Family - July 2007

2007-07-30 07:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My family (my parents and my siblings) had a falling out with my dad's side of the family when I was about 10. I am now in my 20's and I am meeting some of these people for the first time. It was fine at first, but today I was frustrated

My grandma's sister (my great-aunt) was talking to me today, and basically told me that my dad was at fault for the falling-out. I know it wasnt just my parents fault for making the decision to not have us be around the family anymore. They treated my (adopted) sister like trash, and also treated my mom poorly. My dad stood up for my mom and my sister, and that is why we arent around them anymore. I know that it was a hard decision for him to make, and he did ask them to stop treating them that way, and warned them that we wouldnt stay around with that kind of verbal/emotional abuse...

I didnt say anything because I was shocked and upset, but should I go back and defend my parents, or leave it alone?

2007-07-30 06:58:17 · 7 answers · asked by Marie Catherine 4

I am beginning to feel a little ignored. My husband is over seas and has been for the last 11 months. We have 2 young children, so lets just say there isn't a dull moment in my life. I am always very busy with the kids. Our youngest is 2 and oldest is 4. I try to keep in touch with family, and I know I could probably do a MUCH better job at making phone calls and such....I'm a big emailer because its so much more convienant for me, so this is my primary way of keeping in touch. However, I find it hard to get around to this because I'm unders o muchstress and I'm sad alot of the times missing my husband and well, you can imagine. My sister in law calls me everyonce in a while, but my b.in law doesn't. I think maybe I'm being a bit paramoid and feel guilty for not keeping lines of communication wide open...but sometimes I think, neither my sister in law nor my brother in law have kids. Am I selfish for thinking that if they cared they would see how we are doing?

2007-07-30 06:22:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm going away to college this fall and my dad pays child support to my mom. When I come back, I will stay with my friend. Should I get emancipated so I can get the money since my mom won't have any use for it? My tuition is paid for and if I get the money, I will be able to pay for my dorm for the rest of school. I would ask my family but I need to have time to think about it before it gets announced on the loudspeaker

2007-07-30 06:15:10 · 6 answers · asked by Emily L 2

2007-07-30 05:33:26 · 5 answers · asked by JOJO 2

im not sorry for being bad, i was born bad, i live bad and prpbably will die bad. but i care about my wife, my dad and my grand kids maybe im not that bad (no) maybe there is hope for me yet. let me know if their is any hope to maybe be a good bad

2007-07-30 05:01:21 · 6 answers · asked by tom c 3

i'll try keep this short...
during my childhood i moved around quite a lot coz my mam kept getting different jobs. i accepted this as part of life, but we've moved around so much that i've lost a part of me.
i've moved places like 4 times now, and i've just had enough. all my friends live ages away, my new school expects too much from me, and i'm surrounded by nasty people who put me down.
i've told her countless times that i'm unhappy with everything that's going on but she just tells me to accept it and grow up. i can't accept it though. i can't stand being so down every day, but she wants me to feel happy but i can't. i can't be happy just coz she wants me to.
i've told her that i self-harm but she asks for a "rational" reason. i can't get any more rational than that.
i would live with my dad but he hardly has any money to look after himself, let alone me.
i feel like i can't be happy even if i tried coz all my confidence has gone and i feel like i can't get it back

2007-07-30 04:55:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My mom and I have moved in with her fiance and his brat. He's like a spoiled 5 year old but he's 14. He's constantly messing up stuff on my computer my xbox 360 both that I bought with my money. He steals my money. Last week he got enough money to buy a wii the day after 150 dollars of mine disappeared and I have no way to prove that he took it. Thanks for all your help!

2007-07-30 04:15:28 · 6 answers · asked by Destiny S 1

Well my dad used to be an alcoholic when i was younger. When my mom filed for divorce, he quit, went through classes and became sober again. He''s been great for around 6 or 7 years now. But lately he's been sneaking beer. I found a six pack in his truck behnd his seat. One day my mom told him that she would be staying at her mom's (my grandma's) for the night so they could plan a cruise with her. When she changed her mind, and came home, my dad was drinking a beer and watvching tv. He said " i thought u were staying the night" adn my mom told him she changed her mind. I'm going on a cruise thats 4 days long and i am afraaid my dad will start drinking while we are gone. My mom said that if he does, we're moving aaway becasue she doesnt want to go thru that agian. What should i di? i dont want to leave my dad and i dont want him to start drinking again! help pleas!!!!

2007-07-30 03:40:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

When my husband and I got married none on his family wanted to be there. Neither his dad or brother would stand up with him so his uncle did. His mom and did not want to come to the wedding, but since we envited friends of the family they came to been seen only. His sister and brother refused to come. I have been told by many people that they talk about me behind my back. They refuse to ask us on family vacation when they invite is brother and sister. I have been as nice as I can to them. We loaned them a fridge when theirs went out and it took 2 years to get it back. They parked thier camper in our driveway for the winter without even a thank you. They go and get there other grandchild but will not even come and see ours. They can drive past our house on the way to his sisters and not stop. I have been band from there house before because I wanted to know why they hate me. They say my husband should have married this other girl and bring her up alot. My marriage is in trouble. Help!!!

2007-07-30 03:30:27 · 14 answers · asked by Confused 1

I am referring to all the questions about the McCann's, and similar. Yes, they did a bad thing and I'm sure they are paying for it every day. But what happened to forgiveness?

I am sure that little Maddy, wherever she is, isn't thinking - "I hate my parents for leaving me" or similar. If she is able to see the horrible things being said about her parents, I'm sure it won't help her.

Please, let's stop the witch hunt! Can we focus on trying to find this little girl and put all our energy into that?

2007-07-30 02:11:25 · 14 answers · asked by PrettyKitty 5

I can't do anything. I can't go out, I can't play inside (games) and it's summer vacation. My mom says she has to take care of us so she stays inside 24/7. It's me and my brother, we're both 19. It's ruined the relationships with our friends, it's made her paranoid too. I can't watch movies on our HBO because my parents puts on Parental Control. We couldn't get a job this year because we had to go to another country with my parents on vacation (even though we didn't want to) and there's no time until school starts. I don't get it, we get good grades, we always respect them, we never hurt anyone. I feel like I'm trapped in a cage.

When my dad comes home, my mom tells him everything that happened, most of them are stuff like; they didn't take the dog out today, they didn't cook for our guests etc. The only connection we have to the outside is the internet, but she keeps taking away our modems and our laptops. It's a complicated situation for us. Is this normal?

2007-07-30 01:21:26 · 7 answers · asked by Vii8o8 1

She just turned 4 and she is from a woman I was told had an affair with my husband. But we won't go there. Anyway there is so much going on I took some things to my husbands dad the other day and I was told that this girls mother is going around telling all sorts of crap to strangers about me and my husband and my son and his family.She told my mother in law I abuse her kid, I don't even spank the child.She told at work I am a fat lazy 2 faced trouble making whore. That I beat my husband. No I do Not.She told that I sit around all day and he comes home and cooks, and cleans, does the house work and mows the yard. That all I do is spend money and run the streets whoring around. Then the one that really mad me mad is she told that my son has gone back to drinking and He has Been Sober 3 years. She told that my husband calls her 4 or 5 times a day asking for her to run off with him and or move in our home so her can screw her instead of me.I have questioned my husband he just gets mad.

2007-07-30 00:26:53 · 1 answers · asked by bjwill72961 2

my parents and relatives have clearly stated their opinions on gay people before and they're not good. as far as they're concerned, gay is wrong and it is a sin. i find myself every night, in confidence, crying myself to sleep because i know my parents prefer my younger brother(16) who is better than me at everything, is popular at school, (i am known as HIS brother), more than they ever would me. i ask myself, if god made everyone a certain way, why am i like this? Now, how could i ever come out to them now. I will only be a disgrace. I love them more than ANYTHING in the whole world. im scared, i feel lonely and am ashamed i am this way so much

2007-07-29 22:15:51 · 20 answers · asked by scared333 1

I have too many problems in my family to stay at home with them, especially my teenage brothers, this sh**t is making me sick
I'm tired of it, they try to act like they're on my side and I don't even have a friend in this carzy ***, ***** made *** family of mine, I call a family, since my oldest brother and auntie want to take over everything in this family and dictate how everything is supposed to be in the house, it is not their house, don't get me wrong it's not really mine
either, except on paper,but I often wonder if God is testing me,by having go through all of
this stuff and having me think I'm the bad guy
In all of this, and wonder am I the problem
Should I leave and let them duke it out, If so,
I don't give a damn if they do, I want to live my own life, make my own decisions and go by my own rules for once, I'm tired of the unexpected accusations that are often thrown at me, and the random changes that
occur in this house, one minute, you can do this, the next minute yo

2007-07-29 21:13:06 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was at my house and my mom and step dad work all of the time so they are never home. I went out to go hang out with my friends adn my brother stayed home. No the thing about my brother is that he is really over protcetive so he hates it when i dont follow the rules. aHe thinks that because he is 16, 2 years older, he is the boss of me.Well..i was going to my friends party and i stayed there until it was almost my curfew, my curfew it 2:30am. well anyways I had to get a ride and i got home late at like maybe 4am. And he was feakign out. He turned teh sprinklers on me and i got so wet. He then gave me a huge lecture about responsibility. But the thin i <3 is that he didnt even call me. I had my cell, me sidekick 3, and he had my friends house #. Well anyways he told my mom and step dad and they told him to ground me, so now i cant do hang out with my friends for a week and i he took away my cell, sidekick 3, blackberry, ipod, and my laptop. I am about to snap. what do i do?

2007-07-29 19:03:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi All, currently i intend to migrate to Australia. But uncertain of the consequences that might happen on the process of migration. Actually I've got attracted to Australia when we were on our family tour there. I'm not sure whether i'm making a right decision but so far I have not engage any migration agent on this issue. Just need to gather more info on migration. The pros & cons. Any job opportunities for me & husband. Kindly advise.

2007-07-29 19:01:36 · 1 answers · asked by happyfamily 1

I am so pissed, hurt, aggravated you name it I am it.. LOL

My hubby & his sister got into a fight tonight because for the next 30 days I will be watching my 2 niece's while my mother in law is out of town, I don't mind watching them but I was never really even asked, I was pretty much told, 1 of the nieces lives here with her mom (beth the sister) & the other ones does not live here, I love both of my nieces to death, I really don't mind watching them & NO i will not be payed for it, I guess you could say they kinda expect it because I don't work, So I will have 5 kids here with me for 30 days, NO BIGGIE to me, My hubby works nights & He simply told beth to talk to her daughter about not being loud during the day while he is sleeping, she is only 7 & I am sure we will have to remind her a few times hey tone it down a little or you are going to wake up uncle Anthony, I'm really not that worried about it, but my hubby is he is a truck driver... & he is a little worried about it anyway the stupid B-I says my kid is not like yours, Your kids are worse. she was saying her kid is better than ours with my kids right there listening to her, She goes up stairs & slams the door as loud as she can & wakes up my daughter, & I went up there to talk to my daughter who is 12 by the way & she asked what was going on, & I said nothing don't worry about it, & then my daughter tells me that she heard Beth say F*** Racheal & her kids its not like her kids do anything around here, OH HELL NO, its one thing to say it, but she knew damn well she woke up Caltyn, & she would here it, I was NOT even in their argument, I always stay out of their arguments, Why the hell is she cussing me out ??? My kids do enough around here, & quite honestly I do not see it as any of her business as to what they do & do not do, MY kids are not perfect but Neither is hers I would NEVER say something like that to her or her kid, Her daughter was mad because beth was not paying attention to her one time & to get it she said hey mom F*** off What did the stupid B I do NOTHING... I was sitting right there & she did nothing, Her daughter who I love to death is a hateful little *****, Who likes to rub it in people's faces what she has & other kids don't, Just like her mom, Nothing is said about it, cause beth (aka B I) sees nothing wrong with it ask her she will tell you even... But I would never say my kids are better than hers DEF not infront of her kid... The kids did not even know what was going on & I had no clue how to explainit to them, She even made a comment walking up the stairs to them about Lexi being better than them, F*** HER, I called her sis whom she was on the phone with while this was all going on & asked her if she did say what my daughter had said she said I do believe my daughter, but wanted an adult to confirm it & all she said is she is staying out of it & she is getting off the phone Even though everytime she calls me to vent about the same person I sit there & listen & try to give her advice, But NOOOO I need someone to talk to & she don't care Screw her as well, I am doing them both a favor they would never do for me.. I have been with their brother for 10 years & not once have they ever watched my kids I have always watched theirs I even kept Lexi for 2 years while her mom was at work.. I am not the person who likes confrontation, But I refuse to talk to her anymore period.... She is a hateful person, & right now all I want to do is freaking cry, I have never done anything to her but be nice & do everything to help her out in every-way i can & She is going to sit there & say all that crap about me right in front of my daughter, AGHHHHHH.. I am so tempted to tell her tomorrow morning find someone else to watch your kid, Because quite honestly if she really thinks her kid is better than mine than, & she is going to say F*** racheal she dont do anything around here anyway, She can kiss my A** & I dont want my kids around her, & I will show her just how much I dont do around here, She can do her own dishes, she can clean up after her daughter, she can cook her daughters meals for the next month Sorry I am just really upset right now... Am I wrong to be

2007-07-29 18:49:31 · 8 answers · asked by bite_me_harder_28 2

ok. so my parents are divorced. they are both remaried and i have a 2 step brothers, 4 real brothers, 1 step sister, and 1 real sister. Both of my sister live with my dad. So do all of my brother except for one, a real one. Me and him live with my mom. My dad and his new wife are on vacation and didnt want to take the kids with them so they are stayign with us, i have no promblem with that. Well anyways the second day into them staying my oldest step brother who is 15, a little more than a year loder than me, who i met only once, was the only one home other than me. He invited some of his friends over, and as i was gettign changed, my bedroom has a balcony, i had my top over my head and i heard a noise so i turned towad my balcony doors and saw my step brother and about 7 of his friends watching me change. I didnt know what to do so I ran to my bathroom. Wh at should I do? How should I act around him? Help!! Plz.

2007-07-29 18:45:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 16. My mother told me that she has made an appointment for me to see a psychiatrist because there are "a lot of things wrong with me." My mother is a very controlling, angry woman. She is 50, she's amazing and can do a lot of amazing things, but she is bitter and has driven both of my sisters out of the house. My father ignores everything and is very passive. She has put me down for as long as I can remember (I was an accident.), and my sisters agree that she treats me the worst (though she was horrible to them as well). I don't see anything wrong with me, nor does anyone else I talk to about this. I make good grades in advanced classes. I have good friends, and a good boyfriend who treats me wonderfully. I do my chores, I've learned to control myself so I don't egg her on when she's angry, I do my homework and everything without being asked. I'm interested in art, but she insists it's a waste of time. She won't even let me spend the night at my friend's houses anymore. Help

2007-07-29 18:29:32 · 8 answers · asked by Loo 1

My grandmother treats me as if the fugitive slvae act is still going on, my younger brother is a racist against me, my older brother yells at me, and my Mom won't even look at me or talk to me. Let alone say hello. I sleep on the floor, I live in a Senior Citizen Home with me Grandmother, I hardly get any food. I am so thin you can see most of my bones! I no longer go to school so I turned to shy again and now have anger issues. My life is pathetic and I don't think I can make it through. I really am thinking of suicide. Tho I am only 15. My best friend online said to not think that way and say that I am better than anyone. Doesn't help. Every night I cry myself to sleep. I really need help! I don't think I can live like this anymore. Please answer my question! ( Also : My dad has been dead since the day I was born )

2007-07-29 18:21:33 · 10 answers · asked by jamiefan9 1

ok i am 17 years old and have a one year old.. i am going to get my GED because i dont have the money to pay for my daycare so i am getting a full time job... how can i get emancipated so that my mom can not hold my son over my head when ever she is mad at me.. i have a place to live and just need to know how i can go aout this... please help me

2007-07-29 17:15:55 · 13 answers · asked by crazynlove0922 1

My husband had a daughter as teenager. They were both very young and could not provide for themselves so they moved to another state in order to be closer to the girlfriend's parents. They lived with one of the girlfriends siblings. Later, the sibling got evicted and all got thrown out on street. His girlfriend moved back with her parents but they didn't let my husb stay. My husb needed a surgery immediately & his dad asked him to come home. My husb's girlfirend at the time,took that as offense. She met someone else meantime who she married later on. my husband had good intentions but he never saw his daughter. He didn't have the finances back then and the little money he had, he was paying child support. Ex pushed him in a corner and made him sign papers for his daughter to be adopted by her husband. I met my hubby after all was set & done. I help him track down his ex. We contacted her saying he wants to meet his daughter. Ex said she is not sure what to do. The daught is 17. Help!

2007-07-29 16:51:44 · 7 answers · asked by Donna M 4

What I mean is, she is mixed up with a really bad guy, he is into drugs and they got an apartment. Should I go over there and bring her to my house and try to talk some sense into her. Is it even worth trying? She is only 21, our parents are dead.

2007-07-29 16:05:36 · 16 answers · asked by don't hate snowflake 3

Ok, My Ex boyfriend and i have a 5 year old together. Last year we went through a custody battle. Now in the state of arizona i automatically had custody prior to the courts ruling that because we were never married. He has known for the last 3 years of my intention to move to Oklahoma with my now Fiance'. Even during the court trial he stated that he was fine with me moving to oklahoma. Now all of a sudden today i told him my move was imminent. As required by arizona state law i gave him 60 days notice. Now he thinks he all of a sudden has a problem with me leaving the state even though he told the judge that he had no problems with it. Now since i have soul custody can he actually appeal my move and keep me from leaving? As i would not actually be interferring in his custody only his visitation which i will gladly work out with him before the move and have it on file at the courts. The A.R.S. did not state weather his appeal could only apply to joint custody scenario's so......

2007-07-29 15:59:27 · 5 answers · asked by Sebring6969 2

No one ever gets along, & they don't even have family reunions.

2007-07-29 15:33:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi there, wondering what was your most fun stage of your childrens' lives. (eg- toddler, baby, teen, pre-teen) and why?
Thanks!

2007-07-29 15:18:50 · 7 answers · asked by Renesme 5

why i ask this is because my ex is using again, and has one of those ankle things on that is suppose to be monitoring it, but apparently it isn't working?He is on parole, & just got a student loan, & was seen spending over $1000 on crack. We have a child and he has been fighting to see her, but has lost everytime due to his past criminal history, abuse, etc.evidence was overwhelming.I wanted to hire a PI to watch him, just in case he tries to get our court orders overturned.I was hoping he was really clean this time, at least for our 5 year olds sake.anyone have advice? or know how I can get his PO to do a drug test would show the crack? I heard it only lasts a few hours to only a day in the system. thanks in advance

2007-07-29 15:16:52 · 7 answers · asked by jen e 2

hELLO. im 18 years old turning 19 and im a guy. My dad is going crazy. I think i should move out. here is what happend. He doesn't like smoking but i smoke and and its so hard to stop but i'am trying but u know..u can't quit just like that..at least for me.. He caught me smoking a few times but yesrterday was the worst. He threatened to kill me if i smoke again literally. He said He will cut my head off..and yesterday he got so mad that he started hitting me and for the first time blood came.. I know this sounds silly but this is a big deal for me.. And he's cursing in front of my mom and all and saying i will kill you . I just can't take it anymore. I want to quit smoking but I can't just quit like that. In my opinion, i think he is making a very big deal out of it..and i can't live like this .. I don't know i'am planning to move out by myself..do you think i should ..anyway help me..thankx (but then again-i don't want to leave my mom eathier) but what do you think.

2007-07-29 14:45:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 14 and gonna be a freshmen in high school. I was looking forward to going to school with all my friends, when suddenly my dad gets a job, and says we're moving. The place we're going is in the same state, it's about a four hour drive, but it's totally different. It's way more expensive, so we have to get a house half the size of what we have now. And we're getting our house built so we have to live in an apartment for 6 months!! I've never lived in an apartment for more than 30 days and it's really small and my entire family (my parents and sister) have to share the same bathroom. Right now, we are living in a pretty big, 3600 square foot house, with 5 bedrooms, a study, a living room, a family room, a huge kitchen, and a pool. We're not gonna have any luxiories like that any more. And my parents are saying that they'll save a lot more money for my college cause I wanna be a doctor and go to med school. So then I feel bad for them......(continued)

2007-07-29 13:18:06 · 9 answers · asked by Stephi 2