My family (my parents and my siblings) had a falling out with my dad's side of the family when I was about 10. I am now in my 20's and I am meeting some of these people for the first time. It was fine at first, but today I was frustrated
My grandma's sister (my great-aunt) was talking to me today, and basically told me that my dad was at fault for the falling-out. I know it wasnt just my parents fault for making the decision to not have us be around the family anymore. They treated my (adopted) sister like trash, and also treated my mom poorly. My dad stood up for my mom and my sister, and that is why we arent around them anymore. I know that it was a hard decision for him to make, and he did ask them to stop treating them that way, and warned them that we wouldnt stay around with that kind of verbal/emotional abuse...
I didnt say anything because I was shocked and upset, but should I go back and defend my parents, or leave it alone?
2007-07-30
06:58:17
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Marie Catherine
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I really appreciate the feedback. I think that while I didnt respond verbally she saw that I was angry and walked away really fast. Im a really easy-going person, so its not as if I get angry all of the time....
If she says anything again, I am going to make it clear that I will not discuss this with her, and that I stand behind my father's choice. I dont feel like arguing with her about it, because this is 10+ years of anger self-pity that has built up.
I am happy with my family, and while it has not been easy to grow up without an extended family I wouldnt trade the happiness of my mom and sister for anything....
2007-07-30
08:37:00 ·
update #1