the song is if i could just dance with my father again. he's not dead yet but wants to be. i so need to talk to someone about the lose of four family members in two weeks. it is so ......
2007-03-27 11:18:07 · 8 answers · asked by kelly d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is a song that brings tears to my children's eyes all the time they hear it, you see they lost their father in September.
Your dad needs just a little time to adjust to so many deaths in a row in your family and so do you. It sounds as you both might need someone to talk to about it and not each other.
You need to tell your dad that you know he is hurting, but that you are hurting also. Let him know what you have learned from all this and that is you need time with him to build memories because you never know when you are going to leave this earth, and that you want to spend as much time with him as possible to build those memories.
Bless you and your father and know that others are out there for you. There are a lot of on line support groups for both of you and it would help to know you are not alone.
2007-03-27 11:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my sons was killed in a car wreck. He was 18. I have other children and also a grandson. I'm also a Paramedic and see tragedy and death often. From my personal experience, and my professional experience, I suggest calling (right now, not tomorrow) a clergy, school counsellor, or other such person that can help you and your dad or at least put you in contact with someone that can.
Dealing with a tradegy involves grief. There are several steps of grief such as denial, bargaining, anger, acceptance, etc. A person trained in counselling can help you understand what you're feeling and help you through it. Also, you'll benefit from some quiet time alone.
My condolences on your loss.
2007-03-27 18:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by pleaserallday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound like I'm not being compassionate but it's part of life so grieve and go on living the dead don't want you to be unhappy. In fact when a person dies try looking at it like this, if you celebrate there life and understand the finality part of it you may be able to get over your grief faster. It's sad when a loved one doesn't feel like there is hope and doesn't want to go on. Good luck and God bless you.
2007-03-27 19:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depressing.....i lost three family members in death in a matter of thrity days of each other and it was a sickness and two over doses but if you count fighting with siblings since mothers death losing family members then i have lost about six to seven in total over the past few years.....i dont know much about my father he abused my mother and us kids when we were little and as we grew up and now we live about 800 miles away and have tried to keep in touch but he dont really care and he has tried to commit suicide several times but death is really hard but everyone faces it in many different ways but alot in simialar ways.....we just have to find a way to get through it and move forward because it will always leave a void in your life when you lose someone you love very much....
2007-03-27 18:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother passed away in dec. 2006 and its really hard.i think about him 24/7.but even though i cant see him no more i know hes still with me.especially in my heart.i try to remember all the good times we had.i miss him so much.i will never get over it,but it does get easier everyday.just keep your head up,and pray it works.
2007-03-27 19:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by krazygirl30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should go talk 2 a concealer
2007-03-27 18:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what? he wants to be dead?
4 people died? what?
2007-03-27 18:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad...
i hope you know that they are fine and still with you... close your eyes and you still see them in your mind and heart
2007-03-27 18:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋