I'm 25 years old and my Dad is about to remarry. She is annoyingly likeable (as my wife likes to say), but I can't help but feel guilty since my Mom and Dad ended there marriage so angrily just about a year ago.
2007-03-27 10:46:06 · 9 answers · asked by xmanconti 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I neglected to mention this woman and my Dad were having an affair before my parent's marriage ended. FYI
2007-03-27 11:01:43 · update #1
You may be a bit upset because of their "affair" which might've caused your parents' divorce. It is normal to feel that way to her however, she is about to become part of your family.
You do not have to love her or show affection if you dont feel like it but I believe you should give her the respect that she is due. She will never replace your mom's position in your life but she makes your father happy.
You should not feel guilty because your mom and dad's marriage was doomed. It just so happens that she was the other woman. Hope and pray that your mom finds a man that would make her happy as much as this woman does to your dad.
Best,
G
2007-03-27 11:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The most important thing to remember is to respect your Dad in spite of any mistakes he has made. It's not wrong to even like your new stepmother but it would be wrong at this point to let your Mom know in any way that you like the step mother.
Her feelings are pretty raw right now and may always be that way.Just try to consider everyones feelings if possible, that's a mature way to handle things.
2007-03-27 18:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Di LV E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you may still feel sad about your parents breaking up, but just think its better off for you Dad. He will be much happier to have a new partner. Your parents have moved on, and the easiest thing is to accept that. Its hard, but you cant change back your parents relationship. You just have to live with it. Anyways, you might like your new stepmother, just act as if shes a good friend. Most likely she will be nice to you back.
2007-03-27 17:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by lydz . x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what, you have to have faith that your father is making the right decision for himself. You should really respect the woman and try to get along with her for your dad's sake. It is normal to have the feelings that you are because of how you feel about your mother, but time does heal and I am sure that things will be fine in the future.
2007-03-27 17:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your dad has every right to move on with his life.he and your mother obviously didnt work out they had issues that couldnt be resolved. there is nothing wrong with your dad getting married again nor is there anything wrong with your mom doing the same if she chooses. You should treat your new stepmom with respect the same as you do your own mother. now she isnt your mom and she isnt going to take her place and probably isnt going to try. just talk to her like a friend. If you like her then be nice to her. if your mom is not happy about this then dont discuss it with your mom keep your dads life to yourself and keep your moms life to yourself.
2007-03-27 17:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat your new stepmother with respect and be friendly. She is pretty much an innocent bystander in this and deserves a chance to fit into the family.
2007-03-27 17:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by sierra33ok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be upset that your Dad is marrying so soon (it seems to me), but being mean or rude to her isn't going to change anything. Have it out with your Dad if you need to, but if she's likable....why not?
2007-03-27 17:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by momof2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
treat her with respect like you should. (even if you dont like her-do that for your dad's sake). but if she is likeable then like her.
2007-03-27 17:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by faded love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treat her with the same respect that you would like her to treat you with.
2007-03-27 17:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋