hi...i'm a 21 yr old woman. i have a step-brother and step mom. all my life i've experienced how much they hate me. mom's always discriminated against me and my step brother has always tried to bully and humiliate me. he's just a about a yr older to me. gradually as we grew up, he was kinder to me......kind of stopped talking to me altogether unless it was something very important. he has always taken everything concerning me jokingly. i don't hate him, i detest him. last week me and my boyfriend announced our plans to get married soon. dad was very happy....even mom approved. my two younger half-brothers were excited (perhaps the only 2 people to even care about me in the whole household). my step-bro was mad at me. he was dignified in front of my bf but after the whole thing was over he came down on me like lightning. he said i was making a big mistake by choosing 'that guy'. he said he's not good enough and god knows what. where is the brotherly love trickling in from suddenly??
2007-07-30 23:59:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't confuse that with brotherly love, unless your description of your step brother is misleading. Ignore his opinion because you know it doesn't mean squat.
2007-07-31 00:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by Iczer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like its time to let go of your step brother. You are a grown woman and don't deserve to have your decisions questioned. Also try to give up the need to understand his behavior. Some people just need to be cruel. Since you can't get his love, demand his respect!
I'm 44 years old and used to being bullied by certain people. I decided to demand respect instead of love. Love without respect isn't even love anyway. Tell your step brother that you will no longer stand for his rudeness and disrespect. Tell your dad that you are sorry but until your step brother behaves better you are writing him off. Watch how quickly he changes his tune. Remember, you DESERVE to be treated better!
2007-07-31 00:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by starmoishe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your doorstep-brother has some deep seated themes. appears like he did no longer look once you in the previous, greater like an invasion of area. Now he has supposedly developed some form of massive brotherly bond. i might in basic terms be satisfied to be getting married and out of that kinfolk. do no longer enable him hose down your spirits related to your fiancee. He probable in basic terms would not comprehend the thank you to handle the situation. or in step with risk his undertaking is, once you progression out of the living house, greater interest may be concentrated on him and he's not fairly confident he's as much as that. He would not settle for substitute very nicely. i do no longer understand why his mom divorced years in the past, even though it could have some thing to do with yet another lady. in step with risk as a youthful boy he seen you this way.
2016-10-08 21:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the first rule in life is look after number one, yourself, and to hell with the others. Where does your stepbrother get off telling you what you should be doing in your life? Only you know if it is right and by the sounds of it you are making the right choice. If i was you i would just ignore that loser and worry about more important things, like wedding dresses and things like that. Have a good life and don't worry about spoilt little kids trying to intimidate you. Best of luck.
2007-07-31 00:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by ryles72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone is "family" doesn't always mean that they are healthy and automatically good to have as a part of your life. Some people are just toxic and you're better off restricting their involvement in your life. My advice is to politely and firmly inform your step-brother that he must respect your life choices, and your fiance, as it's your life to lead and if he refuses to do so then you don't want to have anything to do with him. He sounds like a very insecure and jealous person who you'd be better off without.
2007-07-31 00:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like step bro is a little jealous of the fiance. Why worry about what he thinks anyway?
2007-07-31 00:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound strange but I hope he doesn't have a slight crush on you - I mean that would definitely explain why he doesn't like your fiance and why he's mean to you. Well I hope that isn't the case but that was something that popped into my mind.
I wouldn't worry about your stepbrother though, you said so yourself, you detest him. Plus, you said hes the only one who isn't supportive about it. Just try to ignore his drama. there is no point in giving him that satisfaction - or getting worked up over it because you're supposed to enjoy this time.
2007-07-31 00:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not brotherly love, it's jealousy and he wants you to be misreble. You are an adult. Do what matters to you, not others. If your step brother says anything to you again tell me he needs to respect you and not talk about your bf that way. He's way jealous of you. Don't let it get to you and congrats!!
2007-07-31 00:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by SadToday22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he really cares, so much as he doesnt like the idea of not having you to pick on anymore. I'd have very little contact with him if I were you - keep it to family gatherings, etc., and otherwise ignore the guy...he sounds like poison.
2007-07-31 01:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by lma0814 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does he noe whats right for you all of a sudden?..no one should dictate who is right for you when you have already chosen and as a mature adult especially if this person never showed any genuine concern for you. the rest of your family approves.. whats important is YOUR sure.. it always helps to have your family's support but i beg you.. don't let that step brother of yours rain one drop of regret on your marriage.
2007-07-31 00:42:53 · answer #10 · answered by (Changed my name) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋