I am beginning to feel a little ignored. My husband is over seas and has been for the last 11 months. We have 2 young children, so lets just say there isn't a dull moment in my life. I am always very busy with the kids. Our youngest is 2 and oldest is 4. I try to keep in touch with family, and I know I could probably do a MUCH better job at making phone calls and such....I'm a big emailer because its so much more convienant for me, so this is my primary way of keeping in touch. However, I find it hard to get around to this because I'm unders o muchstress and I'm sad alot of the times missing my husband and well, you can imagine. My sister in law calls me everyonce in a while, but my b.in law doesn't. I think maybe I'm being a bit paramoid and feel guilty for not keeping lines of communication wide open...but sometimes I think, neither my sister in law nor my brother in law have kids. Am I selfish for thinking that if they cared they would see how we are doing?
2007-07-30 06:22:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are not selfish for thinking it, but neither would you be right. We all have busy lives. Let them know you'd like to get together. A visit would allow you the opportunity to express how lonesome you get, and how glad you are that they came over. That should open their eyes a bit, and communications too. Hang in there and be kind to yourself. Raising a family is not easy even with your spouse there.
2007-07-30 06:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jann 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being home alone raising children is hard a stressful, add in that your husband is overseas, no wonder you get stressed! Are there other military mom's close by? Sometimes talking to someone else who is in the same position helps. What is it exactly that you want from them? Is it just a phone call to say "Hi" how are you doing? Are you staying in touch with your family and friends, too? Have you thought about searching for a chat room designed for military wives? Hang in there, hubby will come home and things will get less stressful. In the meantime try to find others to help you get through this time.
2007-07-30 06:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by TC 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They have their own lives. Family members are not friends. Try to reach out to others in your area, such as church or volunteering. You sound very sweet. I'm sure you will make some of the types of friends you are looking for in no time. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-07-30 06:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone's family is different. They may think that since you never tried to reach out to them before that you don't need anyone to talk to. They probably think you want to keep to yourself like you have been doing. A way to solve the problem though is to reach out to them to say hello, as a way to get the ball rolling. Don't wait around waiting on the other to call. It's always times like that when you waited to late.
2007-07-30 07:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by it's me again 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about you try finding other mums with similar age kids in your area?
that way you can go out together during the day
but single and childless couples live life at a very different pace compared to when you have small children so dont write off your sis and bro in law yet - just that their awareness and needs are different than yours - why not find folks similar to yourself instead?
2007-07-30 06:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your inlaws need to be more sensitive to the fact that at this time and point in your life, you are raising 2 young children on your own and all the responsibilities are falling on your shoulders. They need to do their part in communicating with you too and instead of expecting you to do all the work, they should call and/or visit you and the kids and give you a helping hand.
2007-07-30 06:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
nope if you were my sister in law and had kids i would be at the very least calling too see how the kids are doing every family is different though i feel for ya
2007-07-30 06:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by hef1953 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you prefer e-mail over phoning people, but you're mad at other family members for feeling the same way?
2007-07-30 06:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Le BigMac 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are yours and no one should deny them. however you are a grown woman, if you need help or just someone to talk to let them know.
2007-07-30 06:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not .where is your family.
2007-07-30 06:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by Beckles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋