hELLO. im 18 years old turning 19 and im a guy. My dad is going crazy. I think i should move out. here is what happend. He doesn't like smoking but i smoke and and its so hard to stop but i'am trying but u know..u can't quit just like that..at least for me.. He caught me smoking a few times but yesrterday was the worst. He threatened to kill me if i smoke again literally. He said He will cut my head off..and yesterday he got so mad that he started hitting me and for the first time blood came.. I know this sounds silly but this is a big deal for me.. And he's cursing in front of my mom and all and saying i will kill you . I just can't take it anymore. I want to quit smoking but I can't just quit like that. In my opinion, i think he is making a very big deal out of it..and i can't live like this .. I don't know i'am planning to move out by myself..do you think i should ..anyway help me..thankx (but then again-i don't want to leave my mom eathier) but what do you think.
2007-07-29 14:45:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was in a similar situation, not about smoking though. I understand that you don't want to leave your mom there with her, because you feel the need to protect her. However, I am going to tell you something that took me years to learn - she chose to stay with him, and you can chose to leave. Your old enough, your a man now, its time for you to start living like one. Get out. Maybe you might get a place that you mom might want to escape to every now and again. I'm not agreeing with you smoking, but never should you be threatened or beaten, no matter what the reason or excuse that is used. It will be tough out there for you for a while, but in the long run, it will save you your sanity.
2007-07-29 14:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 and he's 32. My dear it might not work out. He might not answer your calls because he probably has a girl friend and is just using you for a fun time. I'm sorry you have so much emotion in this relationship but do you really know anything about him? Like where does he live? And does he let u go visit him? Can you only call him sometimes and around a certain hour? I think that since your so young this really is'nt true love. Your probably are looking for someone to pay attention to you and you just wanna feel loved and this other guy does it for you . Thats fine theres nothing wrong with that . You should try to work it out w/ your bf since you have alot of history together and if you can see past the other stuff if u can't move on to better pastures.
2016-05-17 08:13:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being silly to say that at 19 you can't stop smoking. You've probably barely begun and even if you have been smoking for a few years, you aren't as hooked as you will be in 20, 30, 40... years. You're not into it that long yet where it would be that difficult to quit.
Just quit the nasty habit. Save yourself a terrible scene with your family and hard feelings; save yourself a wad of money, save your life, be able to go anywhere nonsmokers go - it's just a hassle to smoke, man.
2007-07-29 14:55:44 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are old enough to be out on your own. Move in with some friends and put the bad scene behind you. Its not like you are never going to see them again. Just don't even have the cigs with you when you stop bye to visit. I was out of the house while I was still in High School. The best thing I ever did. Got a job and a girl and a life. Go for it.
2007-07-29 14:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Traveler 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
serious probob. if i were u i would get a restraining order or talk to your local police dept something along that line. your father is physically abusing you and threatening your life- it should be reported. if you move out you may put your mother at the mercy of your father. also think about all the different "stop smoking" options. there's the patch, gum, pills... get an accountability partner tht you can call anytime you think you need a cig. i hope everything works out for you.
2007-07-29 14:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by sammy1611 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you try to go into a program with a therapist to stop smoking? Maybe the nicotine stickers or however you call them that you can put on your arm can help too. But definitely you need to talk to your dad, maybe with your mom's help, so you can explain him how hard it is for you to leave it but that you will work on it and give him concrete ideas, so he will know for sure that you really wanna leave smoking. Because promises are always coming and going but with real ideas can show the other person that you're really thinking on it.
2007-07-29 14:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by illi 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋