My cousins from the Philippines all Drink, Smoke, go to parties ect. I've had some bad experiences before with people like this during school. I have no intention of giving in and joining them even though that means being alone. 2 of them smoke Hemp peroidically it stinks literally. What do you guys think? Any Advice would be nice guys.
Edit: Ages are: 15, 17, 18x3, 19x2.
I'm 17. Also the legal drinking and smoking age is much lower than in the US. Or so I'm told.
This Vacation sucks alot I want to hang out with them but I've lost nearly all my respect for them. Btw any people without something to say that makes sense, should keep it to themself.
2007-07-30 14:19:52 · 14 answers · asked by Draquoir 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My cousins from the Philippines all Drink, Smoke, go to parties ect. I've had some bad experiences before with people like this during school. I have no intention of giving in and joining them even though that means being alone. 2 of them smoke Hemp peroidically it stinks literally. What do you guys think? Any Advice would be nice guys.
Edit: Ages are: 15, 17, 18x3, 19x2.
I'm 17. Also the legal drinking and smoking age is much lower than in the US. Or so I'm told.
This Vacation sucks alot I want to hang out with them but I've lost nearly all my respect for them. Btw any people without something to say that makes sense, should keep it to themself.
Another Edit: I'm glad that there are a lot of level headed people here on Yahoo answers I don't use the computer much but It's safe to say that it was the right decision to ask here :)
Thanks again guys and good luck to whomever gets the 10 points
2007-07-30 14:32:51 · update #1
Another little note: My dad for the first time i can remember told me that he was proud of me when I resisted taking just a sip of beer. I can't begin to tell you how good that made me feel. Again thanks alot guys.
2007-07-30 14:34:57 · update #2
Apparently "Hemp" is marijuana. I'm not 100% sure as I don't want to get into it.
2007-07-30 14:36:24 · update #3
Another little thingabout why I'm so resilient to them:
4 years ago at my older cousin's wedding reception There was underage drinking/smoking galore. My cousins were drunk beyond belief and some were vomiting lets just say it was horrible. Anyways they spiked my coke w/ vodka and I'm never gonna forgive them for that. I felt betrayed that day that's all I've gotta say.
2007-07-30 15:12:54 · update #4
Hang in there. Do not sacrifice your principles for the sake of companionship. You'd not like yourself any better that you like them right now if you do. Another thing to keep in mind for the future. People who don't screw up are usually the first one that people who make a habit of screwing up call for help. You might as well start letting them know if your going to be there when they are in trouble and need money to get out of it.
2007-07-30 14:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by ersof59 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly are not doing anything wrong by holding onto your beliefs and morals. As a matter of fact you deserve to be commended for not becoming part of the party scene. Although it may be difficult now in a few years you'll see how well respected you are and how the others who are still partying are treated. Good luck to you and keep up the good work. By the way the drinking age in Canada is a little lower than USA, so our kids feel the pressure early also.
2007-07-30 21:24:50 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes the Philippines has a lower legal drinking age but technically you still don't meet it. You're 1 year away from that 18 year limit.
But mucho kudos to you for sticking to your guns and not giving in to the pressure. It sounds like you've already found out that standing up for what you believe in can be satisfying and earn you praise.
Here's hoping your vacation gets better and that your cousins will stop partying so wildly that they have some fun with you.
2007-07-30 21:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Critter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts, and don't give in to the pressure. You'll go much farther in life. Those kids are zapping their brain cells and that will affect them for life. If they keep pressuring you, come up with a consistent excuse, like saying you are training for a marathon or other sport so you have to follow your diet (that doesn't include booze or drugs!). My son went through this and used the sports excuses throughout high school. He is now studying to be a neurosurgeon, and will no doubt be able to afford to have much more fun than the burnt out kids who tried to talk him into doing drugs and drinking. Stay strong, and plan for all the bigger and better things you'll do thanks to making the right choices!
2007-07-30 21:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mary B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the United States:
Legal age to consume alcohol: 21
Legal age to smoke (as you say) "Hemp": NEVER
Without judging the behavior of your cousins, I can say this: a strong person lives by their own convictions.
If you don't break the law, it is not YOU who will be writing letters from a jail cell. Right? Do what YOU KNOW is right.
2007-07-30 21:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by Yinzer from Sixburgh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let loser relatives pressure you into anything. I have plenty of loser relatives and I'm very glad I never went along with any of their plans.
If you can hang out with them without them getting you in trouble or pressuring you a lot, then try to have fun with them. If you can't, I would stay away from them. Sorry your vacation hasn't been much fun. Are there any actual adults you could hang out with? Maybe they could take you somewhere fun without the cousins.
2007-07-30 21:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by jenni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all what is Hemp I have never heard of this?
If you don't want to party as they say don't. It's ur choice & ur body. If your cousins can't accept then it's their problem not urs!! Tell them u want to hang out with them BUT ONLY if they are sober if they can't do this tell them u no longer want to hang out with them!! I know it's not easy but it will let ur cousins know how u feel abt their behavior!! Good Luck!!
2007-07-30 21:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that if they smoke and drink, it's their decision, and it doesn't affect who they are as people.
If you don't want to drink and smoke, don't. If you want to hang out with your cousins, do it. Believe me if you are offered a drink/smoke, and you refuse, you will gain a lot more respect from them as a person than if you submit to peer pressure.
Get off the computer and go hang with your cousins.
2007-07-30 21:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by AlanHB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not cave in PLEASE. Don't do it you need to stand for something and if this is it then you have a purpose. Later in life you will be thankful, getting a spouse, job, collage, carrier etc. What will you tell your kids if and when they ask you about partying and drinking and drugs. Do what feels right to you and be proud of your self.
2007-07-30 21:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must stand up for what you believe in. Not giving into the peer pressure is a good thing. You may have to go it alone, but I respect the fact that you are standing up for what you believe in.
Good For You!
2007-07-30 21:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by blue81696 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋