer!!! she we have seperate office in the backyard. our property if fairly big. anyways this is where i am right now we have our computers out here and a big screen with some couches a fridge and a microwave. but when she moved in she basically took over the whole place. ive been trying to deal with it but its just getting annoying now. shes my stepdads mom so im not particularly close with her. but attached to the back house is a garage which we have converted to her bedroom but guess what she doesnt sleep there o no she has to sleep on the couch! oh did i mention she has an oxygen tank and she still smokes? and it just reeks out here even though she trys to hide it! u cant hide smoke! ugh and she makes ME do things for her oh and get this! she doesnt shower ever day!!!! so i swear she smells like rotten brocoli and smoke! please get me through this!

2007-07-30 20:20:10 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just wondering how many think spanking is good for discipline of your partner and sexual relations.

2007-07-30 20:09:39 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda 2

I was searching for something in my dad's closet. Then I saw a couple of porn vcds. should I tell my mum or what?
Plz help! Really confused and sad now.

2007-07-30 19:15:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My MIL is very jealous of my mom. My mom and I are very close. I have a 4 year old son and at b-day parties there always seems to be problems. My mother in law instead of being happy that my mom buys my son stuff makes it out like she tries to out do her. Mind you my mother in law won't even buy her own gifts. She makes me go out and do it then pays me back. My mom has done nothing but be nice to her. My mother in law always ask if my mom is getting rid of clothes and stuff and always wants them but then says hurtful things about mom. My mom and dad gave my hubby and I $10,000 for our 1st home then we sold it to move into their old because they bought another home. We didn't have to pay them a dime. Instead of MIL being happy because her son's family has a roof over their heads she gets mad. There is a lot more to the story too. I posted another question about how is won't even visit my son. He is almost 5 and she has only visited 10 times. We visit them alot and invite them but nothin

2007-07-30 19:01:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parent's dont like know anything about me, what should i do?

2007-07-30 19:01:01 · 7 answers · asked by Chelsea 2

i am 15 and me and my grandma was going to play a joke on my mom we though bout letting my grandma tell her that she found out that was going to be a dad soon that i meet a girl and bam i am a dad should i do it and what els could i do. thx

2007-07-30 18:59:20 · 5 answers · asked by Johnathan D 1

my gf's birth certificate has her grandparents listed as her birth parents, but they definitely aren't her biological parents. They adopted her when she was five and raised her. How and why are they named as her parents? Is this legal?

2007-07-30 18:48:57 · 5 answers · asked by shinypony 2

My boyfriend and his ex-wife of 14 years got divorced a year ago. They have 3 children together who primarily live with their mom but stay with their dad 1-2 nights a week (they live 60 miles apart). They never saw a judge for child support/alimony but instead they mutually decided on a set amount that they had notarized so it's legal in court. He's agreed to pay her $500 a week which is nearly 80% of what he makes. The mother refuses to work (she's never worked a day in her life, but not by HIS choice... she just refuses). He pays 100% of everything for the kids and for HER, which doesn't seem right. She stopped making her car payment, so it got repo'd and now his kids have no way to get around town. She is close to getting evicted from her apartment for late rent. We're worried about the kids and want to fight for full custody. The problem is, we have no extra money for a lawyer and either does she. I'm trying to stay out of it but I love these kids too much. Any Advice?

2007-07-30 18:27:35 · 4 answers · asked by Pepper_31 1

I really want them to think I am responsible enough to have another pet. Also I want my dad to stop yelling at me whenever there is a mess in our house.

2007-07-30 17:42:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-30 16:10:48 · 40 answers · asked by The G Man 1

recently some really bad things have happened in my family. my step dad cheated on my mother and slept with another women. then she took him back. it was a 6 month adultrey period. my whole family is torn. hes been my father figure since i was 5 and it hurts so much. my mother is choosing him over me by treating me like a stranger. she knows i had a hunch about it. i tld her that something was up i could feel it. but she pretends that hes the greatest person in the world and leaves me in the dark and tries to make me feel guilty for not welcoming him in with open arms. my aunt says i just need to get out of here. she claims that they have always bullied me around and like a wounded animal ive taken it. but now.. she says that things have gotten out of hand. my mother has done as few things to me that .. we will just say are not motherly and semi crual. i just dont know.

2007-07-30 15:45:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mother and I have always been pretty loving towards each other. We've had our fights but not anything too difficult... Until recently. Three months ago my aunt, her sister, moved into our home. She is going through a separation from her husband and needed a place to go. Now, I just graduated from high school and my parents were supposed to build me a mini-apartment downstairs in our house. Since my aunt moved in the apartment has been built but she's the one living in it. I get annoyed because that was supposed to be MY space. I don't want to sound selfish because I know my aunt needs a place but the apartment isnt the only issue. My aunt is ALWAYS rude to me and my mom is beginning to do the same. My mom and aunt pick on me all the time - My mom even called me a slut today and told me I should be a stripper in front of my best guy friend. It really hurts my feelings when they gang up on me but I dont know how to tell them because when I try it gets worse... What should I do?

2007-07-30 15:34:52 · 11 answers · asked by Shailyn 1

Okay im like 18 now and my parents won't let me stay up after 10, tonight i got lucky since im at a freends house. I can't stay out past 10 either. I mean im legal now, the least they can do is make my curfew 12AM.

How do i change their minds. Im not a bad person or anything.

2007-07-30 15:23:43 · 16 answers · asked by SP. 2

i was wanting to see my father but my mom is saying no and i really want to and my dad said that she technicly cant say no

2007-07-30 15:21:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was playing around with my mom and she was playing around with me and i kidda told i hated her i started thinking of all the thing she did for me and i felt horrble

2007-07-30 14:58:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i ask this becuz i might be pregnant and im real scared to tell my mom becuz she over reacts for alot of things,i dont want her to hit me so should i tell her and if she hits me(runaway)??
or dont tell her and just go(and if she finds me tell her why i left?!)

2007-07-30 14:57:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

If that makes any sense. Just about 2 weeks ago I found out she had been going through some "tough times" I soon figured out when I entered her room her living style became much more gothic and reserved. I found the messages on her bed frame to be the most disturbing. Consisting of "**** life", "My scars remind me that the past is real", "I hate myself + *crossed out*" and other unimaginable phrases. I find the most horrifying however the self-inflicted scars on her wrist. I was certain that that was a stereotype of "Emos" that was untrue. I'm not sure how this happened but I fear for my cousin's safety as she also Drinks, smokes illegal substances, and other perhaps unspeakable acts.

And to think 4 years ago we were practically best friends watching cartoons and playing games w/o this problem.
Sometimes I wish I was there to guide her through her problems. I almost feel like we are 2 completely opposite people now and quite frankly It tears me apart.
Any advice is welcome. Thx

2007-07-30 14:57:37 · 1 answers · asked by Draquoir 5

smoke inside our house. Should I care? She lives about 4 hours from us. We are both in college right now, so a visit to her is out of the question. Plus, I won't stay in her stinky, cigarette/doggy poop house. My son gets sick every time we go to her house.

2007-07-30 14:54:13 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-30 14:29:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My cousins from the Philippines all Drink, Smoke, go to parties ect. I've had some bad experiences before with people like this during school. I have no intention of giving in and joining them even though that means being alone. 2 of them smoke Hemp peroidically it stinks literally. What do you guys think? Any Advice would be nice guys.

Edit: Ages are: 15, 17, 18x3, 19x2.

I'm 17. Also the legal drinking and smoking age is much lower than in the US. Or so I'm told.

This Vacation sucks alot I want to hang out with them but I've lost nearly all my respect for them. Btw any people without something to say that makes sense, should keep it to themself.

2007-07-30 14:19:52 · 14 answers · asked by Draquoir 5

My mother in law recently lost one of her sons. Everyone is learning how to cope. Seems that now shes more controlling of the rest of her "kids". They are all growing men. But now she feels lonely and angry because they all married and they are moving on. lately shes being verbally about how she hates her daughters in law to everyone in the town. And she doesnt stop calling the house every morning and night. She invites my husband to have dinner at her house because she does not want to eat alone!! He calls me to see if it is ok! What should I say? It is a routine now. Shes constantly needs control and attention. The other son that is married cant stand her ways neither the daughter in law. Now is me having to deal with this. I have proof that shes talking behind my back. We are trying to put our life together to have a family and a house someday and she offered in "generosity" to sell her house to us cheap. With a condition that she will live there with us!!!!!!!!!!

2007-07-30 13:03:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous