My Mother Acts Like She Hates Me?

Question

My mother and I have always been pretty loving towards each other. We've had our fights but not anything too difficult... Until recently. Three months ago my aunt, her sister, moved into our home. She is going through a separation from her husband and needed a place to go. Now, I just graduated from high school and my parents were supposed to build me a mini-apartment downstairs in our house. Since my aunt moved in the apartment has been built but she's the one living in it. I get annoyed because that was supposed to be MY space. I don't want to sound selfish because I know my aunt needs a place but the apartment isnt the only issue. My aunt is ALWAYS rude to me and my mom is beginning to do the same. My mom and aunt pick on me all the time - My mom even called me a slut today and told me I should be a stripper in front of my best guy friend. It really hurts my feelings when they gang up on me but I dont know how to tell them because when I try it gets worse... What should I do?

I would move out but my school loans are in her name and I need a way to pay for college

This question has been up for a few minutes and I already have some great answers. I want to thank everybody for their help - The suggestions are really helpful and its making me feel better just knowing that I have options

Answer 1

Talk to your dad in confidence and let him know that they are ganging up on you and you are miserable. I am sure your dad isnt loving your aunt staying there either. Most men wouldnt, and if your dad is anything like mine, he would most definately, initiate a convo with your mom. Maybe if it comes from your dad than maybe your mom may layoff, maybe not so much the aunt.

Good luck!!

Answer 2

Go tell your mom about it. Instead o yelling at her and taking your anger out on your mom and your aunt. Or a very affective way is to make a huge seen yalling at your mom and Aunt until you break out crying and then just leave the house and dont come back for a day or ttwo and dont answer any of there calls.

Answer 3

Its sounds as if your Aunt is miserable and she is trying to take everybody down with her, first thing you need to talk to your mom, let her know that you love her very much but some of the things she says are hurtful. And that your Aunt is treating you very rude. Your Aunt is going through a bad spell right now and she wants everyone to feel her pain, try to rise above it, tell her you love her, and that you are sorry that she is going through a bad divorce. Kill her with kindness, and she her reaction. Good Luck sweetheart!!

Answer 4

Your mom and your aunt are being very rude, no doubt about that. What I recommend you do is get a job and get your own apartment. When you leave the house your mom will probably regret being so mean to you. If that isn't an option, then ignore your mom and aunt, show them that what they say doesn't affect you whatsoever. Goodluck! =]

Answer 5

i think your mom is acting immature, is she just picking on you for no reason or are you possibly acting upset and angry over not getting the apartment, and that vibe is upsetting the whole house, you are mad at your aunt, your aunt is mad over her divorce and your mom is probably mad over the whole situation and is taking it out on you. you have to have a rational discussion with her (ALONE, not with your aunt around) and explain to her that it is not fair for her to disrespect you the way she did in front of your friend, most likely the situation with your aunt is temporary and you will eventually get to move into your apartment which is really nice of your parents to do for you so they do love you. If all else fails you could start to think about moving out because the situation is not fair to you considering this is one of the more stressful times of your life.

Answer 6

I am sorry you had to give up your apartment!
Talk to your mom alone.Tell her you don't appreciate being called names.Tell her it really bothers you when she treats you the way your aunt does.Hopefully she will realize she shouldn't act so childish.If she continues to be rude to you,
try to spend time away from her(at a friend's house or
something). A bully likes to know they are hurting you,so try
to ignore your aunt when she is being rude.
What about your dad?What are his thoughts about your situation?
Good luck,I hope things get better soon!

Answer 7

Sit down with your mother and tell her that her behavior has changed since her sister came to live. Tell her (respectfully)that you are her daughter, and you love her and need her to still be your mom. Tell her mom's don't belittle their daughters or advise them to be strippers. Tell her that you don't understand that behavior, you thought she wanted college for you and a better life. Tell her that you are hurt that she is putting her sister first, and that you miss the mom that loved you. Next time they start picking on you, very quietly and politely ask them to stop demeaning you, you don't deserve it. Don't get pulled into their fights, and don't get involved with any drama.

Sounds like your mother is taking on your aunts bad habits. Where is your father in all this, is he too chicken to protect you?

Answer 8

Since u graduated high school u can move out but thats wat i think no mom should treat any daughter like that i guess ur mom's sister is more u noe greater and the parent's favorite and she just wants to be like her no matter what age they tend to do that

Answer 9

Hmmm i really dont know how i would deal with it, but i had to say sumping cuz our names are like rele simular mine is SHAELYN...pronounced the same way...well ehmmm sorry i wasnt any help..but good luck i really hope she starts acting like a mom instead of so childish.

Answer 10

try to be out of the house a lot but then when ur back, be extra nice to her. that will make her wonder whats going on??????