My sister and I haven't had a good relationship in 5 years. At that time, she was cheating on her husband and had a boyfriend that she accused me of sleeping with. I never slept with the guy, but she took his word over mine. Also, she lost a fairly substantial money order and never apologized for it. She has a long history of being dysfunctional in our relationship. How do I positively foster the relationship between her and my newly adopted baby? I don't want the issues we have to stand in the way of her relationship with my child. Thanks for your help!
2007-03-27 11:08:24 · 6 answers · asked by Jane Doe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
honestly your relationship with your sister will be damaged for all time due to some people cant get over the past and the first mistake she made was chosing a man over her own flesh and blood by taking his word over yours and sisters are suppose to be best friends when in reality some sisters are just bitter rivals.......im sorry but really there is nothing you can do physically to make your sister love you or your child if she sees the mistakes shes made then she will come around only on her terms though she has to see her mistakes though....good luck and if she dont then just like the ole saying goes.....you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink......
2007-03-27 11:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying she doesn't sound like a person I would want in my child's life sister or not. You now have to think of the precious child that you have chose to raise and instill morals and values into.
Just because they are blood doesn't always mean that they are a good influence in your child's life. At one point in her life that she is willing to try and have a relationship with you then that is your opportunity to try and develop The relationship with her.
You can start with letting your child know about your sister when it is old enough to understand siblings but what ever you do do not tell the child about why you don't talk with her, just tell your child you love her but she chooses not to talk with you and you hope she does some day.
2007-03-27 18:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to maintain a relationship via the telephone or email! Phone her on holidays birthday etc. Let her know your still around and thinking of her but by all means keep your distance. She seems to be a self destructive person. Not a good thing for an impressionable child.
2007-03-27 18:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Nick Name 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want her to be a part of your childs life? You want your child to learn to be dysfunctional like her?
I have had to learn to live with my children only seeing my sister at certain family events like thankisgiving and christmas.
There is no need for your children to learn drama from her.
2007-03-27 18:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Carla R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all .. you need to forgive her but that doesn't mean you need to be stuck on stupid about her when she visits. Watch yourself. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve but see if she has had any growth regarding the past. if she doesn't. Let her be a sister. But don't get caught up in her need for drama.
2007-03-27 18:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by DearAbby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were smart, you would keep your child as far away from her as possible. Sometimes being related to someone does not mean that you should hang around that person.
2007-03-27 18:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋