My boyfriend and his ex-wife of 14 years got divorced a year ago. They have 3 children together who primarily live with their mom but stay with their dad 1-2 nights a week (they live 60 miles apart). They never saw a judge for child support/alimony but instead they mutually decided on a set amount that they had notarized so it's legal in court. He's agreed to pay her $500 a week which is nearly 80% of what he makes. The mother refuses to work (she's never worked a day in her life, but not by HIS choice... she just refuses). He pays 100% of everything for the kids and for HER, which doesn't seem right. She stopped making her car payment, so it got repo'd and now his kids have no way to get around town. She is close to getting evicted from her apartment for late rent. We're worried about the kids and want to fight for full custody. The problem is, we have no extra money for a lawyer and either does she. I'm trying to stay out of it but I love these kids too much. Any Advice?
2007-07-30 18:27:35 · 4 answers · asked by Pepper_31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Legal Aid.
2007-07-30 18:46:28 · answer #1 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but by filing for child support it won't matter if he's on the birth certificate if he agrees to pay then he will legally be viewed as the father in the courts eyes since the paperwork you willed out required that you indicate how sure you are that he's the father. If he is on drugs bring that up in court and they will probably drug test him. Also if he is physically abusive document it. The fact that he rushes you off the phone won't be held against him. If you arent together he is under no obligation to sit and talk to you on the phone or not talk to other women. Basically unless you have really good proof that he can't care for the child he will at least get visitation.
2016-05-18 21:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three kids ARE a fulltime job. After 14 years of marriage and never working, she probably doesn't have the skills that it takes to take care of herself and her own house financially. Also, she may be clinically depressed due to losing her husband of 14 years, and having her car taken, almost being evicted, and some other woman making a push to take her kids away probably isn't helping.
2007-08-01 01:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by nightynightnurse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
man i see this post like 50 times already, ask a lawyer...
2007-07-30 20:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋