Okay im like 18 now and my parents won't let me stay up after 10, tonight i got lucky since im at a freends house. I can't stay out past 10 either. I mean im legal now, the least they can do is make my curfew 12AM.
How do i change their minds. Im not a bad person or anything.
2007-07-30 15:23:43 · 16 answers · asked by SP. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
wow i have a job and im a senior in high school now. college comes next year wise guy.
2007-07-30 15:30:19 · update #1
im not into getting sh*it faced and passing out drunk or smoking, thats not my style.
2007-07-30 15:32:25 · update #2
your parents can say when they are gonna lock the doors for the night and not let anybody in, but they cannot control how late you stay up/out. you are an adult
2007-07-30 17:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sabby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im sure you are not a bad person as you have excellent parents. So so many teens do not get enough sleep. Why not set up a nice dinner with them where you discuss the fact that now that you are legal age, you would appreciate it if they would recognize you as the state does as an adult. You think that if you are reading or watching tv you should be able to stay up later and on special occasions out later . As long as you are living in their home you have to follow rules though. I think their rules are good during school but if you dont have to be up at a certain time during summer maybe they just want to have a household schedule where the house is quiet. Study hard in school so you can get a great job and have your own place and stay up all night.
2007-07-30 15:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think they are being unreasonable, but I'm not your parent. It comes down to this, you are living in their house and being supported by them. You don't get to make the rules and your choice is to either live by them or move out.
I would suggest strongly that you lose the entitlement attitude and simply write a letter stating your case. I wouldn't ask for 12, I would start with 10:30. Ask them if that works out would they consider 11 after 3months. I would include the why your behavior deserves this. I would put down all the things you do without asking, like laundry, keeping your room clean, cleaning the bathrooms, running errands and if you have them, entertaining your brothers and sisters. I would point out that you have good grades and are well behaved, never having to be told twice to do something. I think you get the picture, state your case in an adult fashion, and see if you can sway them.
2007-07-30 15:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be a bad person, and your parents aren't doing this because they think you're a bad person either. As corny as this sounds they are just trying to protect you and keep you healthy. Parents get a lot of pressure about raising their kids right. They take pride in doing the "right thing" for their kids. I know an early bed time may not be much, but they may just think "Well, at least my kid is getting enough sleep."
There isn't much you can do to change their minds: if you try to rebel they may just lay on the restrictions harder. If you don't rebel, you may think that you are giving in too easily without a fight.
I use to have a bed time at 10 as well.. and this was in high school! How I usually got around it was staying up til 10:05... then maybe 5 minutes later the next week.. and so on.. I know that may not be much but you're parents will see that you are fine staying up a little past ten.
Eventually they will ease up on this because it's just a natural process. I always used the excuse that I had too much homework and needed to stay up to finish.
The not staying out til past 10 thing isn't so bad on a weekday.... maybe you can compromise with them about staying out until 11 on weekend (non school nights). Find ways to compromise with your parents. You can't have it all your way. Your decision to talk calmly and respectfully with them may show them you are more capable of adult habits (such as staying up later).
Remember to talk to them rationally.. I know you may want to scream at them for being unfair... but honestly... that goes no where unless you are a spoiled brat (which I don't think you are!) so good luck with all this!
2007-07-30 15:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by silentstar53 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your parents house your parents rules....you might try sitting them down and talking to them like adults and try to show them that you are mature enough now to pick your own curfew, just give them the highlights and say think about it and give them a few days then ask if they had come to any conclusions...in the mean time doing a few extra chores and not causeing any drama would help your situation
good luck
2007-07-30 15:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Build your case. You graduated from highschool, have a job, are responsible, have no traffic tickets or driving accidents, etc. Show them how responsible you are. But if your parents are like mine were ("as long as you live in this house you will obey our rules") then you will have to move out.
2007-07-30 15:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
3 things you should do mean what you say do what you say and live by example. Then you can gradually ease into calming their fears. You see, it is not you. It is all the fears the media tells us about. Stop blaming them for wanting to protect you in the ONLY way they know how
2007-07-30 15:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move out and make your own curfews I never had a curfew after I was 18 so it was often 3-4am i'd rock home after at night at the pub.
2007-07-30 15:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by wilo_chick 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Most parents believe "as long as you are under my roof"you abide by my rules.You can solve your curfew problem by getting your own place to live.
2007-07-30 15:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by Vermillion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from what I heard you are a bad person ho.
shut up barthebear you don't know her, i'm the friends house who she is over
2007-07-30 15:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by J c0uture 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋