My husbands mother is a total evil woman. Right now my husband and I are renting in his sisters ( that she does not live in) house due to financial hardship. We are not on the lease but she is allowing us to stay there so that we can save some money to get us an apartment. The building that we live in, his mother not only lives in but is like the head master of the building. She has a set of keys to every apartment, but feels that since this is her daughters apartment she can come in when ever she likes. She does not like me and does not want me there at all so I told her that I was staying some where else. Now even with her thinking that I am living at another residence she told the landlord that I stay there and the landlord is threatening to evict his sister form the apartment. I dont have anywhere else to go but I dont want anyone to get in trouble behind any of this. What should I do?
2007-07-31 02:48:03 · 14 answers · asked by Scooby 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you are sub letting your sister in laws apartment it is probably against the owners policy and the evil woman who reported you knows that. this evil woman is the mother of your husband and his sister? so she ratted out her own daughter and her son as well? what a blankety blank! she would rather her son be on the streets than to be under a roof with you. i don't know why you told her you weren't staying there. you are married and are expected to live together. if she doesn't want you there then she doesn't want her son there. tell her it is both or noone. your husband needs to tell het to butt out of his life or he won't see her any more
2007-07-31 02:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm wondering why your husband doesn't stick up for you and tell his mother that you are his WIFE and if you go then he goes????? Why hasn't he explained that you are saving up for an apartment and that this is only a temporary thing that his sister agreed to. Why hasn't the sister told her mother this upfront so that there were no situations like this one???
Wow. Not much thinking went into this whole thing. If his mother doesn't like you then there isn't much you can do about it. Sneaking into an apartment and "pretending" to live elsewhere really doesn't help her like you much now does it? His mother is not dumb enough to fall for that feeble story. I wonder why she acts this way...perhaps you all give her a good reason to act "evil". She is just doing her job after all.
I know that sounds harsh but you and your family are not acting very mature about this.
2007-07-31 10:00:35 · answer #2 · answered by Jill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be selfish of you to get your sister-in-law evicted, she's an innocent bystander.
Maybe you and your husband can go talk to some churches to see if they'd be willing to help the situation. Y'all are paying sister rent....maybe y'all can apply for a payday loan to put toward your own home.
Take your focus off of MIL, ignore her, she's causing too much stress.
My MIL stop talking to my hub for 3months when we got married....whew that was so peaceful.
After he limited his contact, she got a clue and started treating us a whole lot better. I guess she suffered from "mama's boy syndrome" .
Now we can sit in a room together for hours and we have a good time and we're respected. The process was hard but prayer changed things.
Good Luck!!!
2007-07-31 10:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by Janine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do your best to find a cheap apertment for you and your husband. I don't agree with your MIL, but it might save you the headache and hassle, and your husband the pain and trouble (you too) of a family feud. I would also make sure that your sister in law knows that her mother is entering her apartment whenever she wants. Good luck!
2007-07-31 09:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by coopermom2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a new story. Every day we come across such m-in-law vs.d-in-law episodes both in real life and mini screens. In fact mini screen serials are the breeding ground and tutorial for most of the partners in this game. According to me what is lacking in these relationship is:
(a) mutual respect and understanding
(b) effective communication
(c) genuine and selfless dealings
(d) Providing space for each other
(e) above all an active role by the male members in the family (son, father, f-in-law etc)
In most of the cases it starts with minor insignificant issues like too much or too little sugar in tea or coffee; too early or too late eating habits, religious rituals in the homes etc. Later on these are projected through others and they in turn help to add colour and flavour to the issue. It goes to neighbours door and friends circle. Since they are not the loosers, they welcome such entertainments and do their might to expand it as much as possible.
I think, please for heavens sake and for self esteem, do not allow such things happen in ones life. Use the time and available resources effectively and share your thoughts and feelings with all in the family. Each one has to play an important role in a house to make it a lovable home. Avoid criticisms and attempts to change others life style. I am sure you can win confidence of even a toughest m-in-law or d-in-law. Holding the key or pretending that she is in authority can be handled by making her feel that yes; you are the boss and please help me for....
Problem solved?
Cheers
2007-08-01 01:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by villager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you paying rent? if so find a studio apartment and move. You say to save money, grow up and get a job. Your mother inlaw dislikes you for a reason, what is that reason? Fix it and if you can not fix it, if she really is the evil one then move on.
2007-07-31 10:04:20 · answer #6 · answered by Happy and in l love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only choice is to move. If you aren't supposed to be there, you shouldn't be. If your mother-in-law telling the landlord your there can get your sister in trouble, something is fishy. Sleep in your car if you have to, you can make it work.
2007-07-31 09:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is your husband in all this? He should be handling his mother, not you. Find a friend to stay with, its really not worth the drama.
2007-07-31 10:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move & ignore her ignorence. There are alot of controlling people in the world, especially family. & they enjoy getting others worked up, including members of there own family.
2007-07-31 14:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it's your husbands mother, HE needs to talk to her. I can't understand why so many mother-in-laws are like this! I'm sure if you asked your husband to speak to his mother for you, he will. Good Luck!
2007-07-31 09:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Jellybean had her little bean 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋