Family - March 2007

How do I trust people, especially my family? I have been let down by them over the years and have felt excluded from their "inner circle." They only seem to accept me when things go well...when positive things are happening. But the moment negative things occur, they back away and fail to offer much in the way of support (e.g. listening, being there, etc.).

I feel like an outsider in my own family. And that just shouldn't be.

Paul

2007-03-27 12:53:06 · 11 answers · asked by dunric 1

My brother's gf is a real biotch. I can't stand her, she is so rude and kiniving and well, just plain evil. She is no longer allowed in our house because she called my mom a *****. but we know that they are having sexual relations and I know she is evil enough to try trapping my brother by getting pregnant. She is 15, and the laws in GA say that it is illegal to have sex if you're under the age of 16. My brother is too stupid to get rid of her right now, but I want to do something before he really messes up his life!!! what should I do??

2007-03-27 12:40:14 · 24 answers · asked by Maggie 2

My boyfriend tells me how he is so tired of his kids coming home and leaving big messes and he says they are like the trash....the longer they stay the more they start to stink.
He says they move home and act like they are 12 yrs old again and trash everything and expect him to take care of them. He gets really on edge when they are there. He actually locked us into the house for about 3 hours for some privacy together. His son is 29 and just had a new baby and his daughter is 26 and is married. They just live beyond their means and rely on him to bail them out of financial trouble and they move home and mooch basically. They bring their girlfriends, husband and kids and move on in. His daughter told him she wanted to stay for 3 months and ended up 1 yr. How can I help?

2007-03-27 12:38:57 · 19 answers · asked by happydawg 6

My Dad is an alcoholic and two nights ago I finally, after 23 years, told him how it hurts me to see him drunk and how angry it has made me.
Now he isn`t talking to me and our relationship has fallen apart. We`ve always been close.I don`t know what to do. I`m still angry with him because he drinks and won`t stop for the sake of our family, but I don`t want him mad at me for a legitimate feeling I have. What should I do?

2007-03-27 12:33:53 · 12 answers · asked by ALittleLight 2

I'm so mad I could burst...
My mom has always compared me to my depressed aunt and my kind of lazy brother...she always says I remind her of them..."oh you remind me of how nasty my sister was to our mother" blahblahblah...My mother blames EVERYTHING on me. It's always me with the attitude problem, ME who's miserable, me who has issues...when my older brother and my father know my mother has a tendency to have an attitude and act weirdly...
I feel like I'm crazy cuz I don't feel that I'm miserable - I'm 17 and I have a lot going on in my life and yes I'm moody like most teens - and this makes me just want to cry. It's like she constantly wants to make me feel like I'm a terrible person when she doesn't even try to understand me. She probably thinks shes this sweet person - but she's definitely not...she can be SO MEAN!
idk what to do! Am I the one w/ the problem? Is this even normal behavior btwn. mothers & daughters? Anyone else gone thru this? What should I do!?

2007-03-27 12:33:44 · 2 answers · asked by newyorkrose9 3

Do you or did you validate your children as they got/get older? How did you impact as a parent help your child to transition into the "real" world? How important do you think guiding your children helps them not to fall into the cracks if you will?

2007-03-27 12:25:57 · 2 answers · asked by Diva 3

My uncle's brother recently died, not blood uncle. How should I apporach him about it, because he has done a lot for me.

Thing is I'm just not a really emotional person, so how should I apporach him about, so I don't sound inscere or anything?

2007-03-27 12:24:09 · 6 answers · asked by ArchAngel Raziel 3

Do you or did you validate your children as they got/get older? How did you impact as a parent help your child to transition into the "real" world? How important do you think guiding your children helps them not to fall into the cracks if you will?

2007-03-27 12:22:07 · 10 answers · asked by Diva 3

Years ago I was jealous of a realtive who had children and I made snide and mean comments in a round about way that staying at home is not a job because you dont go to work and you have a husband that takes care of everything. Everyone loves a mother with children etc etc etc.

But it is amazing how God can teach you a hard lesson when it comes to your thought patterns that are wordly and not godly.
For almost a month in a half I watched a relatives kids and let me tell you I was in the service insudtry for insurance for 12 years and watching my nieces and nephews was the toughest job I EVER had. I changed diapers, made bottles had very little time to myself. God showed me that being a mommy to these children was no small tasks.

What are ways to educate people and show people the value of being a mom? What are ways to show the postive good affiramtions about being a mom? How can we teach our younr ladies in our lives to respect this awesome calling?

2007-03-27 12:22:05 · 7 answers · asked by encourager4God 5

my children if he doesn't know how to behave and has torn up toys etc. the boy still comes over and i can't seem to understand why his parents or whomever allows him to continue coming over

2007-03-27 12:10:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my life at my mom's house is almost always hell.... i hate it and i am always getting in fights with my mom and stepfather..ever since my mom got married a couple of months ago my stepfather has changed my mom and he has changed too

he at first acted like a really great person and then after he got our permission that he could get married to my mom he acts like a jerk and myn mom has never been the same... she is more mean and she listens to everything my stepfather says and lets him run our lives...i want to go live with my dad full time but i am only 14 and i dont know what to do... i hayte my stepfather and he makes my life a living hell but at my dads house i am always happy and my dad is really nice to me but still i dont know if i should go live with my dad full time or stay half and half withboth my mom and dad...

what should i do???

2007-03-27 12:09:52 · 9 answers · asked by skatergirlcat 2

like me and my best friend were already having issues with each other and when i got my bf we drifted apart and now my parents r forcing us together and their saying that its 'inappropriate' for me to go to his house and they're being really dumb i think. if u have ANY help at all plzzz tell me cuz i just want this all to stop i have enuf trouble with rumors at skool :P

stressed out<3

2007-03-27 12:09:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tell him who he shouldn't go out with and everything. I only do it because I don't want him to get hurt really bad. If he gets hurt that just means I have to do someting about it. Is it right for me to do this?

2007-03-27 12:00:33 · 7 answers · asked by Briann M 2

Moral dilemma!!! Intruding nephew. What should I do?
I just got married on Feb 17 to my fiance of 4 years. Right before this his 21 yearold nephew came out of nowhere and asked my husband to help him get a job. My husband hired him. He would rarely make it to work on time or show up at all. He than asked to move into our house after the wedding so he could get himselg in a position to save money and make it to work. That was the plan. He goes out and parties all the time and still is rarely making it to work. My husband is in a very high position in his company and this is making him look bad. I told my husband that the situation is not working and the kid needs to leave. He tells me I can leave. He comes in at all hours whenever he feels like it. He hasnt given me any money for bills or food and he is a complete slob and wont clean up after himself much less offer to do any daily chores. I also believe he is doing drugs. What should I do? I cant help but think that my brand new marraige is coming to a quick end!

2007-03-27 11:58:31 · 7 answers · asked by vegasgirl 1

My para married a christain and she is so mean to me, one night i went to the youth center and they started dancing and i started dancing to and she claims i was rap dancing and I was just claping my hands and just having a great time trying to make friends. and she said that when i grow up i will be hard to handle, I wasn't doing nothing wrong. What do I do? she treats me like a Baby!

2007-03-27 11:19:06 · 3 answers · asked by kimberly a 1

the song is if i could just dance with my father again. he's not dead yet but wants to be. i so need to talk to someone about the lose of four family members in two weeks. it is so ......

2007-03-27 11:18:07 · 8 answers · asked by kelly d 1

I'm 11 years old. All my friends have one... and I don't! How do I convince them??

2007-03-27 11:17:30 · 6 answers · asked by PloPop 2

My sister and I haven't had a good relationship in 5 years. At that time, she was cheating on her husband and had a boyfriend that she accused me of sleeping with. I never slept with the guy, but she took his word over mine. Also, she lost a fairly substantial money order and never apologized for it. She has a long history of being dysfunctional in our relationship. How do I positively foster the relationship between her and my newly adopted baby? I don't want the issues we have to stand in the way of her relationship with my child. Thanks for your help!

2007-03-27 11:08:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jane Doe 3

oh my gosh, i do not like my mother at all. just this sunday i gave up going to the best show ever just to go with her for her birthday to this restraunt. todays my friends b-day party and she won't let me go. excuse me for my laguage but she acts like a b*tch!!!! you now why???? because my stupid teachersaw me kinda throw this sharpener, cause my idiotic friend aint catch it wen she asked me for it. so the teacher gave me 3 days of 7:30AM detention and my mother goes and takes her side. i hate her!!!!!!! so what should i give her, the silent treatmant, be rebellious, or sneak out???? come on all you rebellious teenagers out there reading this... give me ideas!!!(cruel ones perfered please)) ; [

2007-03-27 11:07:11 · 10 answers · asked by cj_cutie-oh:soprecious 1

My brother is 19 years old and i am 13 and He is mean to me, He blames stuff that i didn't do on me and gets me into trouble by my mom and she yells at me. What do i do to get him to stop?

2007-03-27 10:54:29 · 4 answers · asked by kimberly a 1

My mom died last year in november and my sisters and i had no really money to help pay for the funeral except whatever we could come up with. my aunts called me recently and told me that my grandmother wants my sisters and I to pay back $3000 for the funeral. Not only was I offended but it had nothing to do with my aunt and i work and go to school just trying to make ends meet. But also, my grandmother failed to mention to my aunts that my sister gave her $ 500 and that we were struggling because of bills. I feel upset that my grandmother didn't have the decency to call me and tell that she wanted us to pay her back but then I feel that it's her daughter and my mom had no real assets. I need advice on how to approach this and a way to tell my aunts that they need to stop being so f**king annoying and noisy.

2007-03-27 10:52:37 · 11 answers · asked by ? 3

I'm 25 years old and my Dad is about to remarry. She is annoyingly likeable (as my wife likes to say), but I can't help but feel guilty since my Mom and Dad ended there marriage so angrily just about a year ago.

2007-03-27 10:46:06 · 9 answers · asked by xmanconti 4

My friend has been trying to get a hold of his sisters for some time now. All the info he has is outdated & no good. All he knows for sure is that they're still in Florida. He desparetely needs to speak with them, but he's on a very limited budget. I'm hoping for some good suggerstions that will help him out! Thanks every one!

2007-03-27 10:43:23 · 6 answers · asked by HappyDevil69 1

After a night of drinking and gambling, my father law asked to see me naked! of course I refused..but he asked 3-4 times until my hsband re-entered the room...atv that point I told my husband what happend and we went to bed. The next morning I left and my father in law was crying and apologizing profusely to my husband and then to me over the phone..Monday I got flowers..So my question is do you think that this was some type of grieving thing? Also do Icall and say thak you for the flowers? this is all pretty weird! (No rude comments please)

2007-03-27 10:32:15 · 6 answers · asked by Elizabeth E 2

2007-03-27 10:26:10 · 4 answers · asked by angel_gurl_1005 1

my brother and i don't speak much. he was forced to choose new wife over our family. she says he doesn't want or need any of us. we've always been close so i find it hard to believe that came from him. i am the only family he has nearby. all others are hours away. (they visit alot) he does speak to us if he sees us around town and all is good then and so is out of town holidays. they met one year after he moved up here with me in my house and got married months later. they met in a bar. problem i need help with is....today is his birthday. she and bar owner are having a surprise party for him where they met (they do not attend this bar anymore. ever. i do tho-another long story.) her and bar owner (my friend) made guest list. my family was included on the list. however none of us received the invite she was supposed to send. should our family attend this party for him or not? she doesn't know we know about it since she did not send our invites. she is not paying. owner is.

2007-03-27 10:07:56 · 12 answers · asked by jezbnme 6

2007-03-27 09:55:09 · 10 answers · asked by LauRa 2

as they both claim it is the other ones mess! ive tried dividing the room into 2 halfs for them to look after their own part, but its really not big enough. short of moving into a bigger house what can I do to stop the arguements??

2007-03-27 09:43:59 · 30 answers · asked by caz5316 2

My family moved to Turkey and I miss the USA. I don't understand the language and it is hard in class. I think about the USA 24/7. I want to go back but I can't. We moved here my dad said. I have no friends well some but not like the friends in the USA. The school is.... oh help its just so like my life is falling. Don't understand anything! We live in this small apartment with my mother and father. It’s depressing! It’s not organized like the USA; I mean its ok for vacations but for me not to live. I'm not putting the country down or anything. It’s a lovely country but just not for me. You know what I mean. I have to where a uniform for school and school is not fun like the USA. No programs for people like me in the school. Some times I like it here some times I don't. It’s driving me crazy. I miss our old house my friends, school, teachers. I want to be a pilot but can't understand anything in math here. What can I do, I’m hopeless.
:(

2007-03-27 09:41:20 · 6 answers · asked by American16 1

even though she eventually woke up the daughter was worried. he called the police to check on her and when they arrived she woke up.

2007-03-27 09:30:54 · 6 answers · asked by catwoman 1