2 years ago my son was killed in a car accident he was 4 months old . at the time all his fathers side of the family made out they where more important to him than i am and hurting more than me for example id say to one of em i feel this way ..... theyd say well how do u think i feel. i said to my brother in law " my son" he said with an attitude hes my nephew but the thing is his 2nd year anniversary was on the 27 this month they didnt even bother to go c him actually they dont see him at all so i know they dont really care not like i do just wondering y they tried to make out at the time. i love my kids i hav 3 im only 21 and id do anything 4 em. people say when u lose som1 it does get easier but it doesnt u just learn to live with the pain it just really pi**es me off how they where and cant understand it y would they do that? when i try talk to em about it i start gettin really pi**ed off and start gettin phyco with it so i cant ask em my self can any 1 else help me ?
2007-07-31 02:03:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One word...GUILT
People who feel guilty about things they didn't take the time to do - time to spend, always come out with the competition of "I loved them more" or "I did more" and so on...
Take pity on them - inside they are tearing themselves to shreds over the fact that they have no more chances to actually try and get things right.
Let it roll off you like water off a duck's back - you aren't going to change them - let them be in their competition with themselves.
2007-07-31 02:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Hon...
I'm so sorry. I can not even begin to imagine your grief and sorrow....
I have posted two groups below for parents who have lost children.. Perhaps interacting with others who have had the same experiences might help you in the grieving process.
You can start by helping yourself. Is it that important what your husband's family thinks? Apparently, they lack compassion for YOU and haven't put themselves into your shoes.
Grief is not about who is hurt the worst... i hope you can find some good support in the groups listed here. xo hugs!
2007-07-31 09:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately there are jerks in the world. great big huge jerks in your case. try talking to the kids dad and see if that makes you feel better. otherwise try to limit as much time as you can with that side of the family, because you just can't make someone change. especially when those people are that self involved.
sorry about your loss.
2007-07-31 09:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋