Right, I have the career opportunity to go to New York. I'm a Londoner, and I love New York and its always benn kinda one of my dreams to end up there. The only problem is going - it'd be leaving everyone behind. I've had depression in the past, and this sort of big change is hard to get through in a way. I mean, i'd be leaving behind my parents (which I would feel guilty about), my friends, my relatives which I spent all of my childhood summers at and my cousin. I look at new york, visit and think WOW, and I want to be there, but its leaving everything behind and going. I know i have to follow my own goals and dreams, I've had my parents tell me that when I was given this opportunity, but I feel guilty n a sense, and as if im in the wrong for leaving it all behing. I know I shouldn't but I do. does anyone have any advice on how to deal with this and move forward??
2007-07-31 01:24:13 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know its hard thinking about leaving all your family and friends behind, but honestly, would any of them give you a second thought if they got an opportunity like this?
I doubt it!
If you don't go you will regret it in the future.
If youd o go and you don't like it, you can always come home.
Try going for a trial period of say 3 months. If after that time you are not happy or feel settled, then come home again.
You wont have lost anything, and at least you would have given it a go. If you don't try it now, you will always wonder 'what if'.
2007-07-31 01:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Emma W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what your friends and family would do if they were given the same opportunity.
No-one wants to stop you doing this - or if they do, it is totally selfish on their part. If you don't go, from what you have written, you will definitely regret it. Also, New York is not that far. You can be home on a flight in 5 hours in an emergency. Friends and family will come out to visit you.
These opportunities only come along a few times in your life. What have you really got to loose? This could be such a great adventure. You can't live your life thinking about the past - you're leaving nothing behind. All your memories will travel with you.
Take a deep breath, and say - I'LL DO IT!!!
xx
2007-07-31 01:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is what you want to do then go for it. i would love the opportunity to go work and live in New York. You are not dying, you are moving, you are not leaving them behind forever, you can go back and visit and you will have so much to tell them about life in New York. Give it a go if you don't then you will never know if it was the right thing to do. If you have such a fantastic family behind you then if you don't like it they will be very supportive when you return home. You don't regret what you do it's what you don't do. good luck.
2007-07-31 01:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by book girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must do what is right for you. Guilt is a terrible thing, you feel guilty if you do, you feel guilty if you don't. Yes your parents will be sad when you leave but they will also want you to make the most of the opportunities that come your way. Regret is also a terrible thing. Go and feel guilty or stay and feel regret. The choice is yours
2007-07-31 01:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, go for it, sounds like its a life time opportunity! i got the opporunity to go to Africa for 8 months. I didnt want to go and leave my family and friends. I've been away for 7 months and i have another 3 to go. Then am off to singapore for 2 years. Am missing home like mad but i phone home at lest 3 times a week and speak on msn to mates! If you dont do it then you'l regret it. If you dont like it then theres nothing stopping you from going back home. Your mum and dad will be proud of you in what every you deciede to do. Just remember that just because your the other side of the pond doesnt mean you cant speak to them. theres always the phone, emails and msn! Good Luck!
2007-07-31 02:21:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only Permanent thing in this world is CHANGE.What all you have right now in London wouldn't stay there for ever.So,except for the timings ie by you or by others,things are bound to change.If you can visualize and go into the future,say 5 years and try to look back in to the time,it can make things clear and acceptable.Good luck.
2007-07-31 01:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a thought - do you have a friend or close relative that is in a position to go with you? It could mean a new start for them as well, you could share expenses, both of you would have something familiar with you while you try this new venture.
2007-07-31 01:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go!
I have had promotional aspects before and not gone for them, and now that they aren't available i am always wondering what if...! Don't regret not taking up the chance of a lifetime! I took my last promotion! I used to be a single bloke with many friends and family around me, now I have moved and I am very happy, settled down, and am starting my own family. GO FOR IT!!!!
2007-07-31 01:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will regret it if you leave this opportunity behind. Take it. You can always go back for visits. And they can come to visit you in NY.
2007-07-31 02:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at this from their side , they love you don't they? or you wouldn't be regretting going , but they want you too do what you want to do , so do it !
And its not for ever nothing would be accomplished if we did not losen ties occassionally ,and you can almost be home as fast as if you live on the other end of the country and had to travel by our WONDERFUL roads !
2007-07-31 01:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋